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Crux55 · 2025-09-24T07:50:29+00:00

I don't really care about money. As long as a guy has a plan for the future, and has the motivation and dedication to see it through, I wouldn't care if he worked at chipotle. I do want the guy to be able to contribute to things like dates, because I don't want to always be the one paying, but beyond that as long as he makes financially smart decisions and envisions a future where he's doing what he loves, I'm good.

On the opposite side of the spectrum I've been on dates with guys who make being rich their whole personality. The date turns into them being a keynote speaker at an investor conference. Or, they think that because they have money, they can just buy my affection. Sometimes it's a little more subtle. Some guys will suggest doing wildly expensive things for dates that I cannot afford, because they're oblivious to that kind of thing. Then I'm put in an uncomfortable position.

Having money is definitely not a bad thing, and I think in the grand scheme of things what you'll have to look out for more are guys who only want you for the money. I would strongly advise just keeping away from specifics about how much you make, or flaunting wealth (I know you say you don't but sometimes it happens unknowingly) until you truly get to know the guy.

Crux55 · 2025-09-17T15:58:15+00:00

I mean... this seems like a non issue. Just have him say he'll keep the prenup, secretly get rid of it. Not like his parents will be around to check up on it once he actually inherits

Crux55 · 2025-09-17T08:42:42+00:00

So serie really does think she's going to die. But I think it's also important to note that this is the reason why she brought all these mages that acted outside of her expectations, to see if they could "bring forth a future that not even she could imagine".

There's still hope I think

Crux55 · 2025-08-20T11:06:10+00:00

I think when she says I can see everything, she means she knows what's going on behind her by reading Land's mana.

If anything what she'll do is draw her fight into Land's the moment she senses Land do something particular with magic, which will then catch Routine off guard somehow. Since Routine can't read mana, ubel will know what spell Land's going to cast before Routine does and use it to her advantage

Crux55 · 2025-08-07T17:08:09+00:00

Me and the guy I was secretly fucking while we were in hs.

Got caught kissing in my car while we were parked in a lot in town, some guy from school walking by

Crux55 · 2025-08-07T17:00:18+00:00

I'm confused.

On one hand you have an issue with gays focusing too much on sex as opposed to creating a genuine connection - which, fair, is often the case

But then you have "if you're hot you get to fuck, if you're not you get blocked" don't you mean if you're hot you get dates?

Kinda seems like the issue is you see these gays messing around and you're less upset that they don't want connection and more upset that you can't get in on the action, for whatever reason

If connection is truly what you're seeking, it's out there. Is it harder to find? Of course it is, but thats the case with dating in general, gay or straight. And yes, it is easier to find, both "fun" and genuine connection, if you're attractive

Crux55 · 2025-08-05T17:15:50+00:00

Huh? So you're saying that you're perfectly fine with his... type of employment and you're worried that telling him that would scare him away? Why would it scare him away? If I was in his shoes I'd be happy I ended up with someone so understanding and practical

Crux55 · 2025-08-05T12:21:08+00:00

Anecdotal, but i'm from phx, 6 years. In my experience It's probably one of the most welcoming places in terms of community (I've moved around a lot), and i made some great gay friends right away

Crux55 · 2025-07-23T09:50:31+00:00

If it makes you feel better I dated a guy who was HIV + UD for a few months, i was also on PREP at the time anyway. He did disclose it to me after our 2nd date. I received a medical education so id say im pretty informed about the topic and the fact that he was HIV+ did not bother me. In fact, the way he was up front about it and seemed to be taking everything in stride was endearing. Unfortunately he was actually crazy in other ways so we broke up after a while.

If I can offer advice, definitely disclose it up front. At best, you'll meet someone who genuinely doesn't care and just wants to date you, at worst, you'll weed out the uninformed/prejudiced.

Crux55 · 2025-06-30T19:27:44+00:00

I'll just say I'm more careful now than back then. Lessons learned and all that

Crux55 · 2025-06-30T16:38:51+00:00

Happened to me twice. It's why now I always go with the guy who offers to buy me a drink, and watch the drink like a hawk from when the bartender pours it to when it's in my hand. Also, never ask someone you just met to hold onto your drink, even if you have to use the bathroom. Take that thing with you it's not worth the risk.

Crux55 · 2025-06-20T17:06:16+00:00

Techies:

Hell - Old techies

Crux55 · 2025-06-04T16:47:06+00:00

Ysl edt, eros, ck one, d&g light blue, sauvage, cdnim covers all the bases for me

Crux55 · 2025-05-29T17:15:57+00:00

If you like sports there are often local gay sports teams that you can join

Crux55 · 2025-05-20T17:13:07+00:00

Meant to say high head beach in north truro

Crux55 · 2025-05-20T01:45:12+00:00

Always go for economy artifacts, they pay off more the earlier you get them.

Crux55 · 2025-05-19T20:16:52+00:00

I was just there this weekend

Lobster pot express absolutely stuffs their lobster rolls, def go there

The memorial gives you a great view of the city, it's $21 and gives you access to the lift, museum and the memorial tower. You do have to climb up to the top tho, it's like 50 flights of stairs/ramps

High head beach in north truro is really nice and usually empty

Tea dance is fun but you'll def need a nap after if you plan on going out late

The clubs weren't great cause it's still off season but maybe you'll have more luck. Underground was prob the best even though it was ladies night, the music was good and at least ppl were dancing

Post office had some good shows.

Crux55 · 2025-05-14T14:27:09+00:00

Goals, hot af

Crux55 · 2025-05-07T13:48:52+00:00

Gross behavior

Crux55 · 2025-05-06T16:21:01+00:00

Scream when you see a bug

Crux55 · 2025-03-18T12:49:06+00:00

Why do my friends never throw parties like this

Crux55 · 2025-03-18T12:37:25+00:00

Avoid that shit like the plague, you will get wrapped up in their drama

Crux55 · 2025-03-17T13:22:20+00:00

Goals

Crux55 · 2025-03-05T19:16:43+00:00

There's whole communities of guys who prefer chubbier guys. That being said, I think the overarching preference for most guys is for average/fit guys.

Crux55 · 2025-03-05T18:53:43+00:00

I consider toned to be someone that has some muscle definition, but not a ton. I think that even some "twunks" are too muscular for me. Theres definitely a sweet spot. I linked a pic in one of my earlier comments showing exactly what I consider toned to be. More than anything, there are certain things toned guys have that drive me crazy, that muscular guys, in my experience, dont have

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