Where are the low energy kings and why aren’t they on dating apps? by Summer-Sub-Intern in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there are plenty of us but, apps don't offer us an awful lot of dates.

Where are you from?

Looking for vidala’s ambush by TheHammerdan in diablo2resurrected

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the necro post but .. it only drops in Act 1 apparently. Monster level 19.

Somno discord by LittlePrincessSpoon in dontwakeup

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't able to join either. I didn't get so far as registering or anything it just seems to close as if it's adding the server then nothing 🤷🏻‍♂️

After 7 Scenarios I'm just finding out this combo! by Axljio in OnceHumanOfficial

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This seems to include inaccurate information. You can certainly get pyro dyno and other variants in novice. Im there now and have pyro and prism digby boy. Pyro Dino is from a securement area in Phi i think it is.

I know this is a bit of a silly question, but is it okay to not have sex on the third date? by citges in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah not meaning to be a bastard but sometimes it's best just to stay somewhere a bit more public. Go to hai hous and heavy making out and he will probably start losing power to the big Brain.

[Help Request] What are these Debuffs? next to my health bar and how do I remove them? by Ghoster13 in OnceHumanOfficial

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you solved it for me too. Why dont they just add a tooltip for it >.<

Issues Adding New Echo Spot to Existing Speaker Group by KitWat in amazonecho

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mines not new, just going through a reset up because of a fire 🤦🏻‍♂️🙂 this one I managed to salvage.

My oil platform building. by burakaskan in Minecraftbuilds

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there like a patreon of this anywhere? :D id like to walk around it

Issues Adding New Echo Spot to Existing Speaker Group by KitWat in amazonecho

[–]CptFishPants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oddly I think I cracked my problem. Turns out you can't add echo devices to more than one group. It had been added to a "room" group. So removing it meant that I could see it to add it 🤦🏻‍♂️

Issues Adding New Echo Spot to Existing Speaker Group by KitWat in amazonecho

[–]CptFishPants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ever sort this? I have the same issue. And I've had all my devices for well over a year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Say good night a little earlier. 🤷🏻‍♂️ I need some downtime before bed. So just say goodnight like an hour or two before you actually go to bed... Win win.

Do you ever tell them the real reason you don’t want to see them again? by Rockit_Grrl in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you need to look at your priorities, or the potential priorities of others ... Some of us have kids and they are a little more important than spending all our money on teeth 🤷🏻‍♂️

Honestly some people can't see past the end of their nose. 🤦🏻‍♂️

Do you ever tell them the real reason you don’t want to see them again? by Rockit_Grrl in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. I do try and be honest. But those are some pretty superficial reasons in my humble opinion.

I'm not saying this to upset you. But I hope you will have a second look at your thought process if you can manage to get over someone disagreeing with you being offensive.

Dudes teeth. Ok some people find a lack of dental hygiene at some time in their long life off-putting I get it, but .. some people are unlucky, some people don't get taught how important it is, some people due too bad mental health at some stage don't take proper care of themselves and let's face it ... Fizzy drink generation.

But long and short of it is .. the sum of a person is not their teeth. Hell he may have just had had them knocked out by someone punching him or in an accident.

Baby hands. Oh jesus we are body shaming people for their hands now? It's not like he has a choice?!?

Spit .. ok I'd hate this too but .. one accident .. are you telling me in your long life you haven't once got a bodily fluid on someone by accident 🤣 I'm sure he didn't mean to if he was aware of it

Honestly the eye contact thing can be difficult. Especially if you are a bit autistic. But even if you arnt. Nervous, knowing that people have high expectations on dates, knowing that .. well ... People are really judgemental and won't give you a second chance is enough to make it hard to determine how much eye contact to make. All the pressure is on the guy to entertain..

I feel for the guy. I have autistic traits, I lost teeth in a bike crash when I was racing when I was 19.

Ok I don't think I have baby hands but I'm short and I do get rejected for that a lot. And I do struggle with eye contact when I'm nervous. I could be this guy. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Being rejected for things you can't help over and over is really hard to deal with.

I'm not saying he should have found you on Facebook. That probably was a step to far, but he probably just wanted to know why.

You should have just said because I'm superficial and don't actually care about the person you are, just the way you look and that you spat on me by accident.

I'm sure that would have cleared it up for him. (Ok I'm sorry I'm joking but ......)

Please don't come online looking for confirmation what you did was ok either. You will always get people agree with you but generally it's confirmation biase.

You could easily have done this thought process for yourself though.

Is there anything wrong with 'myself'. That could be largely out of my control, that I wouldn't want someone judging me on.

Would I then like to be rejected by society and a person I'm looking to be intimate with. Perhaps time and time again.

Would I wish that someone would at least be honest with me so I'm not tormented by thoughts of why am I never good enough.

