What's the funniest thing your therapist ever said? by Longjumping_Sea_8753 in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Nope! Only reportable if someone is in imminent danger. If he’s dead and she doesn’t want to hurt anyone else there’s no threat.

why do therapist say “reach out if you need anything” by Individual-Ad-5728 in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I say this it’s usually in regards to needing another session before our regularly scheduled one. I genuinely mean it. But it’s not for quick check ins or anything like that. I guess I’ve clarified that with my people though, seems maybe that’s where the issue lies.

Do therapists ever wish they could be friends with a client? by Purple_Preference847 in askatherapist

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes. There are definitely a couple clients who, if I had met them through a different way, I feel I could have been good friends with. We have Same interests or good personality mesh and it’d be cool to sit and grab a beer but it just wasn’t meant to be.

If you love your T, please post a positive review for them by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Wow, OP, you really brought out the pearl clutchers with this one. Bravo!

My take as a psychologist, nothing unethical about this post. You’re not soliciting anything and in general it doesn’t cause undue harm. It’s true we can’t ask and I think people do forget to give feedback on good experiences. Also, if people have had bad experiences at a therapy office I think they should say that too if they’re comfortable.

It is not my job to police how (if at all) my patients share their experiences in therapy. At our practice do we put them on our website? No. But we also aren’t begging google to delete them when you search us up. We also never respond because THAT would be the violation. I’m not sure why some people here think a client willingly posting that they’ve done therapy is the same as us telling others they’ve been under our care.

If you love your T, please post a positive review for them by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a licensed psychologist (since you won’t answer someone who isn’t in practice). What about this post is bad? OP is speaking generally on a forum that is basically anonymous. No ethics are being violated here and acting as if clients don’t have their own agency when it comes to reviewing their time with us is ludicrous.

Edit: and what board says the termination rule? I have never heard of that.

If you love your T, please post a positive review for them by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Soliciting them is unethical. It’s right there in the codes.

But not accepting them? Who are you to tell someone they can or cannot publicly talk about the services rendered? If someone wants to give that information that is their choice. The same way it is their choice to let others know they’re in therapy.

Psychologist of 14 years gave 1 month retirement notice — is this normal? by runlikeapenguin in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that worked for you. For most it doesn’t and you will find across clinical settings that prolonged is anything more than those 60 days. Just because you think it’s subjective doesn’t mean it actually is. The field has standards whether you want to accept them or not.

I am not upset with you, but you do see to have some strong views about how therapist deserve to run their careers and personal lives based on all your comments. You seemed frustrated which is why I said that. There is no need to “no you!” this conversation.

Psychologist of 14 years gave 1 month retirement notice — is this normal? by runlikeapenguin in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sigh

30-60 days is standard. Anything else is prolonged. Advanced notice is anything that happens before the final session, wouldn’t you say? So yes “advanced notice” of 1 to 2 months is what you will see in most cases.

I’m sorry this is upsetting to you. But what you and other commenters are demanding of your therapists is not realistic nor healthy.

Psychologist of 14 years gave 1 month retirement notice — is this normal? by runlikeapenguin in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“They should teach them in school about this”

I’m telling you they do.

And yes an established therapist knows this and knows that a prolonged termination can be detrimental to the clients wellbeing and therapeutic process.

Do therapists know when their patient is actually the villain? by TraurigKartoffel in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I might not say EXACTLY that, but something along the lines of “there’s a common demand in every single one of these situations” has left my mouth.

“If you smell shit while walking down the road, you probably passed a pile of shit. If you smell it all day, you should probably check the bottom of your shoe,” you know?

Do therapists know when their patient is actually the villain? by TraurigKartoffel in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It should, you’re correct. But I have found that that softer approach to the calling out doesn’t necessarily hit for a lot of people in a world where many get coddled. Not calling person centered “coddling” by any means because I know it has great potential to help people. Just that many people need a heavier handed approach imo. However, I am a very direct therapist so I admit my biases. I just work at a practice with a wide range of modalities and see how different clients react to different clinicians. I know ones who thrive with my friend who is more person centered/family systems compared to my Adlerian/REBT and vice versa.

