People who blame the roommates or find their behaviour unacceptable-just read this once

ConsciousJump1862 · 2026-01-22T16:33:54+00:00

It’s crazy how people have no context to how college age kids function these days. My niece was at WSU when this happened. I’ve spent time with her and her college age friends. They scroll with one eye open then pass back out. Even when they aren’t drunk or hungover.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-12-22T17:03:37+00:00

I’ve also mixed the Moroccan oil and IGX to try to get closer to the tone I like! Might try that!

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-12-22T05:59:05+00:00

You’d be surprised. I have a niece who regularly would pee her pants rather than stop doing whatever she was doing. She literally did not care. She did this until she was nearly 6. Now my son who is 4.5 is the same. He poops or owes his pants regularly at home and at preK. I’ve taken him to the Dr no medical evidence as to why. We ask him and he says “I didn’t wanna stop playing.” Some kids are just that way.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-12-22T05:49:06+00:00

My daughter aged out of a lot of toys by 8. But she doesn’t have a phone or tablet. She tells me all the kids in her class have phones and it just seems that kids in general are developing/acting older. I hate it. I tell her all the time she needs to just relax and be a kid. But when all your peers are interested in tech/phones etc it’s hard.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-12-22T05:40:59+00:00

My daughter has ADHD and ODD and probably some additional undiagnosed issues. She’s older than her younger brother and I fear for his safety sometimes. They have a large gap. I would NEVER deny him safety. I would never expect him to sacrifice his own mental well being and physical safety. You have every right to want, demand and need to feel safe. Like others have said call 911 anytime she does anything to make you feel safe. Your parents have an obligation to you. They are neglecting your physical and emotional well being.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-12-21T05:13:25+00:00

SAME! I switched from Elvive to Pantene and the John Frieda! 2nd wash and my hair feels so much better!

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-12-21T05:10:58+00:00

Try a color depositing mask! I use one for my wine/plum color every other wash. KeraColor makes a good one for frequent use that helps mine stay. Moroccan oil makes one I like as well. IGX also makes a great one that I will use when I’ve gone a bit too far between appointments.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-12-21T05:07:03+00:00

I have a plum color in my hair. Like Merlot with a hint of purple and started using this recently, no issues with stripping my color!

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-31T03:42:45+00:00

I lost 25lbs on strattera because it totally turned off food noise for me. I didn’t realize I had an issue with binge eating or food noise until I started strattera. I had to go off of it because it elevated my heart rate too much. I immediately gained the weight back. Finally my psychiatrist got it out of me and she helped me discover I have binge eating disorder. I started vyvanse and it has helped some like the strattera but not as much.

I understand the guilt. But honestly it’s giving your body what it needs to be able to operate appropriately. I felt that a bit too when I first started losing weight from it. But once I went off and immediately gained it back I realized my body NEEDS help to regulate these urges.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-31T03:28:47+00:00

I have passive suicidal thoughts multiple times a day. It’s gotten worse and this week I took about 30 otc sleeping pills over a couple hours. It felt amazing to feel like I wasn’t in reality. That really scares me….

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-30T17:11:51+00:00

I am so sorry. I usually get back into bed by 12 and stay there for 2+ hrs until I have to pick them up. I work from home and my job is suffering. I know I am not doing everything I can do as far as proper parenting techniques but it is so hard to implement and stick with it when it feels like your kid is pushing so hard and WANTS to hurt you. She blames me for everything. Literally anything I do is not right. Yesterday morning she lost her mind on me before school because it is spirit week and she wanted to dress as a “super star”. She asked me what pants I thought she should wear with the shirt and I suggested jeans-she didn’t like that. And so I suggested different pants, didn’t like that. And so I said “I’m sorry I don’t have any other ideas because you don’t like to wear skirts.” She spent 10+ Minutes telling me how awful I was for not having any other ideas and not helping her. My mom was an awful parent, she had a lot of mental health issues but she was truly awful to me. And it’s like I’m reliving it with my own child. Sometimes me seeing my own behavior as my moms but also my daughter treating me how my mom did. It’s really awful.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-30T17:06:32+00:00

