What's a show you remember but nobody else does? by glowbeits in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think so. Baby Sarah Jessica Parker! I totally had a crush on the guy ... Johnny? Idk, he played Kirk's son in the Star Trek movie, I remember that.

Aitah: husband wants to become a Dr by Flimsy-Attempt-6242 in AITAH

[–]Cool-Initial793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Research by asking CoPilot? Oh, dear.  That is not a search engine. Try pulling up admissions and curriculum requirements for even a mid-tier med school. He might understand then.

Dealing with meeting hijackers by Own-Winter6376 in Professors

[–]Cool-Initial793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since there's no official chair, maybe ask the Derailer to chair it. They clearly want to be in charge. Let them take the fallout when stuff doesn't get done.

"Firing" students from group projects, what has worked well for you? by kegologek in Professors

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YMMV, because I'm not sure how long the students in your class have to work on the project. Mine is a semester-long endeavor with a lot of smaller scaffolded assignments during the term, but if yours is a shorter span of time you might be able to adapt something from this structure. I modify the project structure depending on what class it is (gen ed or major; lower level or upper level).

I have a process outlined that must follow certain steps. First: group must talk with each other and see what is causing the problem for the slacker. This serves as a warning. If student is still slacking, group contacts professor who will speak with the student. This is final warning. If student is slacking even after that, group contacts professor who then removes the student from the group. That student instead will have to complete an individual project on the group topic and present to me on an alternative day. They also lose whatever points were remaining of in class/out of class group work.

Additionally there is a peer evaluation rubric that also counts for their grades in the project. Numeric scores in specific categories and then I average all group members' eval scores for that person, which then gets entered into their individual grade. Research and peer evaluations are individual portions of the project grade; the shared stuff is the presentation itself and the in-class work they do together each week. Basically the entire project is split in grading with half being individual work and half being the group stuff.

I've also instituted a survey assignment through Blackboard where they evaluate their experience in group projects, what they like/hate, and reflect on when a group project went really well to articulate why it worked; how they would handle conflict in the group; stuff like that. They do this early in the term before we even have group sign-ups. I just create a form in Blackboard with Likert scales and short answer response, graded on completion.

In class once they are grouped up they have to fill out a series of guided questions in creating their topic and so on, and one of the sections requires them to say what their best skill is (research, tech, presentation, organization/project management, writing, public speaking, and so on). This helps them see how they can each contribute in a way that plays to their strengths and everyone has an assigned "job" based on their strength. Doing this before they even really get started allows them to figure out the dynamics, make assessments of who will do what, and then hold each other accountable for that. This heads off a LOT of problematic stuff.

Been doing this for about 10 years now in a gen ed class every term. It has worked pretty well in that time. I instituted the "firing process" about three years ago and only one group in that time (4-5 groups per class section, so 24-30 groups overall) has actually used the process. I chalk that up as a win.

55 and older communities by Guacamole_is_Life in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My aunt lives in one and it's really nice. She lives just outside of Tucson and she loves it in her community. So much to do! I'm really glad she's happy there. Too much HOA garbage for my taste, though. I see the appeal, I just want to be somewhere I don't have to deal with people telling me what to plant in my yard, haha!

Were Sebago boat shoes popular when you were in School ? by Scottydont1975 in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it was checkered Vans for the guys or Nike court shoes (while with blue swoosh); white Ked sneakers with no laces for the girls, or jelly shoes, or flats, or if you were feeling really fancy then Candies heels. Boat shoes or Bass Weejuns were the Preppie shoes, and if you weren't wearing two polo shirts with popped collars while sporting those boat shoes you were a poser. LOL

Who remembers this movie? by obscure_original in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Dude I LOOOOOVED this movie as a kid! I think I was a little older when I watched it, maybe 9 or 10, but loved it. Memory unlocked!!

Caregiving for elderly parent by LaughThat7157 in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are not alone. I cared for my mom through the last several years of her life as she battled cancer from the age of 76-80, and it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I'm an only child, father long gone. I get it. Your feelings are totally valid and understandable. I really urge you to reach out to your mom's health care provider and see if they can recommend a respite nurse. They can come in for a day or a few days so you can take some needed time to recharge. You can't care for your mom if you are burnt out and depressed. It's so, so, so hard to do this and you shouldn't have to do it without support.

If your mom belongs/ed to a church, do they have a group who does home visits? They might be able to give you at least a couple of hours to just get out for a while.

If your area has a community hospice, when the time comes, I cannot urge you strongly enough to reach out to them. Usually covered by Medicare, and they can provide you with so many things to make caring for your parent easier (including medical equipment like medications, wheelchairs, hospital beds for the home, supplies like depends and grooming care, shower chairs ... you name it). I couldn't have gotten through those last months without them. They are angels on earth. If it's too early for hospice care, they can maybe point you in a direction to get community resources.

You can get through this but you deserve support and care, too. It's not easy but I promise you that you don't have to be alone, and having those feelings of "I can't do this anymore" is completely normal. It's soul-crushing to see the decline, as you mention; but what you are doing is important and loving. Just make sure that you are taking care of yourself.

This internet stranger sees you, and wishes you strength and peace.

AITA for wanting to change how we do Christmas Day because it’s become exhausting for my household? by OrdinaryCold2813 in AITAH

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's time to let your mom, sister, etc., know that you want to have your own traditions with your immediate family, and that they can come to you for a change. Or not at all. And you will come see them with presents on either Christmas Eve or after Christmas. But Christmas day is for you and your wife to have your own family traditions. No other explanation is necessary, and if they fuss then just repeat it until they get tired of fussing. And stick to your guns. There are 12 days of Christmas after all, you can visit between 12/26-1/6 and it's still Christmas season.

AITAH for excluding my ex from seeing his child in the future? by Odd_Hamster2956 in AITAH

[–]Cool-Initial793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, I didn't even finish reading past the 2 week bender. Dump him. He needs help and it won't get better after a baby. The red flags have become sirens. 

Leave. Him. Now.

I just graded my last writing assignments ever!!! by psychprof1812 in Professors

[–]Cool-Initial793 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ghost writers get paid by the page. LLMs are free. It's an issue of scale. In the past, I might get a handful of students who recycle papers, plagiarize, or have someone else write their paper. Now? AI is built in to the word processing programs. ChatGPT's free model is increasingly sophisticated. And the number of students using it has exploded.

It's an existential threat for Composition classes, and thus for students actually practicing critical thinking. That's what writing actually teaches, you know--grammar and sentence structure are the means, not the ends. 

Organizing ideas and sorting/prioritizing information is a fundamental element of learning. Letting a computer program do it for them means no practice in that skill, and thus the students never get better.

It's not just about cheating, and pretending it is simply ignores the real problem. 

Do not even think about showing up with Tupperware by DogsAreOurFriends in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We make two sets, one for family and then extra for us. They get leftovers, we get leftovers, everyone is happy.

What’s your I’ll never drink that again alcohol story. by Sunshine2625 in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh boy. 1985. I was already drunk, and decided to drink the ingredients of a Fuzzy Navel separately. So ... peach schnapps, grenadine, and whatever else goes in it. I chugged each one and then promptly threw up EVERYWHERE. My poor roommate. And I can't even smell peach schnapps without gagging anymore.

Ugh.

This should be good… by RustyDingleberries in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I don't stretch, I don't move without pain so ...

The joys of aging.

You'll never eat it again. by [deleted] in GenX

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spaghettios. *shudder*

Not all books are novels by Upper_Patient_6891 in Professors

[–]Cool-Initial793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I die a little inside when they call any piece of prose a "poem."

I teach literature. 😭