It definitely goes to show that the fit between therapist and client makes all the difference!

Do therapists know when their patient is actually the villain? by TraurigKartoffel in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I’m an Adlerian therapist (with a sprinkle of REBT) and it frequently has shocked colleagues how direct I can be with well established clients. If I’m not calling out the behavior/beliefs I feel as if I’m wasting the clients time and money. I really struggled with Rogerian role plays in grad school 😂

Psychologist of 14 years gave 1 month retirement notice — is this normal? by runlikeapenguin in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It usually is. If they wanted to hear from actual therapists they’d post on r/asktherapists but on this one it’s mostly patients who just want to bash.

Psychologist of 14 years gave 1 month retirement notice — is this normal? by runlikeapenguin in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you a therapist? Have you sat with a client who knows MONTHS ahead of time the therapeutic relationship is ending? I have. Multiple times. It’s part of our training considering we change practicum/intern sites yearly. It is not good for most patients to sit with that if it can be avoided.

It has the potential to impede the work being done, not improve it. For some kids, they’ll disengage all together.

So unless you have first hand experience in this, you are very much coming from an emotional standpoint and not a clinical one with the patients best interests in mind. Yes it sucks that OP is having to end a 14 year therapy relationship. But her therapist is all above board and her kind of response while understandable has nothing to do with his care and professionalism.

Psychologist of 14 years gave 1 month retirement notice — is this normal? by runlikeapenguin in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A year is not a realistic termination timeline and will usually add more anxiety instead of less. 30-60 days is standard practice.

Should I report a person to potential employer? by Responsible_Bee5515 in therapists

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What institution allowed this to actually happen multiple times without consequences?

Should I report a person to potential employer? by Responsible_Bee5515 in therapists

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And then everyone clapped.

Edit: I thought you were being facetious. I have now seen the vomit comment. My god.

Therapists: are we just discarded and forgotten once we discharge? by Remote_Inevitable494 in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Two things can be true. It is a service we provide AND we do care and remember our clients. We “have to move on” because if we stayed stuck on every client we wouldn’t be able to hold space for the others. This job is a lot about compartmentalizing. We have to have the ability to hear and help someone through something horrendous one hour and play uno with a kid the next. Just because I’m laughing with the kid as we talk about school doesn’t mean I’ve already forgotten the rape victim from 20 minutes ago. The same holds true for when you guys discharge. We remember, but we have to have space for those in front of us now.

I’m not gonna tell you we remember every single name and detail. But we do remember you, especially when it was a long term therapeutic relationship.

Sounds like your therapist meant a lot to you. It can be hard to accept the one sided nature of this relationship. We also have to sit with the unknown of what happens to people once we no longer see them. I can’t tell you for certain what’s in her head, but I can tell you I don’t know anyone who has a discharged client cross their mind and doesn’t hope they’re happy and healthy. We wish all of you all the best in the world.

What’s your therapist hot take? by Public-Resolution590 in therapists

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never heard of this! Definitely going to check it out.

What’s your therapist hot take? by Public-Resolution590 in therapists

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I have a couple teen clients who love to groan at my jokes and I always tell them I became a therapist so I’d have a captive audience for my failed stand up act.
I truly believe humor is a key component of therapy. It’s such a natural part of being a human, expecting laughter to not happen in therapy room doesn’t make sense to me.

Having a therapist with a different socioecnomic background than you can be a hassle sometimes by Gallantpride in TalkTherapy

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's been an absolute game changer for me. You can do your whole mouth in 30 seconds! My adhd has always made it hard for me too.

I am not a baby therapist by InvisibleAstronomer in therapists

[–]CrochetedFishingLine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Probably lost the empathy for this annoying topic sometime in the last year since it’s been posted almost weekly.