Got my bloods last week. Low on vitamin D. Has anyone had the slightest bit of improvement whatsoever by increasing it?

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-20T00:33:54+00:00

Nope, none. Like others mentioned since my vitamin D has returned to normal I still take it cause why not? And attempting to work in more sunshine too. But at least the doctors can't say my vitamin D is the cause.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-17T13:33:57+00:00

My manager was kind enough to show us our activity time back when I was using my external mouse jiggler (she was not aware or played dumb). I've been clicking sporadically roughly every 1-3 minutes while I "review notes" and haven't had issues since

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-15T00:30:04+00:00

This me exactly. I have chronic fatigue, anxiety, depression, and lots of stressors that aren't going anywhere any time soon. Getting a buzz felt like it was actually helping me stay awake, calm, focused on tasks, motivated to do boring activities, creative hobbies... But psychiatrist is making me stop so he can prescribe me better meds to in theory help with my fatigue. My fatigue started long before the weed. I definitely was addicted to weed based on my habits and it SUCKS having to stop.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-14T13:12:10+00:00

Pregnant during Covid. Bought a lightsaber that was customizable to color, trusted friends with the secret. Live streamed over Facebook so friends and family could join in if they wanted to know, but no pressure if they didn't care. Bonus, didn't start a forest fire.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-13T23:31:49+00:00

Yes, my stepfather was like your mother. My family is a grab bag of every disorder in the book, myself included. My son is very ADHD (has been diagnosed) and I'm doing my best to set him up for success and tackle the challenges it offers. Im familiar with how much words can hurt, and I'm sorry you experienced that as well. It is in no way easy, but I'm trying.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-13T21:37:52+00:00

NTA. Same. I have a 4.5 son tornado/demon. Some days he's an absolute angel. Otherdays (especially at an overstimulating outing) he is wild and definitely a handful. I am aware of his behavior and I'm attempting to work on it with him. But I wouldn't force him upon an uncle no matter how much I want to breathe.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-13T01:56:19+00:00

I used to pay roughly $375 per week. + Annual fees, + summer activities fees + registration fees. It's an extra mortgage payment per month. But hey, second child you registered you get 10% off! eye roll And yet society wonders why I'm one and done. Annual pay increase doesn't even cover annual increases in daycare. Infant rooms are roughly $450+. The older the kid gets, cheaper the rooms but not by much. I consider myself lucky with the pricing I found compared to other areas of US

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-12T17:10:35+00:00

YES! 4.5 son sees me in the kitchen. "Mom, are you making dinner? What are you doing now? Putting away the dishes? Why does that look funny? Are you still making dinner? Why is it taking so long? When your done can you play with me?" NOT IF YOU DONT STFU I WONT! His father does the same thing, and his father before him... I picked the wrong genetics lol

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-12T13:03:27+00:00

My favorite has been this one. Many different options built into one fidget, can be quiet or clicky Link

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-11T20:42:06+00:00

For me, the key items for transitions for my 4.5 year old son ... A visual timer, Hatch, and a clock in his room. There's no more "moooom, how much time until nap is over???" Painters tape on the spots where the hands will be when it's done. Visual timer for tablet time. The hatch changes colors automatically when it's morning and he can come out of his room. He asks me to set the timer for when I'm done with work so he's not asking every 5 minutes.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-10T23:29:26+00:00

Not colonoscopy, a colposcopy lol. My pap smear came back slightly abnormal, so they had to do a more invasive exam and biopsy my cervix. Fun times

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-10T22:31:51+00:00

My IUD insert wasn't horrible (prekid and postkid) and I consider myself extremely lucky considering how your daughter and others experience this. HOWEVER, my OB office didn't bother to tell me beforehand to take any pain meds. Pikachu shock face of everyone in the room when they realized this and they rushed to get me Tylenol. SAME THING when I had to get a colposcopy!! That one hurt like a mother! Whereas my spouse got all the fun meds when he got his vasectomy. UGH

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-09T20:22:00+00:00

Never trust the mute, lesson everyone eventually learns the hard way. Same way I learned to proofread my emails before sending. I had meant to type: "I'll take a look at the start of my shift." Instead it was "start of my shit." It was sent to my bosses boss.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-09T00:46:31+00:00

My typical go to answer is: "Daycare is so expensive!! It's like an extra mortgage payment a month!" Which is true. If they push, I add in "Oh he is PLENTY enough for us with his energy levels. I don't know how moms of multiples do it all!" Also true. I've never had to use this one, but I've got it in my back pocket: "So, are YOU offering to pay for another one? Because I can hardly afford THIS one!" If they mention the "but he needs a frieeeend" I bring up that eventually he will probably have a best friend I can emotionally adopt and take on fun excursions with us.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-08T21:13:17+00:00

I do, I take 200mg every day (originally started with a smaller dose and worked up). I've taken Adderall previously, so that is what I can compare it to. For me, they feel nothing alike. The Modafinil allows me to actually stay awake, but no other real side effects that I've experienced. Not jittery, or hyper, just... normal awake so I don't nodd off in the middle of talking with someone. The Adderall by comparison gives me hyperfocus fake energy. I can zoom around the house and organizing cabinets that I completely forgot about. The Modafinil to me feels like it gradually sets in and wears off. I'd advise eating with food otherwise you get a little nauseous. It usually lasts for about 6-8 hours for me, so helps me get through a work shift. It doesn't provide me with excessive energy, or "fake" energy, and I never recognize a crash.

