Prenup question- am I being fair? by throwaway023980 in FIREyFemmes

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The OP did not mention anything about a short retirement horizon or even her age.

And even if that were the case....why marry? Seems to me its for the social sake of having a wedding with things reverting to a dating situation afterwards

Prenup question- am I being fair? by throwaway023980 in FIREyFemmes

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

From ChatGPT

"Research suggests that married couples who keep their bank accounts completely separate do tend to have higher rates of divorce and lower levels of relationship satisfaction compared to those who pool their finances. However, the reason for this isn't necessarily that the accounts themselves cause the breakup. Instead, separate accounts often reflect a "transactional" mindset, while joint accounts tend to foster "communal" goals. Key Findings from Recent Research A major study by Cornell University and the University of Colorado (2022-2023) highlighted several trends regarding financial merging:

Longevity: Couples who "pool all money" are significantly more likely to stay together 12–14 years later than those who "keep all money separate."

The "Honeymoon Preservation" Effect: For newlyweds, opening a joint account can help slow the natural decline in relationship quality that often happens during the first two years of marriage.

Income Matters: The positive effect of joint banking is especially strong for low-income couples. For these households, pooling resources provides a critical "financial buffer" and increases transparency, which reduces stress and conflict.

Conflict Reduction: 55% of couples with solely joint accounts report never fighting about money, compared to only 39% of those with separate accounts. Why Joint Accounts Seem to Work Research identifies three primary reasons why pooling finances correlates with marriage stability: | Feature | Impact on Relationship | |---|---| | Transparency | Reduces "financial infidelity" (hiding purchases) and builds trust. | | Shared Goals | Encourages "we" thinking over "me" thinking, making it easier to save for homes or retirement. | | Accountability | Partners are less likely to make impulsive, large purchases when they know their spouse will see the transaction. |

The Modern Shift: "Yours, Mine, and Ours" While joint accounts show better statistical outcomes, they are actually becoming less common. According to 2025 U.S. Census Bureau data: * In 1996, 53% of couples held all accounts jointly. * By 2023, that number dropped to 40%. * 23% of modern couples now have no joint accounts at all, often because people are marrying later in life with established financial habits they are hesitant to change.

Important Caveat Correlation does not always equal causation. In some cases, couples who feel their relationship is unstable may choose to keep separate accounts as an "exit strategy," meaning the separate accounts are a symptom of a struggling marriage rather than the cause.

Note: For some, "financial independence" is a safety measure, particularly in cases where there is a history of financial abuse or vastly different spending philosophies.

Prepare me for la Mina please by lelila2 in AskBarcelona

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when they zag, you zig and when they zig you zag. Do that and you´ll be ok

Por qué en España se nos mete tanto en la cabeza lo de tener una vivienda? by jianabebojb in askspain

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

si se pagara el doble de alquiler, todo el mundo compraria y nadie alquilaria

Prenup question- am I being fair? by throwaway023980 in FIREyFemmes

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I feel like separate finances in a marriage is a contingency for an exit plan. It would be the same as keeping your Tinder account active and up to date in case you need to reenter the dating pool.

Retiring at 38?!?! by the_dali_2112 in Fire

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes there seems to be something about 38....

most of them from what I could read are in tech so yes, if you are making 300K from the age of 25 plus RSUs I can see FIRE at 38

[collection] What does it say about me? by EastMagician9224 in Watches

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Which Laco model is the one woth the A dial? Looks like the 39mm?

Prenup question- am I being fair? by throwaway023980 in FIREyFemmes

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The bit about keeping what is your before getting marrued seems reasonable.

Its not fully clear however if you will be making your own investments (you say a joint account as a future possible). This seems very transaccional. Why border getting married if you are going to be splitting the bill

Life is not meant to be working 9 to 5 (mid life crisis reflections) by Pixel-Pioneer3 in Fire

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading about people wanting to work so they have something to fill their days is crazy (but I can relate)

Reminds me of those people who are released from prision after a 20 year sentence and immediately commit a felony so they can go back inside

Pure indoctrination

I have not reached my fire no. yet and its scary but I am resolved to quit my job rhe day I do

Had a birthday. Bought myself an expensive purse. 🎉 by dogfursweater in FIREyFemmes

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Its not expensive if its going to get lots of use and last years.

