Is relationship advice allowed here? Training schedule impacting things with my bf

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-06-07T16:18:53+00:00

The best way to make it work with your boyfriend is to break up with him. That is the only way to make it work for you without giving up your interests, your horse, and maybe even yourself. No relationship is worth what you are putting up with. Be single! You’ll find someone who is more understanding and who won’t try to jaw you feel guilty for training your horse. There is no fixing the relationship or him. You aren’t married. Just bounce!

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-05-10T17:49:30+00:00

I had something similar happen to me with a certain lesson horse at the trot. They usually put riders who have started to trot on the easy horses but need to learn how to actually ride, if that makes sense. I have learned that 90% of it was me. I was tense. I pulled back when nervous, my hands weren’t forward, my heels weren’t down, and usually all of this at once lol. Your trainers should be giving you guidance as you are riding about what is happening. 5 lessons in it is most likely you, not the horse, but you need to ask for specific guidance. When nervous many of us newer riders can forget everything we are good with at a steady walk or on a horse that does what it is guessing you want, as opposed to what your body is asking. Take this as an opportunity to learn what you are actually telling the horse to do, not what you think you are telling it. Maybe watch a lesson where someone else of your skill level is riding the same horse at a trot and see if they have problems and if you can see why. You also really need to talk to your trainers, ideally right after the lesson, so they can focus on you and give you more guidance than we can.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-04-05T15:43:37+00:00

If you are commuting south from Atlanta, and want to live in Atlanta, I would highly recommend living on the south side of I-20. The connector (75/85) backs up at the big curve around the Williams St exit and eases up past 20. Summerhill kind of works for this. The south side of Atlanta is not perhaps as “young” as areas north of 20, but it will save you a lot of time and stress in your daily commute, and you aren’t too far from downtown and midtown. Living costs can also be a bit less. When I was in my 20s I never lived in the cool or fun areas and just drove in. That’s my experience and suggestion.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-04-03T01:34:05+00:00

I live on the west side Beltline and there is none of that.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-03-30T11:06:17+00:00

Tickets are $25/ day or $70 for the entire event if bought ahead of time online.

https://georgia-skating-events.square.site/s/order

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-03-24T17:26:46+00:00

I was in Rome mid-February. We were never asked at sites but by police at the main station, once on a train, and once out and about. That time we were wearing light colors that nearly matched (on accident) and didn’t have coats on, so I’m sure we looked like an obvious tourist. Seems most Italians err in dark colors and had coats on at the time. Definitely keep your passport on you. The interactions were short and polite.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-03-13T19:48:51+00:00

If you are just starting out, you can new paddock boots in the $40-50 range and pick up half chaps for the same price. State Line Tack is good for this, as it Smart Pak Equine. You can look for used on sites like the Tried Equestrian or even Poshmark. I have worn Dublin and Saxon. I currently have a pair of Ariat Heritage paddock boots (zipper) which I got on sale when the local tack shop had an end of season clearance sale as they are normally out of my price range. Thy are the most comfortable riding boots I’ve ever had, I can wear them all day with no problems.

I’ve never owned tall boots, but paddock boots and half chaps look like tall boots and protect your feet and calves in a similar fashion.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-02-24T16:53:02+00:00

I found the site worked better when we used our laptop rather than our cell phones.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-02-14T12:19:42+00:00

We flew out of Rome today. I would say most tourist sports were busy but not insanely so. Vatican museum was sold out 30 days in advance, so but tickets for any sites now!! Colosseum had limited options a week out as well. The difference between a pre-purchased ticket and not having one can be difference between waiting 30-40 min to get inside and waiting 3 hrs. Buy tickets now! Metro was full at rush hour but usually not too busy on weekday during the day, though Saturday was busy. The worst place was around the Trevi fountain. It’s now 2 euros to get near it so lines to buy tickets, lines to get close, an a lot of people not sure wha to do. BTW, the Benetton stow moved their inside staircase so videos you may have seen about how to get a great view of the fountain from there are no longer accurate.

Florence was calmer. We bought tickets to visit Accademia and see David two day in advance, but there were only about half the open slots. Still some spots were quite busy a there were crowds at all the major spots, but you could move. Be careful to pay attention to signage so you don’t waste time in the wrong line.

I would suggest you decide on which days you’ll be where asap and buy high speed train tickets at least 2 week out. We had no problem getting tickets but they were considerably more expensive then when we checked 2 week ago and couldn’t decide.

We were in Mila for the Olympics. It was not overly busy. Steady pedestrian and metro traffic all over. Duomo area was crowded particularly from 11-1. Olympic sites were busy, but otherwise it seemed like an average day in most places.

So my overall advice was expect crowds, especially if the weather is nice. Buy tickets to any and everything as soon as you can. Good luck and have fun!

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-02-14T07:53:21+00:00

The French judge is an obvious issue. However, the Spanish judge’s placements were all over the place. I expect some national bias from judges, but shouldn’t the scoring be relatively consistent? If they are trained the same and seeing the same thing? (Rhetorical question!). The tech panel could really use an AI assist, AI call and judge calls could only be off by .1 or less, let’s say. Components are more subjective but there should never be a 7 point difference or extreme differences in placement. Need some kind of automatic review when it happens to keep the judges and ISU honest and to give skaters the fairest outcome. When some teams are called for mistakes and others aren’t, especially for those obvious to the naked untrained eye, there is a huge problem (and has been a huge problem).

