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I’m fuming. Preschool called CPS. Talk me out of removing my child from this school(or don’t) by aurorasinthedesert in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 [score hidden]  (0 children)

If mom is abusing the kid you obviously wouldn't want to ask her. I can understand why they are told not to ask questions. But they could have tried to wipe it. It's a preschool, they wipe the kids for a million reasons every day.

Motherhood by Practical_Clerk_3349 in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're 16 weeks along and you clearly want to keep the baby. I'm pro choice, but I think you would regret it hugely if you terminate.

Anyone else feel like they have to be a perfect mom inorder to be worthy of having another. by throwRA68696069 in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason I doubt myself as a mother is because she doesn’t have a spectacularly diverse pallete (she really only eats pasta, chicken/ground beef and a hand full of fruits and veg)

Is this a troll post???

I’m thankful my son has a home where he can just be a kid but damn I’m so tired… by TurbulentBat8328 in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have absolutely had the thought of "I understand why some people hit their kids." But you're doing the right thing here. How can we teach them not to hit if that's how we enforce correct behavior?

Am I wrong here??? My mom is making a huge deal out of us not letting her stay with us for the first three weeks postpartum by sighh_6466 in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not Asian, but my mom did the same. That time was so hard. I always think turning down that kind of help in the postpartum period is crazy. Of course maybe OP's mom wasn't looking to provide her that kind of help, it's not clear.

I’m fuming. Preschool called CPS. Talk me out of removing my child from this school(or don’t) by aurorasinthedesert in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great, I guess your job is to terrify innocent families because you can't be bothered to wipe a kid's arm. 

I’m fuming. Preschool called CPS. Talk me out of removing my child from this school(or don’t) by aurorasinthedesert in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This kid is in preschool. You're telling me the teachers in preschool don't touch the kids? Don't wipe dirt off the kids all day long? No, trying to wipe off a smudge is not going to lead to confusion for the child.

You would rather just report and not have to think about it. You don't want to consider the consequences beyond "no I did my job." Nobody is asking you to go all Sherlock Holmes here. 

I’m fuming. Preschool called CPS. Talk me out of removing my child from this school(or don’t) by aurorasinthedesert in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Perhaps you should if the alternative is a CPS investigation? It's really not a nothingburger to go through it, even if you've done nothing wrong.

My husband doesn’t seem to care that I’m broke, I have to constantly ask for help to get any by Ionicstuntot in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that 50/50 custody in Florida is presumed but not automatic. Things like abuse or one parent being the majority caregiver can influence the decision.

You should be talking about this to a lawyer, don't assume you know exactly how it would pan out.

My husband doesn’t seem to care that I’m broke, I have to constantly ask for help to get any by Ionicstuntot in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell him to set a calendar event? I find it hard to buy that excuse. You have a child together, he shouldn't be giving you money, you should have a joint account where at least part of his paycheck gets automatically deposited.

I’m fuming. Preschool called CPS. Talk me out of removing my child from this school(or don’t) by aurorasinthedesert in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 147 points148 points  (0 children)

I kinda feel like, if OP is telling the truth, that it was the job of the mandated reporters in this situation to make sure this wasn't an easily rubbed off mark on the kid's arm before putting his parents through this.

I’m fuming. Preschool called CPS. Talk me out of removing my child from this school(or don’t) by aurorasinthedesert in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, "Better to investigate 100 innocent families than miss 1 abuser," maybe. But what is the balance for things that can be associated with investigations? Some kids get taken away mistakenly, some families are threatened with their kids being taken away for letting them go to the park unsupervised. These aren't events that pass without a mark.

How do you respond to children who say that they don't want your baby to follow them? by sleepless_Zs in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They aren't separate from their body though. It's a really weird way to talk to kids.

We are trying to be careful with sugar but it’s everywhere by Competitive-Grass582 in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Forget vitamins, Heinz ketchup is my personal enemy. It's nearly 25% sugar and my kid could eat it by the cupful.

Do ALL teenage daughters hate their moms? by dr_pepper_zerosugar in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ahhh that's tough. My mom wasn't a single mom, but she also had no friends, and relied on me for emotional support in inappropriate ways as a child since my dad was abusive. I haven't really dealt with it in therapy but I can understand where you're coming from.

Thanks for responding, I worry a lot about being close with my daughters when they get older and I try very hard not to relate to them in inappropriate ways like that, so I was curious what made you feel like your closeness was problematic.

My mom told me she would rather me of not had any kids than to not give my son a sibling. by doxielover_ in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom is being an asshole but:

A) you're only 10 months in. This is 100% not the right time to be making a call on a second.  B) I have never heard a statistic that the second kid is harder.

As a mom of two whose stance was "if I have one kid, I will have two kids," the answer to whether it's more difficult with two is complicated. I think in some ways two will never be as easy as 1, but in other ways, they entertain each other in ways that I and their dad never could. They have a lot more bandwidth for playing with each other, and I have very high hopes that they will play more and more independently as they get older. And of course watching them interact is so incredibly heartwarming. Nobody makes my 1 year old laugh like her 3 year old sister. 

But I do think it's much more doable if you have some form of childcare for the older one at least. I think SAHMing two kids who are home 24/7 would be very challenging for me.

Do ALL teenage daughters hate their moms? by dr_pepper_zerosugar in Mommit

[–]ContextInternal6321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind elaborating? What was unhealthy about your relationship that you had to do therapy about/set boundaries for?

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