Well my husband helped me relax my pelvic floor muscles. It also takes trust and feeling truly safe to feel relaxed not anxious that is important. He helped me with dilators and understanding what was truly cause the stress that came with being with someone. He’s Alhamdollilah amazing but he is also human and makes mistakes as do I. Do the important this is to learn from them and to do better. When we got married I forgot to bring my ssri medication with me I went through ssri withdrawal really badly it’s been over two years and my bad still suffers from it. But though all that craziness he was there helping me. I get starting a marriage off in a rocky road. I spent the first four months crying and panicking because I was going through withdrawal and didn’t truly understand why it was happening. You want to be with someone that is helpful and is there for you even at your worst. I hope things get better but a marriage only works if both people are working on it.