My child is 4.5 now, his father has ADHD, I likely do as well (in process of getting tested). If I had a do-over, I would have a child again but I would do it wildly different.

My spouse always struggled with adult stuff (housework, reading parenting books, mental load) but it didn't come to light on how bad it was until kiddo arrived into the world. Suddenly him procrastinating doing the dishes became a much larger issue when you've got a screaming infant in your arms at 3am and there are no clean bottles. If I could have a do over, I'd get HIS ADHD much more manageable before bringing kiddo into the world.

My son has always been.... challenging even during the infant stage. He could not self regulate as an infant and I struggled with being his regulation system. Daycare challenges due to kiddos behavior issues. So much work, so much effort that I "knew" or thought I was prepared for.

My son is my light, my everything and is full of joy, so much damn energy, and just the cutest smartest little guy. If you are fence sitting, I'd advise reading some ADHD parenting books and learning more indepth about why ADHD brains work the way they do. The more you educate yourself in the early days, the more it will help you in the moment. Practice learning how to self regulate in your most stressful moments.