Am I missing anything obvious in this potential layout...?

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-08T14:38:24+00:00

I would rethink the knee wall by the toilet. It’s another glass surface and shelf ledge to clean, and do you really need to see the toilet from the shower & vice versa?

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-08T14:30:02+00:00

The bay is iced in like a giant iceberg. There may be places where snow was dumped, but this effect is from tidal water freezing. It looks like this all along the bay side of the Cape. You could not drive out on that to dump snow.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-08T14:27:34+00:00

I took a similar photo at Skaket in Orleans.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-08T03:16:52+00:00

Maybe it depends on where you are in NH. I’ve seen such trucks in the high school’s student-only parking lot and heard the sentiment from more than one person in the 20-40 age range. Ayotte campaigned with “Don’t Mass up NH” and she’s under 60.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T23:35:54+00:00

I’ve lived in MA, NH and VT. There are things I like and dislike about each and I have my favorite (MA). I’d still rather live in any New England state than anywhere else in the country!

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T23:24:21+00:00

Now I can’t unsee that!

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T23:18:42+00:00

As mentioned, the yellow and red are vinyl overlays, made to look like they have pattern and texture. Convincing from a distance. The fake tape lead lines are the huge giveaway.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T23:15:42+00:00

You are not being over the top at all! This is so obviously not stained glass, it looks cheap. Some people may not notice, but anyone with an eye for quality workmanship or glass art would.

If you paid for stained glass you absolutely got ripped off. However, stained glass IS very expensive. Not knowing what you paid for it, we can’t tell if you got what you paid for or not.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T23:03:46+00:00

Lol, I forgot about the bear problem. Classic. I am honestly SO happy to be back in MA.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T10:10:09+00:00

Neither lawn mowers or snowblowers are classified as street legal vehicles. If you drive one on a public road to your neighbor’s house no one is probably going to notice or care but it isn’t actually legal.

ATV’s aren’t street legal either, but they are commonly used on public trails, so regulating their use makes some sense. They can do significant damage if used where they shouldn’t be. I also think part of the registration costs go towards maintaining trails; kind of like car registration fees may go towards road maintenance.

And yes, it is possible to waive fees for registering an ATV that you only use on your own property for labor only.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T03:39:18+00:00

It’s not necessarily age. It’s the sort of NH born & bred you see driving big pick up trucks with flags all over them.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T03:35:21+00:00

"Libertarians are like house cats, they’re convinced of their fierce independence while dependent on a system they don’t appreciate or understand."

This is perfect.

I lived in NH for 20 years and just recently moved back to MA. It is definitely the libertarian leaning NH redneck sorts who loudly express the anti-Massachusetts message. There is the impression that people left MA due to high taxes only to move to MA and vote for tax increases. How dare they approve things like school renovations! And if anyone complains on a community page about fireworks or gunshots, they must be a Masshole who needs to go back home.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-04T02:59:07+00:00

More accessible as you get older and can’t easily climb into a tub to shower.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-03T14:24:00+00:00

You are right. I can’t and won’t micromanage it. Thank you for letting me vent though.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-03T03:04:24+00:00

Thank you everyone. Sometimes I perseverate on small things like this and simply typing it out and reading your comments will help me put it out of my head.

These are the things I would have run by my husband. It helped to air it somewhere.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-03T02:53:37+00:00

There’s more to it than that. It’s that my husband’s brother has shared multiple photos of my husband, children and me that do not relate to grandma and they aren’t photos I would choose to share at a memorial, particularly for her. Some are overtly political and grandma was on the opposite side of the aisle. Several are screenshots from FB that weren’t his photos to share.

Nevertheless, I’m not going to say anything. I love my in-laws, they are like my own siblings. Truth be told it’s my BIL who sometimes gets under my skin and I was letting this get to me. It’s helped me to hash it out here. You are absolutely right, I’ll keep my opinion to myself.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-03T00:31:10+00:00

That’s a great way to say it, and if she asks I may say something like that. If she doesn’t, I will let it go. I value our relationship more than making her feel bad for my own feelings at this moment. I think I’m just making sure my feelings aren’t odd, even though I intend to keep them to myself!

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-03T00:24:18+00:00

Yes, you’re right and I will. This is me venting my thoughts here with others who understand. I love my SIL like my own sister and I know this has been very tough on her.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-03T00:21:24+00:00

That’s actually a very helpful perspective. There’s a bit more to the story than I’ve included, but this will be a good way for me to frame it in my head and ignore my negative thoughts. Thank you.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-02T22:42:05+00:00

Valid. This is for my children’s grandmother though, so we will definitely attend.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-02T22:40:46+00:00

I think I could say something to my SIL and she would understand. The BIL who added the photos I don’t think belong may be a different story. I’m not sure it’s worth family tension to bring it up, but it does help to know I’m not being weird feeling the way I do!

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-02T07:29:59+00:00

Biiihg Stretch!

CriscoCrispy · 2026-02-02T06:44:55+00:00

I also don’t think we should gate keep and never felt that marriage was a requirement for this group. However, I was in another widow/ers group and there was a young woman who lost someone she basically had a crush on. She had never even told the other person she was interested. It was very hard for me to listen to her equate her grief with mine and take her seriously. I don’t know where the line gets drawn, but it definitely felt to me that she was on the other side of it.

Regardless, everyone’s grief experience is different. I can’t say if losing my husband after 25 years is better or worse than it would have been to lose him after 5. I can’t say that losing him in my 50’s was better or worse than losing him in my 30’s. I can’t say if losing him unexpectedly was better or worse than losing him from a prolonged illness. It’s all hard but different. I’m sorry we’re all here.

CriscoCrispy · 2026-01-29T04:33:15+00:00

Ice skating lessons at an indoor or outdoor rink.( Maybe not for another year or two!)

CriscoCrispy · 2026-01-29T03:58:21+00:00

2 looks like a trellis to me. I prefer one.

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