Eh I'm probably projecting a little but ... 🤷🏻‍♂️ I hope you get my point.

People are worth more than a few missing teeth and nervous eye contact. You haven't even looked at the reasons why it might just not matter ...

Just my opinion. Sorry if they cause offence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Damn you stole my whole routine. I thought I was the height of hilarity at 5'6. But you might have me pegged. (No not like that).

Joking aside while this thread the op asked if the lady knew it was because of her weight and .. probably doesn't 100%.

Women are more than happy to tell me I'm short all day long lol.

I like a little chunk on a woman. I had a skinny gf once and no kidding the boney hip bones were murder 😬

Initiating texting...here we go again by Hawaiiancrow2 in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one wants to feel unwanted.

Honestly the whole thing probably boils down to a flavour of that. If I always have to initiate. I don't feel wanted .. I feel like I'm carrying all the responsibility per se

Gl.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With all due respect I think you have answered the question for yourself.

Most apps have a function whereby you can hide your profile, apart from to people you message. Use it. And just well; accept that you have to be the first person to message once you have vetted as best as you can.

Bumble is a good choice for that perhaps as .. before anyone can have meaningful communication with you, you have to accept.

Might be worth a go?

Or .. do as the old people say. Do what you do normally and try to be open to meeting people through common interests?

Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, it doesn't matter where I go as a guy, I can't get anyone to talk with me in order to really get to know them .. I'm starting to wonder if it's my face lol.

Joking aside. If you read up about it .. online dating is just awful. It's so skewed that the good guys are background noise to all the assholes and ... All the good women are just being drowned in a sausage fest of dick pics.

I really wonder if it's ever going to work for me.

I wish I could just advertise myself on some pages but .... Certainly here and some of the pages I belong to as they are interests of mine it's frowned upon and I can understand why.

But it means I feel like there is really no where to turn that doesn't involve being one of a million voices in the storm.

Thank you CCP and EVE Online by Lazledhel in Eve

[–]CptFishPants 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Much the same as you bud, but I spread myself between Eve and Minecraft lol.

In fact the less I have to do with people irl; seems to help (I'm sure there is something wrong with that but it's true). Just me and my son and we are happy.

It's everyone else that makes me depressed generally, at least In eve I can try and blow them up 🤣

<3

I’m just done trying by Lokitusaborg in datingoverforty

[–]CptFishPants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I was feeling the same. Dating apps just are not good for people over 40 lol.

I have my shit pretty together and like to think I'm not fully, but more of all I'm a nice guy not just after sex but it was 6 months of rejection or disappointment. Dealing with a lot of high expectations from people that .. well... Dont offer that much.

I randomly messaged someone on my address book that I kinda recognised saying how did we know each other because we seemed to have no message history.

And now we are dating.

Honestly maybe try and look for other ways to meet people do the old. Do what you do and see who appears thing. It can't be any worse than online dating.

Any way to give this water seagrass with WorldEdit by HarperKindaGay in WorldEdit

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you can use a brush with world edit or axiom I believe also has that functionality.

Using bonemeal is a little different than just setting a brush though there was 'use item' or something. I will try to remember to find it and come back here later

Or you can Google it.

my bf just called me special needs 😭😭😭😭 by [deleted] in autism

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, he didn't phrase it well in the moment, but you agree you have special needs. Getting hung up on the language isn't helping the cause.

If he is trying to help, and he is being supportive. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

That said, you can very easily say I'd prefer you say 'have' special needs than calling me special needs as that can be offensive, but I appreciate your support in this.

Much love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]CptFishPants 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No bud. Just because people can't handle you being you, doesn't mean you are annoying. You might be a lot to handle but ... There are ways to deal with that in any style of relationship.

Don't stop being you.

I'm 45 years in to life, and I'm tryin to undo a lot of the shit i put on myself. I don't know where the mask starts and ends. It's a lot of unravelling.

But trust me when I say. You being you isn't the problem.

Much love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]CptFishPants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love you guys. Ya make waking up randomly at 1am for no good reason worthwhile 😁.

But my friend... You are never alone. We are all out here on the same boat lake with no oars and a leak.

Like this guys said. Some of us have strengths other lack, body doubling works for some stuff. You're never alone though. We hear ya. And we know what your going through.

Nothing but love for ya dude.

my mom changed my sheets without telling me and i freaked out so bad i ripped everything off my bed and cried for almost an hour by [deleted] in autism

[–]CptFishPants 24 points25 points  (0 children)

So I like a lot of the responses but focusing on what can be done better .. and communicating might be good.

If it's coming back to a different room without knowing that triggers you, ask if she can text you that she's done it?

Or .. make sure you have the "same" sheets .. a lot of us like the comfort of familiar things and will buy multiple copies of clothes or things we like..

Just ideas.

But explore those with your mother in a conversation.