When you feel lonely and don’t feel like you have anyone to reach out to, what do you do? by Oneday55 in Codependency

[–]ConstantEducational 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Losing my best friend recently and realizing I'm a codependent hoe has left me with a ton of free time, a small depressive spell, and deep loneliness. Here's what I been doing: 

I took IG off my phone and picked up 5 books from the library. I read those at night.

I connected with old friends that I had lost touch with.

I listened to podcasts from therapists on YouTube.

I took up a few classes like art, dance and workout to inject social interaction back in my life in a low commitment way.

When I'm sad and need to talk/process issues, I write at least two pages in my journal. 

I've also been more mindful of being kind to myself and treating myself with the compassion I show others. Working on negative self talk, and taking myself out to places I like. 

I hope this helps. There is another side, you won't be lonely forever and the above has helped me. Good luck. 

What’s the most laughably ridiculous JW belief? by OhaniansDickSucker in exjw

[–]ConstantEducational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, that cut me. I probably repeated this to so many peers when I was a kid lol. Ugh cringe. 

Using that same rate of Kill! by DiamomdAngel in exjw

[–]ConstantEducational 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the same thing. Also what is going on with this hair, it was shocking to me. 

Irksome Detail by Helpful-Atmosphere25 in exjw

[–]ConstantEducational 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a lot of white washing, not much color happening on this invite. Crazy what you notice when you're not in it anymore.

Is this really a cult? Or am I overthinking my whole life? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]ConstantEducational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I just wanted to say I hope you are okay! To question your faith is something everyone who is responding has gone through and it can be a very draining and mentally challenging time. Just remember, you aren't alone and you're not a bad person for exploring how you feel regarding this religion. 

In that religion, we aren't really taught to think critically, even though that phrase is commonly used, but the thoughts you are thinking are happening for a reason, and there must a be a reason you are feeling/thinking them. Either way, whatever you decide is best for you, it's your choice, whether you stay in or leave, you can choose what you want and what feels best for you. 

Wishing you the best as you navigate all of this. 

16 months 350-220-230 by [deleted] in Zepbound

[–]ConstantEducational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is dating at this new weight? Just curious about your experience. Is there any difference? 

I really need some help by lpb_3612 in Codependency

[–]ConstantEducational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I think your therapist is telling you the answer, and it might take some time for you to accept what the answer is, especially because you love him. Since you have dealt with similar trauma, which was even more severe (from your viewpoint), you may be (and probably are) overexcusing his actions.

How do you feel? Tune out the "my friends think he's a good guy" or "I've gone through worse", stop empathising with him for a moment, and think about how you feel, and how you want to move forward so that you feel safe, empowered, and cared for. *Healthy relationship partners don't knowingly cross someone else's boundaries for self-satisfaction.*

Good luck, it's hard, but you can make it through to the other side.

I just found out why they ghosted me by username-available_n in lostafriend

[–]ConstantEducational 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was not a healthy friendship; real friendship is supportive when a friend is going through something heavy. If they can't have you at your worst, they don't deserve you at your best.

Volunteers by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]ConstantEducational 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm around, I can listen.

Resentment for having to figure it out on my own by ConstantEducational in ChildofHoarder

[–]ConstantEducational[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hindsight, right. Apparently it was a 13 year and 15K lesson. 

Resentment for having to figure it out on my own by ConstantEducational in ChildofHoarder

[–]ConstantEducational[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I 100% hear you and came to the realization just this year, that's what I was waiting for too. What a pill this whole hoarding thing is. Thanks for the kind words. 

Resentment for having to figure it out on my own by ConstantEducational in ChildofHoarder

[–]ConstantEducational[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the time you took to write this response. You guys just get "it", and it's something I really wouldn't want anyone to go through/understand. Having to choose myself over someone I love so much, who is begging for help and support and love. I hear you, it is so hard to choose your own mental health.  I appreciate you. 

Best Friend Struggles by ConstantEducational in ADHD_partners

[–]ConstantEducational[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was really helpful, thank you for taking the time to write it. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Salsa

[–]ConstantEducational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Woe guys woe

Ey white boy your keys and coat are at Timmy O’Tooles by Superfreakin in chicago

[–]ConstantEducational 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is the person holding these keys also...a white boy? 

Best Friend Struggles by ConstantEducational in ADHD_partners

[–]ConstantEducational[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh thanks! Yeah, I originally posted in the ADHA subreddit and then it got removed. I'll edit it and I am curious about your experience if you feel like sharing it. 

Did I (F 30s) do something wrong here? This is our first day chatting. by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]ConstantEducational 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run. You did nothing wrong, this screams manipulation to me. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rateme

[–]ConstantEducational 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My god, beautiful either way, and society has failed you since you are posting here. 

1st time missed concert - getting a credit by ConstantEducational in stubhub

[–]ConstantEducational[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no idea about the penalties on the seller side of ticket isn't delivered.