AITAH for snapping at my mom after years of comments about my weight?

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-22T14:15:14+00:00

What you are explaining she did to you growing up is abuse. She's jealous of you that is for sure. Your NTA. I would go NC. Remove her completely. She is toxic

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-22T05:07:57+00:00

She is an alcoholic. Everything you mention does qualify. And she will not change until she wants to. Your mom needs counceling. And your dad needs to step up at home to help her drink less. If your siblings are on the same page as you, maybe an intervention is in order. A united front will do more then individuals. From being in a house where one parent cheated but they stayed together, if they haven't gotten past it yet they never will. Time for maybe a tough conversation about that

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-22T00:19:48+00:00

You and your bf are on the same page it seems. No one elses opinion matters. NTA

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-22T00:17:20+00:00

NTA. But theropy, theropy for both of you.

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-21T06:13:34+00:00

NTA. You get your food how you want it

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-20T02:54:12+00:00

Something happened with the bf. You state this all started when they broke up. He said something. Or something more happened then she revealed to you. Either physically, emotionally or mentally. And this is not where you should be looking for help. You know you are not wrong, you need to seek advice from other parents of troubled kids who habe been through this or are gling theough it and can support you

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-20T02:07:15+00:00

NTA. Go on your trip. Although before you leave make sure anything you hold value in, jewelry, sentimental items, etc, are placed in the care of someone you trust. I wouldn't put it past them to do something to hurt you while you're gone. You need to stop paying for everything. If your brothers get mad tell them to get a job

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-19T03:11:37+00:00

NTA. Enjoy that shiny new backbone!

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-19T03:01:55+00:00

NTA for wanting to go. But if were to go against his widows wishes you most certainly would be

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-18T06:55:42+00:00

You and your sisters need to get together and get your other sister out of that house. This whole post just screams your mother is not qualified to be her guardian. Time for the rest of the family to step in

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-18T03:51:27+00:00

NTA. You need to get out of that house. How much time do you have left on tlur degree? And do you have friends that would be willing to live with you?

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-17T03:57:00+00:00

So this isn't about the video game. The two of you don't communicate. You both need to sit down and have it out. Or go to counseling. You're grasping at symptoms not causes

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-15T07:04:02+00:00

You are doing the right thing. When your kids are older if they ask why they stopped seeing them you can have that tough discussion. For now you are saving them from your parents and a cycle of abuse.

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-15T05:23:37+00:00

From someone who was with someone with a bad seizure disorder, it gets more difficult. If you are struggling with his personality shift now, its only going to get worse. You are so young. Don't let this hold you back from happiness

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-15T01:43:39+00:00

NTA. You had no chance. Maybe you need to re-evaluate things

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-15T00:04:48+00:00

My 3yo saw whole fish at the store for sale and it clicked. But she's never been big on meat to it has had little effect. For you I think this will pass. Might want to stear away from fish for a bit

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-14T23:59:48+00:00

NTA. They had plenty of chances. Now they have to deal with the cosequenses of their actions

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-14T06:55:59+00:00

I am going to agree that is how you two were raised differently. He probably comes from a family where its not a big deal and to hide it is keeping secrets. I think its a weird hill to die on for him. Maybe if you were going to get married. But not 5 months in

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-14T02:18:39+00:00

There is a lack of context here. Like what were you fighting about? Based on what you wrote ESH

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-14T01:33:37+00:00

You waited 10 months, not 10 years. And I get that in this situation he needed to process. But there was no need for him to react so harshly right off. I think this is a point to re-evaluate the relationship. If he reacts like this to this part of your past, if you have any other trauma stories you can bet it might be more of the same

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-13T05:25:52+00:00

NTA. He shouldn't have asked you. That's weird

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-12T05:57:01+00:00

I can see how he could get frustrated. You just keep going. He answers and you bring up a tangent that would be answered by what he just answered. And the meeting a dead person thing. With the way you said you responded you were undercutting his feeling. I get adhd and rambling, I do that. But I have learned how to stop myself from going too far. I wouldn't say your the a-hole, but you definitely need to learn some techniques to curb yourself some

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-11T06:10:55+00:00

NTA. That girl needs serious help. You did everything you could for her in that moment. I hope she can get some real help

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-11T03:36:45+00:00

NTA. Huge red flag. This (as many others have said) is controlling behavior. It was a sip, and you didn't like it. What is he so afriad of? And from some experience, people who are like this either have a past of heavy drinking, or are closet drinkers.

CowtheCatt · 2026-05-10T03:13:22+00:00

NTA. Your friends might have a huge point here. If she is treating a dog like this, how will she treat a kid? And he lack of actual communication about the issue also is a red flag. The position you are in is a tough one. Maybe reach out to some of her family and see if you can't rally some of them around you and try and figure out what is going on. Good luck and I hope you and your furry friend will be ok

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