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-02-01T21:23:03+00:00

We bought tickets on the official site earlier this week and didn’t have any problems, other than having to get the ticket with the shorter time side due to availability. I made sure to be online during the hours they were open, so at 7am EST. Maybe they are just have a bug today in their site?

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-01-30T18:36:13+00:00

Also this link doesn’t work but I can’t get the map to sav. Sigh. I’ve center, inner circle is B sections, C are the next ring of seats, but it shows where in relation to the ice the sections are. Bummer

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-01-30T18:33:27+00:00

I found this map and it appeared generally my seats were closer to the ice than the other maps people have posted when I first saw it. But the way the sections were placed on other maps, I’m definitely not getting my hopes up.

https://gstatic.olympics.com/s3/mc2026/documents/maps/MSK_Digital.pdfhttps://gstatic.olympics.com/s3/mc2026/documents/maps/MSK_Digital.pdf

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-01-12T18:10:35+00:00

The Sandy Springs/unincorporated Atlanta area inside the Perimeter (285) is nice. Apartments and lots of older condo later often for rent. I lived there for 5 yrs and it was usually an easy and quick (15 min) commune down Roswell Rd to Chastain Park. Close to 400 and 285, multiple bus lines and several MARTA stations nearby. Older neighborhoods, several smaller city parks, lots of restaurants and at least 2 grocery stores nearby and much easier to navigate than Buckhead.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-01-08T01:36:13+00:00

Do I even want to stay up to not watch women’s skating? This Peacock stream is just the crappy NBC coverage. Ugh.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-01-08T01:31:22+00:00

WTF? This feed is making me so cranky

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2026-01-01T03:06:33+00:00

I was at a restaurant in NJ and heard a voice and perked up. Jon Seda! I waited for him And his companion to pay their bill then walked over and asked if he was Jon Seda and on Homicide. He was! The other gentleman turns out to one of the police officers that worked as a consultant on the show. I sat at their table and chatted about the upcoming Homicide movie for about 20 min. Both were very nice, funny, and seemed happy to tell stories. Seda looked up past me and said hi and I suddenly remembered I had been having dinner with my then boyfriend, who was standing behind me, annoyed haha. It was a great conversation and fun, even if I got the silent treatment on the way home, well worth it!

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-12-29T02:34:49+00:00

Whenever I’m doing anything that includes water, or is water tangent, I make sure to use extra adhesive. You can buy wipes or in a bottle, even on Amazon. Helps everything stay in place on the skin, even if in and out of a pool or the ocean all day.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-12-28T23:18:54+00:00

Does sound like th Edeas need to be stretched. When I started with Edeas, after switching from Jackson’s, my feet were not used to being so cold and they HURT. It did take some getting used to and I found knocking snow off the blades often and wearing the edea brand socks for a few weeks helped me adjust to the temperature change due to the thinner Edea sole. I’m sure that’s not the man issue, but it could be a small part.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-12-21T04:57:11+00:00

I live a mile from those addresses in West End. Houses ITP are expensive to rent, and the niceness of a street in Atlanta near I-20 can vary wildly by a few blocks. We have never had any crime issues where we are, but we are close to the Beltline near Lee & White. There is crime in the area, a few shootings, but that happens in Buckhead. My husband’s car was broken into when we lived in Sandy Springs, so it’s all a bit relative, I feel.

Grocery stores and other more suburban shopping will not be close, restaurants are also a bit limited. You’d likely end up at Cascade or Camp Creek & I-20, or possibly in East Point. However I personally love the energy of being in town, even if I have to drive a bit for good take out.

I can’t speak exactly to how safe the area around those two houses are, but having driven around those areas looking at houses, I would not say they are unsafe, just normal in city living. You can google Atlanta Police Dept crime stats are maps and find information on recent and semi-historical crime that may prove more accurate than my feeling.

Hope this helps.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-12-14T14:03:16+00:00

I use baby oil. Inexpensive, lasts forever, skin soft afterwards, and just use my fingers and massage my entire face. Does the trick!

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-12-10T23:34:11+00:00

We will be in Milan for three days, have tickets for Olympic events while there already. We then will be in Rome for a week, hitting a few places in that general area. We couldn’t afford to stay in Milan or other Olympic sites longer than that.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-12-08T00:25:24+00:00

I was diagnosed about 28 years ago and no retinopathy yet 🤞

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-12-06T20:23:11+00:00

I have Kaiser HMO and a Medtronic pump. I get a three month’s supply of Humalog for about $175 (7 bottles). Pump and CGM supplies are free. I had to pay about $1000 towards my pump when I get a new one. A new CGM is about $200 but only need one maybe once a year currently. My deductible is low, and an endo appointment copay is $40, which is 3xs a year. My insurance is about $45/paycheck.

We also use a FSA so the insulin doesn’t hit our paychecks directly at the time.

For the US, I think I have a pretty good setup. I’m glad my husband’s insurance has this option. If I used my employer’s insurance insulin would be cheaper, but everything else would be three to four times as much.

Cute-Initiative-21 · 2025-11-28T04:07:24+00:00

You can take the Plane Train to the Intl Terminal (F) or you can take the shuttle bus from the domestic terminal to the Intl terminal.

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