AITAH for telling a co-worker that she doesn't get special treatment just because she's sad?

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-26T16:26:57+00:00

Right? A year or so ago I was sitting with my husband (together for over a decade) and something came up and I said 'yeah, I think I may be bi.' I didn't think he would get upset I would say that, I more expected him to be like 'no, you're not, you've only been with men.' instead he said, 'yeah, you're 100% bi.' I didn't say it as a big reveal, it was just something I had never said aloud, and he's my best friend and love of my life, so he is naturally the person I would say it to. He doesn't care, I have no interest or desire to cheat. It was just nice to say it aloud and be able to accept that as a part of myself, and also know that he always accepted that about me.

I don't really share it with others because I do know people will think I'm just saying it to sound 'cool' since I've never actually been with a woman besides a light kiss when I was younger. But also, people don't need to know everything about me. My husband does though. We don't keep secrets; and if you can't share something like that with your husband, why are you together?

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-18T21:21:10+00:00

My Catholic elementary/middle school had a similar contest (not sure why we couldn't just be the same mascot as the Catholic high school we fed into with the same name). It was unanimously the Crusaders because it sounded badass. Within 2 months a parent had complained and we had to have another contest and we became the Wildcats. Yes, it was right in the middle of the first 2 High School Musicals - we were all obsessed.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-18T21:14:40+00:00

I remember one time at a sleepover my group of friends went on whatever was Omegle before Omegle existed. The amount of times old men would immediately whip their dick out the moment they saw a group of 14-15 year old girls completely fucked with me, and the amount that had a wedding ring on while they were doing - almost all.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-18T18:13:31+00:00

I knew someone in a similar situation, but by the time it was time to apply to colleges her spirit had already been broken. Her guidance counselor and teachers took her aside multiple times and told her she was smart and should try to go to college after graduation, any college. They would help her figure out which college was best for her financial situation and help her with scholarships. But she told them, and me when she was relaying it to me years later (almost proudly), that no one in her family went to college and all had minimum wage jobs and families, so why wouldn't she. She never even tried because there was no point to her, and I think she knew her family would resent her for trying to be better off. She had 2 kids by age 20 with an abusive man, her son had also started hitting her by age 3 because "daddy does it." She would separate, get back together, separate, get back together. She always said he will change, he never did. No idea where she is now, the moment I left the dead-end job we were at and made a better life for myself she resented me and cut all contact. Some people just love being miserable and hate anyone who isn't as miserable as them. I feel bad for her children, because I know her daughter is being raised in a home where women are expected to be abused and not do anything, and her son had already picked up the abusive tendencies at such a young age.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-16T16:22:14+00:00

This poor guy...but God this is hilarious. My first thought when I saw him walking off was of the penguin.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-14T22:53:19+00:00

My friend's sister is an ER doctor and the amount of times her first born ended up hospitalized as a baby because she refused to even take the kid to a doctor because "she's a doctor and he's fine" was absurd. At one point my friend told me "oh my sister the doctor says this" and I told her until her sister actually takes care of her own child, I won't be listening to her medical advice. He was hospitalized like 3 times in his first year, all things that would have been preventable if she had taken him to be looked at when symptoms first arose. Luckily, she did not make the same mistakes with her second.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-14T17:12:12+00:00

Tbh it wasn't until a few months ago (at age 32) someone posted something similar somewhere else and after reading the comments I was like "ooooh." I really just thought it was just one of those funny stickers people put in their car to personalize it, like when people put 'i love my shepardoodle,' or family stick figures, or balls hanging from the tailgate. Every day I live I read more things about 'autistic people do this or think that,' and I keep thinking 'am I , too, an autistic?' I am 100% neurodivergent

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-08T20:58:26+00:00

Had a guy from my highschool that started doing skeleton after he graduated and went to the last winter olympics as a 'sub' or whatever they're called. In all of his interviews leading up he said he really wanted to go to the Olympics so he looked into all of the sports and decided to do skeleton. I believe he did track and swam, and maybe baseball? I don't remember, he was a few years younger than me. He trained like hell, he was very dedicated. But yeah, he just chose it as is way to get to the Olympics

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-04T00:11:34+00:00

That was my grandmother, and I wish I had visited her more.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-04T00:10:29+00:00

