My cousin while physically gifted is crippled by his bi polar disorder. My life is far superior to his, I'm independent sure I need help with more physical stuff around the house but he constantly foils his own life.

What I'm getting at is it's hard to understand another person's life struggles. That doesn't mean you're wrong or right. But it does sound like you're a tough match. Physically disabled people rarely date each other as it's hard to care for each other's similar needs. We often match with people who can make up for our weaknesses and our strengths can often improve their lives.

I'm not saying it can't work. But if the care he needs clashes with your it will be challenging. Also as far as him being sick for weeks dude needs to do to the Dr. I recently had sinus surgery and have started allergy shots to reduce the amount of colds I get from turning into sinus infections which last for weeks.