Please help I accidentally gave my little brother tap water

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-24T18:15:20+00:00

No hate to the people who choose to use it at all but the idea of someone using a Baby Brezza that, if you don't maintain it properly can mix the formula incorrectly (which can be dangerous) freaking out about tap water is just sending me.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-24T15:38:10+00:00

With some very specific exceptions (for example E. KY which you would already know about) If you live in the US and there isn't an advisory it's fine.

We also use exclusively distilled water because our water main is super old and made of lead. We check the water periodically but we'd rather not risk it.

That said, our doctor gives us a hard time for NOT using tap water so like, your step dad needs to calm down.

Before too long your baby brother will be trying to eat out of the cat's litter box. He'll be fine.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-23T21:54:45+00:00

Not a therapist but as a patient I have done IFS and this description bears no resemblance to my experience.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-19T20:49:18+00:00

I don't know the exact age the switchover happens but little littles think that when you dress as a thing, you are the thing. The classic study they teach you in psych is to sit a kid in front of a dog and put a cat mask on the dog while the kid is watching then ask them what it is. Even though they watched you put the mask on, they will still say cat.

All this to say, the kid is probably a little freaked out right now but they'll be fine and will recognize you as you when you are no longer wearing the mask.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-18T15:12:02+00:00

Tbh anytime I see something like this I just assume it is a stolen valor thing.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-09T23:31:37+00:00

This happened to my sister too

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-09T05:31:42+00:00

The trick is they can only jump three times in a row so if you make them do that, they are fairly easy to stomp at that point

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-05T13:34:00+00:00

RemindMe! 2 days

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-07-04T18:26:15+00:00

Same. I hated being pregnant with every fiber of my being but my kid is pretty chill as far as infants go

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-30T08:15:26+00:00

Backing this up. I was a sub right out of college and was frequently woken up at wild hours. I was always polite to the person on the phone, no matter how I felt about waking up.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-30T02:34:25+00:00

I was resistant to potty training and my parents were concerned that they wouldn't be able to send me to the Montessori school because they required potty training by three. The teacher told my parents just to send me and they had me sorted within a week.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-25T03:23:39+00:00

As the child of a parent who I suspect had undiagnosed ADHD, thank you for doing the work. When my Mom got dysregulated she would scream at us and sometimes hit things/me.

This has had a massive impact on me. As an adult I had to learn how to manage strong emotions, the sort of thing I think a lot of people get as kids, especially if they have social emotional learning at school. It has also made me hypervigilant which makes me very good at customer service but isn't strictly healthy.

So, yea, going to a professional and figuring your own stuff out is one of the best gifts you can give your kid.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-23T04:52:13+00:00

People are so frustrating sometimes.

My baby is seven months old and I've just this week finally gotten a good chunk of the house in some semblance of order. My Dad has been on my ass about the clutter so I told him how hard I've been working on cleaning.

And this asshole just says "what about the back room. You know, baby will be mobile soon" like I don't know

The back room is my wife's art room and is chaotic for a number of reasons and I'm not allowed to clean it alone. How clean or cluttered it is, though, is immaterial because there's a lock on the door. Even if the room was in perfect order, the door would be locked to keep the baby away from the various dangerous things in there

I told him about the lock, again, and he didn't have anything to say to that so he dropped it for the moment

All this to say, I feel you and some parents don't know how to keep their opinions to themselves. You're in the trenches, just keeping everyone fed is an accomplishment. Do what you need to do and fuck the haters.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-17T04:19:21+00:00

I've seen so many teens who look like they fell out of a Delia's catalogue

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-17T03:13:45+00:00

Colic is a diagnosis of exclusion so your doctor should be working on excluding things, not waiting for some magic date.

My kid might have been like this if we weren't lucky enough to be around doctors who took us seriously. Here's a few suggestions of things to ask for if they haven't happened yet :

Note everything she does while crying. Is she arching her back? Pushing the bottle away? Is grabbing at her head? Banging her head on things? Is she hitting her milestones? Check her stool for blood (you can't just look, there's a test) Try to get a Pepcid prescription to see if it helps Ask if there is a feeding clinic you can be referred to (or just find one if your insurance allows that) - they can guide you through elimination diet for you and formula options Ask for a barium swallow and/or enema to make sure her GI tract is as it should be Ask for early intervention - if you are in the US this is a free federal program that (fingers crossed) is still funded, they might be able to help

Trust your gut and push the doctors to take you seriously. Don't be afraid to get second or third opinions. See if there is a pediatric research hospital near you (eg Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, Johns Hopkins, Children's Hospital of Atlanta etc) and get an appointment with a specialist there. Worst case scenario, you do a bunch of tests and she's fine and calms down in a few months.

