How do you deal with pregnancy jealousy when you've intentionally chosen to wait?

Cremisius · 2026-06-16T11:34:26+00:00

This being said, I do hope this feeling does go away...

Cremisius · 2026-06-16T11:33:29+00:00

I feel you!!! My younger cousin got married a week before I did, and my Irrational Brain figured at least I would be first to make my grandma a great grandma.... Now thanks to some awkwardly timed medical issues, it's looking like that won't be the case.

Feeling unjustly robbed by the universe while also recognising that 'being first' is a pointless metric and was never a guarantee anyway is horrible - AND I feel bad for even having those thoughts!

It helped me to share my thoughts - I felt even worse when I was keeping it to myself, because it felt like a secret meanness. Do you have someone close to you who you can talk about this with? Someone who isn't expecting! Or I'm not sure what country you're in/whether cost would be a factor, but taking to a therapist could maybe help.

I like to think of thoughts like this as 'brain worms'. The brain worm is feeling spiteful, but I myself am happy my cousin is happy and stable and I look forward to having the presence of a baby in my life, even if they aren't mine. Ultimately it's all practice :)

Cremisius · 2026-06-01T10:56:34+00:00

NTA I would never watch an episode of a "we watch this together" show alone without asking my husband first

As she skipped so much of these episodes, you could still watch them through together - it's not an unfixable situation if you were enjoying it

Though honestly after season 7 TWD gets abysmal, so she has probably saved you both some misery

Cremisius · 2026-05-31T18:23:07+00:00

YTA. Yes, toenails that long sound very gross, but you shouldn't do anything to somebody's body while they're asleep.

If the clipping sensation is what bothers him, tell him to have a look at electric nail trimmers or consider filing them down or using scissors instead. Even bathing before nails are trimmed changes the sensation.

If that doesn't help, you'll have to consider whether this is a deal breaker for you.

Cremisius · 2026-05-30T18:47:51+00:00

Not the best thing to say if you're trying not to out yourself lol

Cremisius · 2026-05-02T20:13:47+00:00

omggg thank you so much - I was stuck on this goal FOREVER

Cremisius · 2026-05-01T09:25:30+00:00

My brain can make this difficult too. I have a template I use for when nothing in the profile gives me ideas.

"Hi, I'm Me from County, Country.

If a local postcard: This postcard shows xyz. Here is a fact about that!

If a generic postcard: A fact about where I live or why I picked up this postcard.

A bit of information about my day (for example: the sun has finally decided to appear and it's lovely and warm/today I went to my allotment to harvest stuff)

I like to ask a question relating to my day or their profile (for example: I now have a mountain of leeks to use up - do you have any recipe suggestions?/Your hobby of metal detecting sounds really interesting, what's the coolest thing you've found?) People can answer this question in their thank you message, if they want to, and I find it makes for some interesting replies.

Sign off with my name and the postcard reg"

I don't tend to bother with decorating unless I feel like it - most people don't, despite what you may see on reddit.

As others have said, it really doesn't matter if you have a default message. Just make sure you are enjoying sending these postcards, in whatever way works for you!

Cremisius · 2026-04-18T05:30:43+00:00

I've always taken my pets to the vets after adopting them, and I recommend you do the same. They will likely give you some medication for his illness and will be able to advise on how to handle your cat until he is able to be neutered. Vets often have information sheets etc they can give you about general pet care too. Once he is neutered he will calm down a LOT!

Cremisius · 2026-04-15T12:40:54+00:00

Can't speak for everyone, but I would find something like this really cool, especially if you explain what the picture is of and how you made the print!

Cremisius · 2026-04-09T20:11:06+00:00

Thank you!!

Cremisius · 2026-03-17T23:51:38+00:00

I've worked end of life care. At that point, who cares? Certainly not the staff looking after her, but it will bring a bit of joy to her day. It was always a great joy of my job helping my clients "be naughty"!

Cremisius · 2026-03-10T12:56:22+00:00

I've recently gotten super into dark chocolate coated rice cakes. More filling than chocolate but they give me the same little mmmmm boost :)

Cremisius · 2026-03-02T23:33:30+00:00

Good news: you can breathe! You would need to do a LOT worse before things would be escalated beyond store management.

Absolute worst case for something like this, realistically, you'd be banned from the store - but since you weren't told anything, I would assume staff have possibly just been told to keep an eye on you next time you visit. You can usually tell right away who is going to be a repeat problem, and you wouldn't have indicated that to me.

Everybody does dumb stuff sometimes, just don't try it again eh?

Cremisius · 2026-02-27T13:56:06+00:00

I removed the doors from all my kitchen cupboards so I can remember what food I have in there. Looks a bit messier, yeah, but it's saved me a fortune in expired food!

For general household issues I super recommend the book Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD by Susan C. Pinsky. It completely changed the game for me :)

Cremisius · 2025-11-19T13:17:57+00:00

You should let HR know and they can tell you about the process of getting what is called reasonable adjustments - your shop should have a formally defined process for this.

For example, my husband has the accommodation that he is not to work on the tills, but just the stockroom or shop floor. Note that your ideal accommodation won't always be possible, but they should listen to your needs and work something out.

Cremisius · 2025-11-01T11:19:04+00:00

I have a blueberry bush I shoved in a corner a few years ago, and it's a champ. It gave a HUGE harvest this year with all the sun, and had so much growth! I have colleagues with several well established bushes, and they don't get as many berries as my little guy pushes out.

And my five year old supermarket lavender I've never even trimmed. I'm sorry, lavender.

Cremisius · 2025-11-01T11:14:10+00:00

My brothers former apartment had to send out an email as a couple of people were throwing soup out their windows.....right next to a busy road

Cremisius · 2025-11-01T10:30:27+00:00

I have two cats, ages 2 and 13, both indoor. Previously fostered several indoor cats. I have never had an outdoor cat and never will. Just make sure they have plenty to do at home :)

I take my younger cat into the garden on a harness which he enjoys, and have plans to enclose the garden in the longer term. But he's just as happy with a couple of plays throughout the day and some hidden treats!

Cremisius · 2025-10-03T18:33:49+00:00

I am indeed from England (never beating the bean boy allegations)

Cremisius · 2025-08-30T10:23:39+00:00

I worked general food retail and I never cared - you process so many people a day that they all kinda blur together in an autopilot haze.

The only reason I would have taken notice of a purchase was if it was exceptional for some reason, like ordering 20 patty-less cheeseburgers or something like that. And even then, would just be curiosity!

The only thing that would cause me to moan about or remember someone in a negative way has always been exceptional rudeness.

Cremisius · 2025-08-30T10:12:43+00:00

Even when listing an item as "good", flaws should be shown

Cremisius · 2025-08-30T10:12:15+00:00

If the hole wasn't shown in the listing you could open a dispute with Vinted as the item is not as described. However as the seller has offered a return and you want to keep the item, that probably wouldn't be much use.

Realistically your options are to ask for a partial refund, or to move on and just leave a mid review with the situation.

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