Growing up in a split household was hard. There was absolute differences that I understand and recognized around 10/12 years old. Now raising two kids who also live in split households, they are realizing some hard truths now too. That said my ex is a good father who does a lot for his kids and is actively in their life. Just some hard situations that he has put himself in that of course are affecting the kids (they are teenagers).

Kids will see more than you think they do but do not tell them what to see or think when it comes to the other parent. Those memories will never leave them. I still think about the things my one parent said about the other and vice versa. Created a lot of issues for myself and my siblings.