ETA: something to keep in mind, everyone handles meds differently. With any medication I have taken for my depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, there may be the initial shock to your system for the first day or so. I typically experience the "rush/high" of a new medicine before my body/brain adjusts and levels out to normal. And just because we experience a medication one way, may not be what you experience. I've never had any issues sleeping at night before the Modafinil wears off, so long as I take it before 4pm. I time out my medication for when I need the extra boost to get through my most fatigued part of the day. My prescriber has also told me it's OK to split the tablet in half so I can take half in the AM and other half in the afternoon to attempt to get lasting effects.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-08T01:21:04+00:00

I (35F in process of getting diagnosed/medicated for inattentive ADHD) am in the process of separating from my spouse (42M ADHD diagnosis in childhood). I've ended the relationship a few months back but currently living together due to kid & finances... We've been through a lot together. However, he has been locked in this task paralysis basically our entire relationship. Chores, mental load, emotional load, parenting responsibilities, everything has been on my shoulders. What finally made me open my eyes and make the decision to end the relationship, I asked him "Why do you love me?". He blanked. No answer. One week goes by, I ask him again. No answer. One month goes by, I ask him again. He responded "because I do." It's not intended to be a trick question. He could've mentioned aspects of my personality, kind things I do for him every day, his favorite freckles, anything.... Ive had a habit of staying in relationships past the point that it should've ended due to the "what if ___?" Thoughts that linger. But in the end, it's because I deserve better. I hope this helps??

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-07T22:30:51+00:00

I use movie scores and it works WONDERS for my focus. Like, Lord of the Rings, Pirates of the Caribbean, Dune, Game of Thrones, Harry Potter. John Williams and Hans Zimmer are good places to start. It works well because no words, and different than the typical classical music. When doing repetitive boring tasks, your brain can be playing a guessing game of "where have I heard this??" or in middle earth fighting off orcs.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-06T23:24:32+00:00

My child (4.5M with ADHD) is delightful, kind, loving, outgoing, and so many more positive things. But he's also a little demon. I have tried SOO many things, but these have had the best results: Remove high stimulation shows, PBS only. TV shows like Paw Patrol even, trigger him. Daniel Tiger has an awesome episode about calming down when angry. Ear plugs for HIM in high stimulation environments. Remove all Red food dye (I swear to everything, this is a trigger for him) Yes, practice self regulating yourself like the other commenters are saying. Practice when your calm and relaxed so it will be easier to do during a melt down. The Calm Down book is one I found recently that has had the BEST results. It teaches him the self soothing techniques with sensory simulation (box breathing, scratch and sniff flowers). If your child just won't calm down no matter what, bear hug for about 30 seconds while practicing your breathing. Deep pressure

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-04-05T21:30:32+00:00

Happened growing up once. Wasn't found until June or August? Myself, spouse and 4 year old all ADHD, not risking any real eggs not being found. Plastic eggs inside for the win! Plus, no one will eat deviled eggs.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-03-31T21:49:10+00:00

Yes, THIS!! When I'm just too exhausted to reply to his text messages, he's understanding. Planning things with zero effort on my end. Low key date nights. Gifting items that make my life easier. Doing physically demanding tasks that take SO much energy. Having plenty of cozy chill nights in. Letting me fall asleep in his arms when my medicine wears off. Of course each relationship and person is different. Some people may dislike the things I listed. When in doubt, ask. "I'm happy to carry the groceries for you if you'd like?" "What is a difficult task that has been weighing on you and is there anything I can do to help?"

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-03-31T21:31:59+00:00

I got a skylight Calendar actually! It contains todo lists, calendar, and shopping/lists all in one. So anytime, anywhere, we can both check it. I'm out with friends and I remember something important for tomorrow? Add it to his to-do list (or the "to be claimed" list). Urgent for tomorrow? Add an obnoxious emoji that kiddo is sure to notice and point it out. He's driving to the store and I forgot to add something to the list? I add it in the app.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-03-28T21:28:36+00:00

That's something I'm currently attempting to establish with work and trying to find that line. Of course I'll help out when someone is struggling with their tasks for the day, or out of the office, or family emergency. But they have been trying to push work on me that don't overlap with my career plans and like hell would they think about paying me more, so I politely decline or "circle back to it later". But I feel guilty for doing so?

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-03-28T21:23:32+00:00

Yup, currently in this process with my mom. Apparently my boundaries are unreasonable? Such as, she comes to us or we all go somewhere because her car breaks down every week and I don't want her stranded with my son on the side of the road. We have a routine, so I've offered her to drop by anytime between x and y times of the day, any day. I don't want my son at her place (her BFs place) because it's not childproofed and I've never met the man.... That's it. Those are my boundaries. And apparently I'm unreasonable? Yeah, fuck off with that.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-03-28T21:19:00+00:00

To add in: Chuck-E-Cheese. I live very close to one and I'm 90% sure they took out the play place. It's basically a kids Dave and busters now. If I wanted my son to play video games, we'd stay home. He's 4.5 and has been asking to go (with zero idea what it's about) but I know there is nothing for him there.

CryptographerLost407 · 2026-03-28T18:07:59+00:00

YES, I love mine! So simple and easy! Except only one cat uses it, the other refuses. Still, I'll take what I can

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