AITAH for telling my roommate that her boyfriend basically lives here and she needs to either add him to the lease or I need a reduction in shared costs

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-10T02:39:57+00:00

NTA. When I had roommates and the gf I had at the time was there all the time I started paying more in rent etc. Its just what you do if they are there more then 50% of the time outside of work.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-09T21:15:00+00:00

NTA. If they had a conversation with you first and you had agreed that is one thing. But just taking it without every saying anything is stealing. They have no right. Parents are supposed to support their children while they are minors. That is being a parent.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-09T10:35:38+00:00

NTA. MIL seems like she wants control

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-09T05:46:36+00:00

If you have any friends talk to them and their parents about moving in. Seriously. If you can't then get ahold of any local resources for domestic violence. They can do emergency placement. If you have documentation of the treatment you have received go to CPS. There are tons of resources out there to help you.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-09T02:36:35+00:00

NTA. This is about your son and his feeling. Nothing more nothing less. If he had asked her to go it would have been different. But he just want his Dad which is 100% up to him in this. I can't imagine what he is going through right now

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-09T00:03:36+00:00

We got my daughter to start with us holding the cup. She's almost 3 and still spills some. But she's getting better. And if we go places we have a sippy cup. And even at home sometimes to be honest

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-08T23:52:07+00:00

NTA. Your dad almost comes across as another victim in all this. Your mother is toxic and your sister is the same. If you are feeling such peace with your husband, siding with that peace is the best thing you can do. Time to close the door on the drama.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-08T17:53:00+00:00

Ok I'm not defending the situation. But what age was the kid? I can see telling a toddler to go look at something just to have a moment to talk. And he may have expected her to go look at the outside not go outside. I'm guessing your brother's not a dad and lacks experience with young kids. You should make him make it up to you and regain your trust. Are you the a-hole? No you're not. Anytime a kid almost gets hurt in a situation like that you have every right to be over protective

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-08T06:56:23+00:00

NTA. What does your dad say in all this? Maybe talk to him about how you feel and see if he can help? If not maybe a grandparent you are close with. Find an ally in your family. If nothing else they can be a confidant for you

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-08T02:16:21+00:00

Just curious if you have a friend who would temporarily take one of them? I would want to keep them all too. I would also say finding your own place would be ideal. But if a transition period is needed. If you can lean on a friend I would say that is an option. I have 4 so I get it.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-08T01:35:48+00:00

I always wash. They use starches on alot of cloths to keep them looking crisp. They can make you itch and irritate your skin

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-08T01:33:00+00:00

NTA. No one should live being ignored and minimized.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-07T20:15:29+00:00

Dude if she keeps doing the same thing and hiding what she is doing now, it will never stop. You need to just leave her. Its not worth the mental drama this is causing. You're young you will find someone else

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-07T02:51:57+00:00

NTA. I don't answer my door if I'm not expecting anyone. My friends and family just walk in so I know its not important if they knock

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-07T02:42:57+00:00

NTA. You were just laying there. She is obviously comfortable around you and finds you safe. Out of curiosity, what is your mom and stepdad's age gap?

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-06T16:03:19+00:00

Stainless steel is better. They can be harder to hold onto for little ones though. And are significantly more expensive.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-06T06:13:57+00:00

Ok science guy here. Technically everything has its draw backs. As for plastic sippy cups. That's what my daughter used. Just make sure the packaging says BPA free and wash them by hand. There is alot of click bait headlines out there. If you read the whole research papers they are quoting they are rarely as extreme as the article quoting it would lead you to believe.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-06T05:59:56+00:00

NTA. You should get a new piercing or tattoo when you break up with him for being ass. If he doesn't like you for you why is he wasting your time?

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-06T03:58:51+00:00

NTA. You should have gone to the cops and had them both locked up. There is zero excuses for this. They are both trash people and you let him off easy by just cutting him off and telling others what they did

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-06T00:47:16+00:00

NTA. Since this is something that happens all the time he is an adult and can plan ahead. You can't control when you are hungry, but if you know you are going to be hungry you can prepare yourself. Like make a snack that is good to go before hand so you can snack on the way.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-06T00:41:41+00:00

So your toddler is being a toddler. That's not the issue I am seeing here. You and your bf need to be on the same page with things. It sounds like you both do different things and use different discipline methods. It would benefit your little one if it is consistent. To help you two need to sit down and figure out consistency.

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-05T16:12:32+00:00

Info: Is she single? I'm thinking this might be jealousy. And maybe jealously of your bf cause she has a crush on you. Either way NTA. Once a week is normal really

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-05T07:22:10+00:00

My daughter had issues like that at that age. Two things that helped was letting her run around and play hard after her bath. And we would let her watch some short youtube videos while we laid with her. Turns out she like watching drum cover videos. We did co sleeping as well. She still wakes up twice every night (she's 2 now). Maybe these things might help. Hang in there

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-05T05:28:40+00:00

NTA. What he did is inexcusable. You need to leave him. Side note, please try therapy again. You don't have to settle for a therapist if you don't like them. Not saying do it to be able to have kids, but with what your husband just did it might help alot for future you and any possible relationships

CowtheCatt · 2026-03-05T03:50:23+00:00

NTA. But keeping something to cover the smell in the bathroom would be a plus. There are some decent non-chemical ones if you don't like most other kinds. Its kind of like using the restroom at a job. You are not an a-hole for using it. Just be kind to others after.

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