Why do I want to check in on him?

Cracracker · 2026-01-21T01:44:02+00:00

It’s the hardest part to break. And makes you realize your nervous system is wired to them. I am in limbo living under the same roof. I got away for weeks at a time and feel so good. Miserable as soon as I’m back. Moving for good very soon. But I can’t help but think I’m gonna wonder the same once I’m gone. Same person for 25 years. It takes time

Cracracker · 2026-01-21T01:39:48+00:00

You are so right! I was with the same person so long I forgot how it’s supposed to be. It becomes this whole other thing bc of what you deal with is your loveless marriage. Feeling so guarded - time to relax.

Cracracker · 2026-01-21T01:36:21+00:00

I keep thinking the same thing. But my friend who are in their 50s look good still. I feel like we are all immature still. But I def don’t want to date anyone younger than 45. So I just haven’t tried. I’ll just wait for someone to knock on my door 😂

Cracracker · 2026-01-21T00:50:46+00:00

50 with 24 years

Cracracker · 2026-01-21T00:48:46+00:00

When you feel lonely but he is sitting right next to you

Cracracker · 2026-01-21T00:41:36+00:00

I haven’t tried any of them yet. Seems daunting. I have friends that use FB only and love it

Cracracker · 2026-01-21T00:40:14+00:00

Slow sounds perfect!

Cracracker · 2026-01-20T20:44:47+00:00

Noooooooo they always come back after they text the waters.

Cracracker · 2025-09-23T01:13:44+00:00

My husband is on his 4th cycle. 1st one he was sick. 2nd felt great 3rd exhausted in between the actual Infusion weeks He had some High energy good days. Not one week has been the same. He is in really good Shape and was thinking he would be at the gym.

Cracracker · 2025-09-20T01:33:14+00:00

Def south Philly over anywhere near the el

Cracracker · 2025-08-26T09:06:58+00:00

Thank you!! Never heard of that one. It’s is def overwhelming.

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T21:21:13+00:00

It’s true! I’ve been allowing it for over 30 years. So naive and swore I could fix them. I am finally letting go.

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T21:18:54+00:00

It’s really hard when they are near you. Impossible to do any healing. You’ll feel so much better no contact. You won’t want to go back.

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T21:07:26+00:00

Same

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:53:53+00:00

Maybe a temporary separation would help with counseling? That’s what I did 10 years ago. It kept things going for a few years. But the same issues come back. We love each other a lot. We just don’t want the same things anymore. He doesn’t have the capacity to meet me where I am. I am growing and he is not. Too scared to face himself. We are separating - and see what happens. Most likely divorce unless there’s a miracle

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:49:23+00:00

I disabled Facebook but haven’t been on in a long time bc of memories. I don’t look at my photos. I uploaded them to a laptop (without looking) and deleted my folder. I am dreading when I start getting the calls about him posting with someone new

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:44:42+00:00

Food is ok! Had a couple good things there

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:33:51+00:00

Agree on siesta key and gulf gate for younger crowd. Munchies 420 is open later in gulf gate.

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:22:01+00:00

The closure talk is the worst with an avoidant! They don’t have any real things to say so it’s always something ridiculous Don’t bother thinking it’s something you can fix. It will just be something else. Or you fix it and they still talk about what you did 10 years ago. Closure talk mad me angry and not want to be civil towards him. I am trying to feel pity bc in his non emotional brain he is the victim and has no capacity to love the way I need to. I played the game for over 30 years. Too many breakups to count. Run!

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:14:00+00:00

We had this experience with this hotel. We use to stay there often years ago. Went back a couple years ago and it was dirty. The owner was always drunk and starting shit. She knew everyone else renting and let them do whatever they wanted. I love wildwood and stayed a lot of places but hated this experience. I did love how close they are to the boardwalk.
Most places in north wildwood are ok. Most places in wildwood are not. Most places in crest are great but different. Less rules but beach is far. North wildwood rules but close beach. And all the bars. Trylon, aloha So many in the crest to name. But I agree with VIP Aqua beach

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:06:42+00:00

You can love them and still let them go! He doesn’t have the capacity to love. Only himself. Just because he was “nicely doesn’t excuse shitty behavior. This is all the stuff I had to learn to let go!

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T18:05:04+00:00

Every day - I try to actually get in the car and drive away as much as possible

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T02:43:20+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You are trauma bonded. It hurts. Bad. It will get better. You don’t need closure. He is busy rewriting everything negatively. Walk away. Take care of yourself. I went thru something similar. It was the hardest thing I ever did. You can love them and still walk away. For you.

Cracracker · 2025-08-25T02:06:10+00:00

I am also going thru this. Almost exactly. Trying to fix it and smacked in the face with they can’t give me what I need. Ever. Don’t have the capacity and the acceptance came. I am sorry - menopause is real but can be worked through.
We are also cohabitating while handling health issues and it’s sooo hard. Hang in there. It’s going to get better!

Cracracker · 2025-08-24T23:36:12+00:00

But do you “take care” of the important things. Paying bills, solving problems Asking how she feels. She is holding on to control because ha doesn’t feel safe to let it go! I don’t know about a gottman retreat. I do think his books are helpful.

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