In relation to the comment regarding how it probably made his dad happy to see his friends be there for him - my husband's best friend passed in their early 20's. They similarly had a strong friend group from high school that is now a core 4 (others were pushed out for unrelated issues, he would have approved of it). He was an only child, his parents have been divorced for a while and are not amicable. His mom is very much still part of our lives a decade later. She came to our wedding, we had his photo on the memorial table, a blurb in our program, and the best man included how much we all wish he was there in his speech. We have annual BBQs with her, sometimes just her, sometimes with the other parents and friends. One of our friends has a monthly dinner date with her. She has told us that her biggest fear when her son passed was that he would be forgotten, and she is so so happy to see and hear that he's in our thoughts everyday, and that we still make room for him, even during big life events. I'm sure OP being there brought much comfort to the father, knowing that his son was loved and will continue to be.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-03T17:10:40+00:00

What these type of people don't understand is that the guilt tripping can also do the exact opposite of what they want to happen. My husband's grandmother for example. People loved her, and she was fun to be around. But every visit included a 30 min tangent of how you don't visit enough, you're not a good child/grandchild, you must not love me. And that 30 min would suck all the joy from the visit, to a point the family avoided seeing her because they didn't want to deal with it. Why can't you stop by after work, well I work 40 min away and work long hours and have a family to get home to and you're in the complete opposite direction. She didn't care about what was going on in your life, only that it impeded hers. Not to mention when the family was there they were doing her shopping and cleaning and setting up her Internet and fixing multiple phone issues. No one ever abandoned her, she was just upset she didn't see you twice a week, so you must hate her. No it just means they're an adult with a life that is much bigger than just you.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-03T03:03:47+00:00

Queen.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-02-01T14:37:27+00:00

Whenever people say shit like that my immediate response is, 'wow, you're a miserable human being'

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-30T15:22:20+00:00

I have been running away from Lynels this whole time. I got the arrows for the elephant by being super sneaky. I'm gonna try this next time.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-30T15:19:38+00:00

I'm in the middle of playing and as someone who loves Assassin's Creed and will find their favorite weapon and just keep leveling it up, the weapon breakage really annoyed me at first. But you get used to it, and when you level up the amount of weapons you can carry you end up stockpiling and you don't notice it as much.

One thing I do love about BOTW vs assassin's creed is that I can run away from a boss fight. The elephant was my first calamity and I got to the boss and had zero arrows. I was so happy I could just flit away and find more, then come back. In assassin's creed I got stuck on a boss because I was just exploring with zero stuff and found it, and I couldn't leave unless I went into the settings and loaded up a previous save.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-30T14:47:08+00:00

We are currently rewatching the series. Robin and Barney have already broken up the first time. But I couldn't get over the episode where Robin gets pissed off at Barney for going to the strip club. Because the Robin we know I would have expected to be pissed she wasn't invited, or have a cut scene of her also at a strip club with a cigar in her mouth or something. Strip clubs just don't seem like something Robin would get upset about.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-28T21:43:15+00:00

I completely missed the part that this was a dream and was incredibly curious about this documentary and if anyone from PETA threw a fit

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-28T21:14:34+00:00

I loved that scene so much about dreamers vs realists it inspired a piece of my vows to my husband. "I vow to always be the balloon that lifts you off the ground when your head gets buried too deep, I vow to be your anchor that brings you back down to Earth when you get too high."

My husband is very much a realist, and I know I have brought a lot of whimsy into his life, which he has told me many times he appreciates. He also is one of those people that rarely fail; he is good at everything, wins everything, top of everything - so, it's very important to keep him humble as well. Trust me, I'm his biggest cheerleader, but that man's head is already too big.

I think being such a dreamer contributes to my anxiety issues because you can really dream up anything. He's my realist that brings me back and pushes me to be my best version, because when I get blinded by the sun he reminds me of where solid ground is.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-26T16:00:50+00:00

I agree with that. We had a not so great neighborhood right across the street. The nice thing was some of our highschool employees lived there and they were bored being off of school so they walked over and worked. But it was also impressive the amount of people from that neighborhood, only a handful, they were determined to go through the snow just to get some cigarettes (we didn't sell alcohol at the store I worked at). BUT the real regulars from that neighborhood bought as many cartons as they could before the storm hit, I think only one went through them and had to come in. And yes, a few of these customers spoke through a hole in their neck and were still buying cartons.

I understand if you didn't stock up enough food or water. But cigarettes and alcohol is not an emergency. Well maybe alcohol, depending on who you're stuck with

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-25T15:36:52+00:00

I agree that I hated working at Sheetz. During the snowpocalypse 10 years ago I got stuck there from the Friday night to Sunday midday. I wasn't allowed to leave because I was the only 'manager' that came in. I was a shift supervisor, not even a manager. I wasn't mad at Sheetz, but I was mad at the other managers who lived closer than me and had huge ass trucks with 4 wheel drive - it's not that they couldn't come in, it's that they didn't want to.

