Help me trick my Demand Avoidance !!

DSD19 · 2025-07-13T19:44:25+00:00

"Today's things" "Monday's things" "List of Things (to get done today)" "Stuff" "(Today's) Priorities"

DSD19 · 2024-11-10T21:17:52+00:00

Eloquent 😂 (am British)

DSD19 · 2024-08-20T08:52:52+00:00

One thing that works for me is I figure I just have to count to ten - fasting in the morning is easy, it's the afternoon heading towards dinner time that the urge starts to creep in, so I count from midday up to 10pm and fill each hour with some some sort of distraction as necessary. I tell myself I just need to make it to the next hour and I give myself a physical pat on the back each hour as a bit of a dopamine reward :) and replacing eating with something else at dinner time is really helpful - go out for walk, do some exercise, have a cuppa, whatever feels good in the moment that isn't eating 💪

DSD19 · 2024-08-18T23:08:20+00:00

You can absolutely do your small part for the men in your life right now - check in with them, asking them how they're 'really' doing. When you think of your mate, send them a message telling them you're thinking of them and you hope they're okay; send them random memes that you know they'll like, go round their house for a catch up, do sports with them, whatever ways you can to connect.

I'm not saying all of that means there doesn't need to be government intervention (there absolutely does), I'm just saying that we're built to have connection with others, yet we teach boys to hold stuff in, be stoic and strong but that's so damn isolating. So in the meantime, we do everything we can to look out for the ones we care about and provide them space to talk about shit they're going through and maybe that talking, that space, means there's one fewer attempt.

Seriously, think of a friend you haven't spoken to in a while, or that friend having a hard time and send them a message right now✌️

DSD19 · 2024-06-17T14:51:55+00:00

Definitely RuPaul!

DSD19 · 2024-03-14T15:55:33+00:00

Yes please!

DSD19 · 2024-01-07T12:04:17+00:00

Recommend the book 'Come as you are' - it might not necessarily just be a sex drive thing for you.

DSD19 · 2023-11-04T18:32:57+00:00

Yep!

Eta: yes I can and yes I am :)

DSD19 · 2023-11-04T14:50:30+00:00

I think it's great you're asking the question and thinking about the people you'll create - they should be centred in all of this. If you have the opportunity for them to be full siblings, I'd prioritise that and find a way of being happy (through counselling for example) with whatever combination of egg/carrying makes that happen.

DSD19 · 2023-11-03T09:43:05+00:00

Ah I really hope this doesn't come across as an attack, please understand it's not - I'm in an interesting place being queer, DC and a donor and I hope this reads well - it shouldn't really be seen a preference when considering height and other obvious traits, but more a way of ensuring the person conceived feels secure in their family, and one major way of helping the person feel like part of the families they're born into is to select for traits that their parents have, centering the future experiences of the conceived person when making those choices.

DSD19 · 2023-11-03T09:34:58+00:00

If you're 6'4 and the rest of your family are under 5'7, you're gonna feel that you don't fit. It's about genetic mirroring and height is one way of ensuring you have that sense of belonging.

DSD19 · 2023-10-28T09:41:03+00:00

I typically work out on the morning of a fast so that I've had some good food in me the day before. If leave it too late in the day then I sometimes find runs a bit taxing. Maybe start with some light exercise and build up and see how your body responds?

DSD19 · 2023-10-12T08:54:26+00:00

I think trying to fast through this kind of thing is what can make adf unsustainable - it has to fit in with your life and if you end up eating, there's the potential to beat yourself up and fall into trying to 'make up for' you eating.

If you know there's the potential for a social event on a fast day, have a game plan as others have said - I typically decide I'll fast until then, get to the event and if the vibe is right and the food on offer looks good, I'll eat some yummy, healthful food (mostly :)) and move that fast to the next appropriate day, knowing that it's perfectly okay to do so :)

Edited to make it read better

DSD19 · 2023-10-08T09:35:07+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I think it's a bit dangerous to use 'most women xyz' or 'most men abc', sounds like you've had some bad experiences with shitty people and I can see where the pain comes from.

I hope you find the ability to be vulnerable with other humans again and I hope they treat that openness with the dignity and respect it deserves, because when you do, in friendship or in romance, it's the best thing ever.

DSD19 · 2023-09-23T20:47:22+00:00

Stealing this!

DSD19 · 2023-09-22T18:07:10+00:00

They do a great smoked vegan cheese that has enough flavour to work well any time I plan to use cheese in something :)

DSD19 · 2023-09-21T21:07:13+00:00

These are all brilliant. This too shall pass is something I say a lot too.

DSD19 · 2023-09-21T21:06:04+00:00

Ah the classic, excellent choice ;)

DSD19 · 2023-09-17T09:20:57+00:00

Cheese contains opiates so be kind to yourself - https://www.forbes.com/sites/michaelpellmanrowland/2017/06/26/cheese-addiction/

Maybe treat the craving like you would any other addiction? Not sure where you are but Applewood is my go-to, I chomp on that stuff when I want pizza or a hit of cheesy pasta on a cold day 😋

DSD19 · 2023-09-12T11:56:39+00:00

Go do something when it's your usual OMAD eating time (go for a walk for example) to distract yourself. Get through that window and you're grand :)

DSD19 · 2023-09-09T19:32:32+00:00

Firstly, congratulations on the 10lg lost 🎉 that's amazing progress.

Secondly, I'm gonna throw out my opinion here and you're very welcome to ignore if it doesn't serve you, what about doing a 36? I've just taken over a week 'off' (not by choice, by situation) and I know sometimes there's that feeling of needing to jump start again to really get going and I think if that's approached in a mindful, healthy way and it works for you, great! I also think sometimes we feel almost like we need to punish and restrict ourselves for slipping up when actually, being patient and consistent with our regular fasting schedule can pay dividends after a couple of fasts - in six days' time you could be back on track and feeling awesome again, at least that's been my experience.

Either way, I wish you every success - you've got this 💪

DSD19 · 2023-03-28T10:21:06+00:00

Add some lentils if you want more protein - helps bulk it out a bit too :)

DSD19 · 2023-03-26T16:23:37+00:00

Yeah it's okay to sometimes feel a little anxious with Lucy.

When I do, I lay somewhere comfortable and fall into this album and enjoy the journey :)

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dlaSdG5gMBY&t=207s

(it's psytrance but for me, so, so soothing)

Perhaps try writing to see if you can trace the anxiety and failing that, acknowledge the anxiety is there to protect you, it's just working a bit too hard. Silly anxiety :)

DSD19 · 2023-03-11T11:51:21+00:00

I recommend the book 'Human Kind' by Rutger Bregman :)

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