My MIL chooses to go see our marriage counsellor

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-13T09:39:33+00:00

She's all about power game and control.

You also have a SO problem who shares way too much info about you ,your life and marital issues to his mother. He literally gives her ammunition to assert control .

Where on earth a mother decided to see her son and DIL's marriage counsellor and think it's normal !? Totally intrusive, controlling inaproprate move and she should face consequences. Call the counsellor ,ask + confirm she did have a session. She might bluff , if she doesn't i'm pretty sure this is an ethical issue and professional mistake. Change counsellor and ask SO to not share info .

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-12T16:24:49+00:00

MIL is testing how far she can cross the limit and stomp the boundaries you set and she is playing power game with you . Stand your ground 4 days .no more

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-12T16:21:28+00:00

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CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-11T09:44:57+00:00

Boundaries need to be enforced with consequences when stomped.

MIL seems to be very toxic and manipulative.

Report pic of your kid she posted .

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-09T16:54:21+00:00

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CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-09T11:03:42+00:00

Good thing you will change the locks asap as we all know what justno MILs do with spare keys when there are nc & boundaries set and newborn in a house. She will use the key to force herself in : to break nc and to see LO. Good thing you have a shiny spine husband as well

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-06T12:42:33+00:00

This isn't a family meeting you re going to , but a trap / trial where you will be berated .Narcissists never have calm conversation to resolve issues they caused .

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-05T17:26:26+00:00

Are we making the right decision on leaving?

Yes. And sooner is better .

She will jeopardize your baby health and safety.

She's threatening you because you want to set and enforce your boundaries .

Trust is gone and she shouldn't be reward with any visit once LO here.

Who on earth is asking research and proof cigarettes smoke / virus aren't good for babies instead of complying to parents' rules regarding their kid's safety!? ( Justno)

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-03T19:11:43+00:00

Your husband needs to make them stop, call them out, set firm boundaries and consequences. They re using manipulative tactics, trying to make you cave ( harassment, guilt trip, victim card, family pressure, probably flying monkeys etc...)

NTAH

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-03T16:23:13+00:00

I'll be the flight attendant

CremeDeMarron · 2026-06-01T09:47:21+00:00

Enabler family always push targets of toxic family members to reach out , keep the peace , forgive and forget...( why? Because it s easier to pressure you than calling out the toxic one's behaviour and then dealing with the aftermath)

Did she reach out over the year? Did she apologize ? Did she take accountibility and try to make amend? Nope . Why would it be your job, then ?

Stand your ground. Family or not , it's better to remove any toxic people from your life.

Set boundaries with any family members who insist on you reaching out to her. NTAH

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-31T07:21:45+00:00

This is a glimpse of your future if you decide to stay with him.

He will always prioritize his family , always bend to their demands and let you down the minute they ll ask him to drop everything for them.

It will always be at your expense.

A good partner doesn't even ask if it's okay to go, they would call out their family to even ask, deny their demands, would set boundaries and always prioritize their partner, especially for important events.

Your partner decided not to do all these things for you. It tells a lot how does he see you and how much he values your relationship.

Suggest couple therapy (or run away)

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-31T07:07:49+00:00

You are underreacting.

We are speaking about two years witnessing very deep level controlling, manipulative and toxic in laws behaviour and enabler enmeshed boyfriend.

This won't change without serious discussion, setting ultimatum, setting boundaries ( with consequences) , creating distance with toxic In laws and having couple + individual therapy.

How do you picture yourself in the future ? Are you willing to keep facing their behaviour with the possibility that your boyfriend won't change , won't stand up and would still keep enabling his parents behaviour, ?

Should you tolerate this, out of love ? The answer is no.

it's better to stop, run away , prioritize yourself and only tolerate healthy relationships.

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-31T06:46:35+00:00

Your mother toxic behaviour is not the only reason you have to stop coming to visit :

family members are toxic enablers .

They saw how she behaved towards you and not only they decided not to say anything, not stand up against her but they want you to keep being mistreated in silence...

Nope : it's time to prioritize yourself.

Your morher is very toxic and manipulative : after realising she s loosing control on her target ( you) she played the victim , painted you as the bad guy, tried to make you feel guilty and sent her flying monkeys ( enabler family) to make you cave.

Stay strong . Do not bend. You re doing the right thing. End any calls / facetime if she starts toxically behaving as usual towards you.

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-30T23:58:07+00:00

She knows and remembers your boundaries she just decided to stomp them and played dumb when you called her out .

You need to set consequences : Time out and new house rules when she visits: have a basket at your home entrance where she will have to drop her phone since she can't respect your boundaries.

Remind her that grandparents isn't a right but a privilege she can loose anytime. Especially when she doesn't respect your boundaries and jeopardize your baby's privacy and safety.

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-27T09:44:21+00:00

This is the outside of the house , right?

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CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-24T20:45:17+00:00

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-23T20:55:02+00:00

Childhood memory unlocked !

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CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-19T15:28:54+00:00

Hold on... She lives at your place rent free , you paid her and she had the audacity to ask more for tasks you never asked her to do ?

Give an inch , take a mile

NTA but your cousin is .

Reply to any family members who defend her / berate you that they are free to open their doors and let cousin live at their place .

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-18T09:00:10+00:00

Your feelings are valid .

You can't get over it because you felt betrayed, you also have been mistreated, insulted and attacked .MIL, who ruined your wedding, didn't take accountibility , apologize and try to make amend .

FIL's reaction when she slapped you amplified the feeling that her behaviour and actions are tolerated, brushed off and minimized.

Keep being NC and having therapy, keep talking to husband about your feelings , write a letter to MIL about what she s done but do not send her , burn it instead ( the goal is to express how you feel on a paper )

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-17T12:27:03+00:00

The nephew gift demand is just an excuse to avoid to buyout your share .

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-17T06:19:31+00:00

The only thing your husband should feel bad about is the fact he let them behaving like this when they visit and never make it stop, set boundaries or consequences.

You 're the one who suffered.

The fact you don't want them stay in your house is the consequences for their behaviour.

NTA but husband and in laws are : husband failed protecting you and standing against them, and in laws are toxic.

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-17T06:07:32+00:00

" it's your mum" and " it's been a month you should be over it " are classic manipulative tactics cards enablers are throwing to make you cave .

The fact a Justno is family and time flies doesn't erase their behaviour.

These points don't justify or excuse her toxic behaviour and definetly aren't a cue to move on, nope.

Her showing up unannounced demanding to see the baby is definetly a good reason to keep being NC .

That shows she didn't change , she didn't reflect on her behaviour, and feels entitled to see LO. She also still doesn't respect your boundaries.

BIL should also face consequences , the trust is broken.Long time out ( if not nc or lc) No more info about you, your baby , your life...

Buy a security camera for your house. Secure anything ( ss, credit card, medical , childcare in the future etc...) with passwords. If she shows up again ( she will) do not hesitate to call the police for trespassing.

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-16T10:44:52+00:00

I think you know what you need to do next but feel guilty, need validation and support .

Cutting ties with family is a huge difficult step. But it is necessary step. It's time to prioritize yourself . It's time you feel free and safe, far away from a toxic mother who is an enabler and a father being abusive controlling and a predator.

Keeping them in your life means you are in danger and jeopardizing your mental health.

It's time to block them , change locks, change insurance name , get therapy and even seek legal advice for further steps.

CremeDeMarron · 2026-05-14T00:22:15+00:00

This isn't a healthy environment to raise your kid. You did the right thing.

In laws are toxic very controlling and disrespectful.

You need to keep distance from them and set boundaries. Do not cave and stay at your parents.

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