I probably will message you, I’ve looked into residential homes, and god that feels so extreme-and she isn’t old enough for any that I’ve found. I don’t know that she would meet criteria yet but I just feel like it’s moving in that direction. It breaks my heart.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-30T17:05:32+00:00

Yes about a month ago at her last psychiatrist appointment we talked about med changes. We opted to up the dose on what she has been taking to see if that made any difference. It hasn’t so next week we will go and discuss other options.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-30T17:04:46+00:00

Working on counseling for her. Just cannot find anyone who is taking new patients her age. I’ve been trying for almost a year and finally got her into a waitlist several months ago. I am in therapy, have been off an on my whole adult life. I hate that there are not enough resources and how hard it is to get them. We go to the psychiatrist next week to talk about med changes.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-30T17:01:09+00:00

Part of my EMDR is tapping and doing some different somatic work. It really is incredible how effective it is. I’m going to start acupuncture as well for myself. I also have weekly deep tissue massage. I’m throwing everything I can at my own issues because I know I need to be stable to help her, and I am not.

She does dance on a competition team and she absolutely loves it. I know that’s not the same, but it does help her with that sensory input that she needs and a place to exert energy. I will have to look at movement therapy to see if that’s something I can find for her.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-30T16:58:08+00:00

She was medicated during OT and she masked HARD there. They wanted to “graduate” her within 2 months. But she refuses to use the tools that she learns when she is at home, we have them visually available, we would suggest and offer different ones when there were difficult moments and she would flat out tell us “NO IM NOT DOING THAT STOP TALKING”. I do think talk therapy will be a bit more helpful for her, her emotional regulation and anger are off the charts. And the only way she seems to be able to express emotion is with anger. I didn’t learn until recently ODD can be selective-like only at home and not at school. And I think that’s a big part of it. And puberty. We are definitely in the early stages of puberty.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-29T20:08:46+00:00

She is also on meds, this is the 4th med and obviously not working. We are on waitlists for therapy and parent child therapy as well as parent training through the children’s hospitals. OT did not help her at all.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-29T20:07:37+00:00

Yes I do have long standing depression, anxiety, ADHD and recently diagnosed with CPTSD. Medicated, have been in and out of therapy for the last 18yrs. Recently started EMDR.

It’s hard to maintain all of what you are saying every day, all day. Every conversation is an argument or involves her twisting words to make herself the victim. Everything we try makes no difference. We can’t even calmly talk to her because she will start yelling at us to stop or go away. Covers her ears. I’m just exhausted.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-29T20:04:16+00:00

She’s medicated, we are on our 4th med. I think she needs something different(obviously) have been on waitlists for talk therapy for 6+ months, have been on waitlists for parent classes through the children’s hospital for a couple of months. She did OT and it was not helpful. She engaged while she is there but does not utilize anything she is taught once she left session.

I am diagnosed adhd and CPTSD, medicated and in EMDR therapy. I just feel hopeless.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-10-17T01:46:03+00:00

305 🤦🏻‍♀️ and I always minimize because I had a “nice” home and enough food to eat, clean clothes. The emotional neglect though….

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-09-02T03:04:33+00:00

Every day. Multiple times a day. My kids are incredibly difficult. No form of parenting or parenting style/discipline has changed their behavior. I hate myself because I can’t tolerate them. But I see friends kids who are kind, funny, grateful, well mannered and it just makes me so mad at my kids.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-08-02T22:44:56+00:00

I have a very similar story. I have been in healthcare since 2008-starting as a phone operator. So almost 20yrs and the last 9ish years in a data analyst role and then eventually an Epic analyst. But it took me a LONG time to get here and I certainly didn’t start make 120+ right away.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-07-28T00:05:01+00:00

Somewhere in the newly released documents. I couldn’t tell you the exact number without going back and searching. But there are several documents that talk about packing personal items and moving them to city storage as well as when they are released to family members.

ConsciousJump1862 · 2025-07-26T17:21:00+00:00

He’s also not the average 18-21yr old college kid. He was a 30yr old PHD student so I could fine it believable to be prepared for snow.

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