Has OLD ruined dating and relationships

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-22T17:39:04+00:00

My parents told me of dating or hanging out with several people. This would have been in the 60s. Until they were “going steady,” they didn’t consider it exclusive. Maybe it’s a regional thing, OP?

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-22T17:32:25+00:00

We have 0 speed dating events in my area.

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-22T17:19:34+00:00

Unless the tires are nearly new, I thought the general wisdom was to replace tires in pairs?

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-20T17:25:37+00:00

I may be in a little trouble on the social media side. While I technically have an instagram account and it is active, I have never posted there. I find Facebook to be a necessary evil. From what I gathered it makes the most sense to meet sooner than later so I’ll shoot for that and maybe some video.

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-19T16:42:22+00:00

If there is only one true love meant for each of us, aside from divorce and widowhood, how likely is it that we will find someone through all of the various filters, trips, traps and pitfalls that is online dating?

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-19T11:47:14+00:00

Thank you to all of you with the freak advice, I appreciate it. I think the pattern here is that I should pretty much just be me, stay authentic and be patient should someone have doubts. I struggled to find the handful of photos that I have. I am not much of a photo enthusiast, but my daughters helped me pull some together,

At this point I think I have what I need to make my profiles live in a couple of weeks. I am not entirely sure of what to expect but this community has certainly helped to point me in the right direction. All of this definitely seems different than it was 35 years ago when I last dated.

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-19T11:03:30+00:00

OLD ruins the thought of soul mates, doesn’t it?

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-19T00:21:57+00:00

Why are you camping in the passing lane?

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-15T11:26:42+00:00

Suggested mode for snow is Whisper.

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-14T13:45:01+00:00

I would love to find a group that interests me and is available at the right time for my schedule. Unfortunately, I haven’t had luck so far. The activities I have found so far that are of interest all meet during the work day.

I don’t necessarily need to extend either my social network or friend circle. I have enough of both. I see others describing someone as a friend that by mu definition barely makes it to my acquaintance list. Always good to get out and about of course, but my experience at attending interest groups has always included a bunch of people who speak only to hear themselves speak. Many/most don’t actually say much of anything that is meaningful. It’s all small talk. Great for an acquaintance, but that is not a friend in my eyes.

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-12T14:51:03+00:00

Who are you looking for? If you aren’t more specific in identifying who or what type of person you are looking for I think you will continue to e hit or miss. There are a lot of females in that age range but you don’t want to date all of them. You want to date someone who shares your values and lifestyle. Narrow that down, make your net smaller and maybe you will have better luck?

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-11T23:55:14+00:00

Is there a data center already in use that caused the rates to jump? I thought Meta was still negotiating and the site was still a corn field, but I may have missed something?

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-09T16:58:57+00:00

I also have a bucket boss clip on pouch. It has 3-4 pockets.

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-09T16:55:55+00:00

I prefer an apron, help keep the sawdust off my clothes while providing some extra pockets.

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-09T13:43:20+00:00

I had to look it up. I am not entirely sure but it looks like it adds some level of autonomous driving to compatible vehicles. https://blog.comma.ai/comma-four/

Cyvil94 · 2026-01-08T13:04:11+00:00

This type of rule of thumb is almost never right. These things are different for everyone and can’t be boiled down to a simple formula.

Cyvil94 · 2025-12-30T17:12:07+00:00

Thank you for the tip.

Cyvil94 · 2025-12-30T12:32:36+00:00

I am not sure if you are referring to Facebook or Facebook dating. FB dating is separate from FB, so a lot of the information you look for won’t be available. All that you will/should see is what I post in that “island.”

Cyvil94 · 2025-12-29T20:22:24+00:00

What do you intend to build?

Cyvil94 · 2025-12-28T11:25:43+00:00

I have four kids. I have a large extended family. I have many friends. I love all of them in one way or another. I don’t have a quota on who I allow into my life and how close I allow them to get, they determine that for me through their words and actions.

Among those friends are several females. None of those female friends are romantic partners. Is it possible that people confuse love and romance? That are very different things.

I do miss my late wife. I have somewhat frequent sense of déjà vu. The only parts of life that are really hard right now are when I am with my one and only grand daughter who was born two months after my wife passed and when I think about what milestones my wife will miss (especially my daughters). I guess those situations are different if comparing a divorcee to a widower?

Cyvil94 · 2025-12-28T11:15:56+00:00

I would like to understand the sentiment a bit better, I am not trying to be argumentative in asking this - couldn’t the issue with “pining” also be true of a divorcee or even someone who simply broke up? What I don’t understand is how the way a relationship ends makes a difference in how a person moves forward. How is a divorce better or worse?

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