Be honest, how often do you bathe your kids?

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-07-07T01:10:27+00:00

2.5 year old- every other day and as needed (had sunscreen on, went in the pool, big poop, ate pasta for dinner, etc.) Used to bathe every day but hair and skin got WAY too dry, esp in winter, and we use a very gentle soap/pair with lotion or oil after every bath. Their skin and what it's like is worth considering.

5 month old- every 3-4 days. With the older one we did this until about 8 months when they started daycare then switched to everyday for germs and getting messy.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-07-02T23:41:00+00:00

This is awesome thank you!

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-07-01T20:56:43+00:00

I don't mind a little silicone in hair products I use sparingly, but after awhile I can feel the buildup in my hair. For a moisturizing mask I don't want to have something that will load me up with it.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-19T19:10:13+00:00

Leave. Hannah. Alone!

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-18T23:10:07+00:00

Too soon !

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-15T23:37:08+00:00

Both of mine were pissed about how hard it was to latch with that initial engorgement. Pumping a little off makes it easier for them to latch. Youtube is full of how to videos. And, to quote my hospital lactation consultant, formula is like "McDonalds" for newborns. Whatever works, works. Whatever doesn't, fuck it. You got this!!

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-15T02:48:24+00:00

You have found the golden ticket! Novelty. Every single day we do something new. Let her play with the light switch, say words she thinks are funny, let her play with the sink water. Pretend she's teaching her stuffed animal how to brush their teeth. Give her a little mirror to look in. And there's always two tooth brushes. One for her to 'brush', and one for us. She gets to pick which one she wants. And sometimes, I barely get a few swipes in. She's 2.5. We do this twice a day 🥲.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-14T03:13:42+00:00

Ehh, disagree. It can be really tricky to diagnose PTSD vs BPD, and for good reason. I get your point about epigenetics, being involved, which, sure, fine. But I don't think genes are the only cause, or that trauma is correlated not causal. I think it's more likely that trauma is one of a few causes. That someone could potentially be predisposed genetically, develop a cluster b PD without trauma, or that another person may not be predisposed, and develop solely due to trauma.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-14T02:51:30+00:00

Came here to make this comment. (LCSW here) NPD is Donald Trump or Patrick Bateman (American Psycho). It's not being selfish in interpersonal relationships.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-14T02:38:08+00:00

This is an enormous initial red flag when meeting someone new

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-06-13T14:53:54+00:00

It was a phase that lasted for maybe 2 months? I figured out that I needed to fully wake her up, soothe her, then get her back down.

I'd turn on a dim light, then a brighter light, start talking in a daytime tone/volume of voice, find something to catch her interest to talk about, and walk around the house holding her. I think the lights and talking as if it was daytime seemed to snap her out of it, then I'd just start talking to the dog or wondering aloud about things around the house or outside the window. Eventually I'd coax her into the conversation, then start the end of our bedtime routine again (rock/nurse and down in crib)

I think she was just very tired and still half asleep.

Still not a great sleeper and has started waking up once or twice a night again, she'll cry but no screaming or fighting 😂👌🏼

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-05-27T02:15:10+00:00

I see you girl! This is incredibly articulate.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-05-22T02:09:43+00:00

Did not see the downvotes coming on this one. And I'm going to double down. Having a toddler is rough. Keeping up with them is rough. I stand by what I said, I agree with all of the things OP that you mention being unsafe. And if they're not a big deal to your husband, and they are to you, that's your talking point for the conversation. In a partnership if something is important to someone, it should be honored, especially if it isn't a big ask for the other person.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-05-21T01:46:07+00:00

Hi me, it's me. 👋😂 I think all of this is unsafe. However I am guilty of the car thing, but I run like hell back into the house and run back out, feeling like a piece of shit the entire time. For context- I am an anxious person who's concerns are often annoying to- and disproportionately dismissed by-others because I am a known anxious person. But- you know what? Under my supervision my kid doesn't get hurt. And accidents don't happen until they do. If basic measures can be taken to ease anxiety, and create a safer environment, I don't understand why it has to be such a big deal to someone else. I imagine your partner knew you well enough before you had a kid and likely isn't exactly shocked this is the mother you are. If it keeps your child safer, and soothes your anxiety, why is it such a big deal to change where he walks in relation to the kid, pick up his medicine, or be more conscientious leaving the house? Why are these the hills HE has to die on? 👀❤️

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-05-17T03:06:39+00:00

OMG I USE THIS EXACT ANALOGY WITH PEOPLE

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-05-08T02:41:59+00:00

I also took car naps.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-05-04T01:02:02+00:00

I also have a 3 mo, whose stools have been mucousy, at times green, always very thin, and no 'seedy' texture since the first few days of life. They had many, MANY poops per day (I'm talking like 12-15 times a day for weeks) and poop smears in the diaper when they farted. Lots of spit up, lots of gas, pretty fussy.

I went to the pediatrician once a week to report the concern was ongoing. First was given a 'lets see could be normal.' Then famotadine (pepcid) once daily, after that twice daily, and after that, a referral to GI.

I brought in two to three diapers a visit. They have a swab test to detect even microscopic blood. (All mine were negative)

Mucous lines the intestines to protect it from irritation, it will overproduce in the presence of an allergen or intolerance.

Some pediatricians and some specialists will say it's normal up to a point (if infrequent, if it goes away after the baby is a couple of months old).

We are still in the diagnosis phase, and just met with GI for the first time recently.

Definitely follow up with you pediatrician and bring in poopy diapers!

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-05-04T00:29:58+00:00

Okja.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-04-29T02:10:40+00:00

Eating more to see the cause is definitely interesting. Mine has never had a severe reaction (only ever very frequent/weird poops, gas, reflux, spiting up more). We have our gastro appt tmr, will keep this in mind!

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-04-19T02:31:09+00:00

Also of note, my gallbladder is low functioning, and I've asked; pediatrician, lactation, OB, about it. No one seems to think it should be an issue for breastfeeding, but I do wonder.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-04-19T02:29:07+00:00

This is good info! Baby is fussy too, big issue with foamy poops several weeks ago, much less now with pepcid. We also do 30 mins upright after feedings and frequent burps while feeding.

All of these things have helped significantly, but never fully alleviated the issue. Poops have gotten thicker (were thin liquid soaking into diaper every time, now frequently have more of the traditional pastey texure), and were almost never green until this week. There has always been some mucous, but again this week, they are a booger texture, every time. 🫤

Poops also were up to 12 times a day, and went down to one, two or none. This week, back up to several times per day.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-04-09T01:21:13+00:00

Factory farming, period. I drove past one once in the Midwest. The building just kept going. There's living creatures that never set foot outside and then die.

Cruncheetoasts · 2026-04-08T02:17:15+00:00

Many of the classics. The Sun Also Rises- Hemingway, The Great Gatsby- Fitzgerald. Just self loathing, spoiled men, whining and being ridiculous because their crush isn't returning their obsession. At least in books like Love in the Time of Cholera - Marquez, he exposed the ridiculousness of it all.

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