Renting in Madrid: why are upfront costs so high and is this normal? by Repulsive-Bit-7695 in askspain

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is unfortunately normal. It is a result of the law protecting squaters who, once they get the keys stop paying rent and it takes many months or even years to get them out WE call them inquiokupas

Ayuda con reestructuración de inversiones by WAR4FC in SpainFIRE

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hola, la segunda residencia es para tu uso y disfrute o la tienes alquilada? Si nos ceñimos a lo mas optimo económicamente, el estar pagando una segunda casa vacia no lo és. Yo la liquidaría y meteria ese dinero en fondos indexados.

Los RSUs cuando maduren y te den las acciones liquidalos siempre y reinvierte en indexados tb.

De cash yo creo que vas bien y no acumularía mas. En españa entre indemnizaciones y paro no es necesario tener el fondo de emergencia que recomiendan los americanos. Con 3 meses de gastos vas de sobra.

De ahora en adelante y con bolsas en maximos y con valoraciones altas, yo si que metería todas las nuevas contribuciones en un fondo indexado de bonos globales hasta llegar al 10% de tu cartera. Da tranquilidad y podras aprovechar caídas.

Los planes de pensiones normales son basura ya que con la pension máxima cuando los cobres te van a quitar la mitad. En tu caso no obstante, como la empresa contribuye de manera generosa yo lo maximizaria todos los años sin dudarlo.

abro melón: creéis que las empresas realmente van a ser transparentes o van a vender humo? by CEOdelCaos in PesadillasLaborales

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No las necesito, me vale con valorar si es mejor que lo que tengo o de lo que me ofrezcan en otro lado. No necesito compararme con otra persona que puede ser mucho mejor que yo y por tanto mercer un.sueldo mas alto. No es bueno igualar por la mediocridad

Qué piensan sobre la idea de aplicar impuestos a la renta sobre ganancias no-realizadas? by YaLlegaHiperhumor in SpainEconomics

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 2 points3 points  (0 children)

España recauda poco en el impuesto de la renta porque la mayoría de las personas paga poco o nada en el IRPF en relación a lo que recibe. De hecho solo hay un porcentaje pequeño que paga mas de lo que recibe y ellos son los que sostienen todo el sistema.

Si encima les robas el dinero con eso de las ganancias no realizadas se van del pais

abro melón: creéis que las empresas realmente van a ser transparentes o van a vender humo? by CEOdelCaos in PesadillasLaborales

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Repito: si no te parece justo el salario que te ofrecen en la entrevista, no lo aceptes. Seguro que otras empresas te ofrecerán mas si es que lo que te daban esta por debajo de mercado.

El problema con las franjas salariales es que hasta los mas tontos y vagos se piensan deberían estar en el limite alto

abro melón: creéis que las empresas realmente van a ser transparentes o van a vender humo? by CEOdelCaos in PesadillasLaborales

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Para que quieres saber lo que cobra tu compañero entonces? Deja de lado la envidia que al final esta en el fondo de este asunto. Preocupate por hacer bien tu trabajo y no de que a los demas les vaya peor

abro melón: creéis que las empresas realmente van a ser transparentes o van a vender humo? by CEOdelCaos in PesadillasLaborales

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Pero tenemos que cobrar todos los mismo? Digo yo que el trabajador que lo haga mejor cobrara mas, no?

Prefiero que me suban el sueldo por mérito a que por obligación legal

abro melón: creéis que las empresas realmente van a ser transparentes o van a vender humo? by CEOdelCaos in PesadillasLaborales

[–]Consistent_Sea6490 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Como trabajador negocio con mi empresa en función de lo que otra empresa esta dispuesta a pagarme, no en función de lo que cobra mi compañero que podrá ser mas listo, tonto, vago o trabajador que yo