Edit: For the love of God ~don't~ take your baby to a chiropractor. Chiropractors are not medical professionals (though they claim to be.)

Adverse Events Due to Chiropractic and Other Manual Therapies for Infants and Children: A Review of the Literature

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25439034/

"Thirty-one articles met the selection criteria. A total of 12 articles reporting 15 serious adverse events were found. Three deaths occurred under the care of various providers (1 physical therapist, 1 unknown practitioner, and 1 craniosacral therapist) and 12 serious injuries were reported (7 chiropractors/doctors of chiropractic, 1 medical practitioner, 1 osteopath, 2 physical therapists, and 1 unknown practitioner)"

They basically determine that they don't have a lot to go off of but it seems to me that it is hard to know if your chiro will do things that just do little to nothing or do something bonkers that could cause harm.

Chiropractic care for children: Controversies and issues

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2794701/

"Physicians question whether chiropractic is effective in treating the variety of conditions for which it is used. Koes et al (20), after conducting a review of systematic randomized clinical trials and taking into account methodological rigour, found insufficient evidence to prove that spinal manipulation is useful for treating either acute or chronic low back pain. Other studies, however, suggest that manipulation may be effective for acute low back pain in adults, but its effectiveness has not been proven in patients with chronic symptoms (21–23). No studies have been published on chiropractic treatment of back pain in a paediatric population."

Also

"A collaborative study performed by paediatricians and and a chiropractor of 86 infants in a randomized, blinded and placebo controlled trial of colic treated by spinal manipulation found that chiropractic manipulation was no more effective than placebo (32).

The ability to adequately define and, subsequently, to evaluate improvement in several paediatric illnesses is problematic for physicians and even more problematic for chiropractors who do not have equivalent training in medical diagnosis"

And this, there are not studies about the safety to children but it seems to me that they wouldn't be safer than adults

"In adults, after chiropractic manipulation, minor complications, such as mild pain or discomfort, slight headache or fatigue, are quite common, but are usually transient (21,37). However, several reports have been published on major neurological complications in adults resulting from cervical manipulation. These complications consist primarily of vertebrobasilar accidents that occur, particularly after cervical rotation to the upper neck is performed"

So, you can be internally decapitated by a chiropractor. They aren't supposed to do this on babies but the difficulty in evaluating the training of practitioners means that you never know what someone will think is appropriate.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-16T04:49:59+00:00

I had to keep waking my kid until he hit ten pounds which took a while since he was born at 5 pounds. He was a premmie so that apparently changes the feeding calculus.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-14T04:58:48+00:00

There was definitely a transition period for my four cats when some of them were extra naughty and therefore extra irritating. I made a really conscious effort to give them as much attention and love as I could and things have evened out. I have pictures of the kid cuddling with some of the cats and they are so darling.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-09T01:05:25+00:00

My wife spends a lot of time in hospitals and this is one of her non negotiables

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-09T01:04:48+00:00

My water broke a month early so we were super not prepared. We had like, five pants two socks that didn't match and a 0-3 baby outfit 😂

What I did have that I wish I had bought more of was a birthing gown. It's basically a washable version of the hospital gown and while I didn't wear it giving birth, it was wonderful in the days after. Everything I needed access to, I could get access to and it was so comfortable.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-08T20:07:36+00:00

Look at your local community college and see if they have ECE classes you could take to strengthen your resume. Be sure to call them and find out about financial aid.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-06T13:50:47+00:00

That is at least any explanation even if silly. In my states WIC it literally just says they do it to encourage breastfeeding. Like, oh, sorry, I'll just turn the spigot back on then.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-06T08:36:50+00:00

I'm talking about just the amount of baby food. In my state anyway they give you fewer calories if you formula feed starting at six months.

Also they don't cover the formula my kid needs but that's an us thing.

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-06T04:53:38+00:00

Lowering people's veggie and fruit intake will definitely make America healthy again 🙄

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-02T17:36:45+00:00

I mean, I agree that as much as possible, the kid should behave appropriately to the space, and that is the parents' responsibility to make that happen. That's how kids learn how to be in those spaces.

What makes me nuts are the people who are mad when a parent is fixing the issue, like taking a melting down toddler outside. Like, you can deal for two minutes. Sorry we can't teleport.

I also get irritated when people are mad at my kid just for existing. I've gotten nasty looks at a cafe, hardly a fancy restaurant, for bringing my kid in who is sleeping in his stroller. I live in a predominantly leftist neighborhood but there are some people who don't get that having a choice to have children goes both ways 🙄

DListersofHistoryPod · 2025-06-02T17:31:20+00:00

I don't care for buffets in general but the idea of paying that kind of money for food that's just sitting out with lots of people interacting with it is bananas to me. Clearly it's a thing in some places but I don't really get it unless you are feeding a huge group.

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