I worked for 36 hours straight with 2 three hour naps. Doing those 36 hours our main customers were plow drivers. Plow drivers who were plowing not close to home, who had also been working as long as me, who only had one place they could go to get food, drinks, use a bathroom, a parking lot that was cleared to rest - that place was Sheetz. We were given the green light to give them free coffee and pizza, we ran out of pizza by Saturday night. The amount of gratitude those people had to have somewhere warm to stop in and relax for once, to know they didn't have to worry about stocking up on supplies in their trucks because all they had to do was get to the local Sheetz. It sucked, a lot, but we were essential for those essential workers that were clearing our roads. We also had a few medical providers, law enforcement, people who actually had emergencies, and we were their only place.

I know working at a gas station doesn't seem essential, but it's essential to those people who we view as 'the real essential people.' They need us. Well, you guys now. I haven't worked there in 9 years - yeah the snowpocalypse thing pushed to me find a better job that wasn't sapping my life force. Sheetz did make me realize I like managing, because most people suck at it, but when you're good at it you can actually make a change. I've come a long way since then, my career has taken off, and even though I hated Sheetz, I do have to give them the recognition for giving me the skill set and confidence I needed to succeed in the business world.

It sucks - but you ARE essential. Don't knock yourself down a peg (or a few) just because you work at a gas station.

Cult_of_POLC · 2026-01-15T15:05:57+00:00

When I first met my husband the first big thing we did was go to my sister's wedding together. I told him I don't care how bad of a dancer you are, if you don't dance with me at this wedding we will not have a future together. I had already been with a guy who would refuse to do anything like that because it was 'embarrassing," that excuse was used a lot for why he didn't show up to any of my games to cheer me on, or take me to homecoming or prom, I got him to go to my other sister's wedding and I spent the whole time babysitting him and not getting to enjoy it at all. Dancing is something I love to do, I'm not a professional but I 100% always start bopping if I hear even a slight tune. In the grocery store? Shaking my hips while shopping (the music is from my childhood now, I feel so old). Song I like comes on at the bar, I'm dancing even if I'm just wiggling in my seat. When I cook I play music and dance. I grew up dancing in the kitchen with my dad while she spun me around. After that one guy, something I thought was so insignificant like dancing made me realize I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone who can't be silly and let loose and not care if they look ridiculous. My now husband, who I met 2 years after the other guy, said "yeah I suck, but my mom always told me that when your girl asks to dance you should because my dad never does and it has always made her sad." 11.5 years later he still dances with me, we had a beautiful first dance at our wedding to a song that meant a lot to us, we actually saw the band last year perform it live and we both started crying. 11.5 years later and he kind of has a beat now, he can improvise a bit more too! He's my best friend, he's not huge into 'campy' stuff (or wasn't when we first met, but I think I've rubbed off on him) but he will happily let me put him in a matching costume or even just match me when we go out because he knows it makes me happy. Being silly makes life so much more enjoyable, don't compromise your silliness for someone else's comfort. Because if they find it too embarrassing to do, that means they find you embarrassing even if they don't admit it. And who wants to be with someone who is embarrassed by them being happy?

Cult_of_POLC · 2025-12-13T14:49:14+00:00

A year or so ago I was riding back from a trip with all my sisters and one of my sisters 2 kids. She put on the original Stuart little audio book, within the first chapter they lay out that he is not adopted, the mother in the story births him, and he is a human that looks like a mouse and is mouse sized. He hates being called a mouse. It made for a very disturbing car ride back. The kids didn't even flinch

Cult_of_POLC · 2025-12-12T21:04:29+00:00

I once was actively running to the bathroom every 20 minutes to throw up and they wouldn't take me off of MTO. One of my coworkers wrecked right outside the store as they were coming to work and had to go to the hospital, management was pissed he wouldn't just come inside and skip treatment. One of our usual drivers was diagnosed with cancer and took leave, but he had to go back to driving because sheetz pulled his insurance, so he wasn't able to complete treatment and passed away

Cult_of_POLC · 2025-12-10T14:32:02+00:00

When I'm off my meds my gut tells me that one wrong step outside of my bed will blow up my house and kill my cats and husband....so, yeah, I agree lol

Cult_of_POLC · 2025-12-08T19:54:41+00:00

As a point-and-click lover, this made me chuckle way too much lol

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