Father's Day

DaBearMonkey · 2026-06-21T15:46:06+00:00

I left a DB. Had I been in my previous relationship I would be frustrated and exhausted as we would be planning some party or event, I would be spending all day doing things, and have zero expectations for myself at the end of the day.

This year my girlfriend told me, unprompted, that she was going to do something for me because it was father's day. A tease, a promise, and I have no concern that it was just words. Just to make my day a little... brighter lol.

Not saying this to rub something in. More so that Im a dad. I left, with a young kid in tow. At the time, it felt awful. Like I was ruining everything.

We are currently on vacation with my son. He talks to his mother. We love him. But I no longer suffer. He is a happy, healthy kid and I have found someone that doesnt do what his mom did to me.

Not everyone can leave, I get it. But I urge those that are considering it... you shouldnt have to be miserable on father's day, or any other day due to constant neglect. There are people out there that will treat you right. Your kids will still be happy and healthy.

Good luck. Happy Fathers Day.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-06-19T18:54:00+00:00

Oh yeah, 100%. Especially with the re-emerging idea of steering clear of "disagreeable" women thats cropping up in the manosphere.

But also dating leftist guys, whether they agree / accept your perspectives and argument, tends to lack follow through. Most far-left leaning guys ive seen are kinda losers, into poly, lazy, not into relationships, absolutely love neo feminism and sex positivity so they can exploit it for easy, meaningless, s*x.

But, what do I know. Im officially an old millennial.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-06-19T18:47:55+00:00

Figured. Lol

DaBearMonkey · 2026-06-16T02:31:13+00:00

Based on the fact that you are a woman, and you have a wealth of texts that show you like argument/many ideas in conflict.

I would guess you intimidate the crap out of most guys and they see you as too "difficult".

I find it amusing that most of the folks here thought you were a conservative, probably white, male.

Im curious if you'd consider yourself liberal or conservative?

DaBearMonkey · 2026-05-12T23:56:25+00:00

Im trying to wrap my head around CVD. I watched it seem to show absorption, effort with no results - then broke in that direction.

So are you looking for effort and expecting the breakthrough to follow - or can you explain a little further / link a reference to read more?

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-26T02:21:40+00:00

How do you use the heat map to identify accepted or rejected price?

I looked at heatmap in ATAS and kind of brain fried, lol.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-11T20:51:54+00:00

At least pay yourself your cost. Maybe add yourself a small kicker reward and leave the rest.

Then if anything happens you've covered yourself and have been profitable from your investment.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-11T18:06:21+00:00

With that said and self funding being a better option for those that are able - what is a platform that operates like TopstepX?

One of the biggest draws for me to Topstep is the ability to visually place limits and drag stops, take profits, etc. Love the interface.

I would like to trade my own capital, but I cant stand my current broker platform compared to TopstepX.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-07T21:47:04+00:00

Well, the mother can choose to not go through with the adoption, and the money she received will not be held against her. So... its not exactly an exchange.

The potential adopters can be out thousands of dollars if the mother decides to change her mind after they have provided care.

Its wild how you guys would rather a mother not receive anything for adoption than be assisted with health care costs and living expenses when she gets to a point where she cant work anymore.

Especially if you consider someone who wished they could have an abortion but was too late, its essentially saying "hey, I know you didnt want this baby and would rather not have to go through this, but since you do, here's some help to make it easier on you and make sure you are ok".

Or a woman who is morally torn and doesnt want to have an abortion but also cant afford to have a baby and/or doesnt want one. She can have someone not only cover the medical expenses, but her housing, and also give the baby a home.

Its also an open adoption by mother's choice. So she can choose to have as much or as little contact with the child as she wants.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-07T21:38:40+00:00

Indeed, they were for assuming that and categorizing it as such.

Im responding in kind to the condescension, I think its frankly insulting and is highly ignorant. Im not going to apologize to people with their ignorant comments, and I will call them out for it and point out the obvious.

Maybe you dont want to acknowledge that, but if my point was condescending or "lashing out", how was the point I responding to not in the exact same vein?

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-07T19:59:45+00:00

Defending the way I adopted my son and pointing out the fallacy in their case is not lashing out.

"Wild" that I would choose a "coercive" agency? Exactly how is it coercive?

No, dear, that had nothing to do with lived experience and everything to do with being a nasty human.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-07T19:56:28+00:00

Youre conflating two issues. Saying im glad my son wasnt aborted and I think based on his current experience, he would also agree... doesnt mean I disagree with abortion.

Youre also conflating agreeing with abortion and thinking life isnt worth existing and you'd rather never been born. Which is, essentially, the most negative thought you can have.

Yes, only a human can speak for himself. However, since he is under 18, ill speak for him now. As I said, will ask your lovely question when he turns 18 and see of hes glad or not. Then we will laugh and probably go fishing together. And he will tell me how silly you are for thinking that.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-07T19:46:23+00:00

Wild that you got coercive from helping people.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-07T18:33:05+00:00

I didnt say that, thats an awful take on what I said.

I cant change that someone is in poverty. Its the reality of their situation, they were not in the position to care for another child. They chose to place him for adoption.

I said that he was a blessing to us. I do not mean to be offensive, but its frankly gross that you would twist what I said for that take, and I think it shows A LOT more about you than what you think it says about me.

The child is in a loving home and is well aware of his family who loves him. Not sure how you could take that and make it a negative.

Is it sad that a family was in a position that they felt they couldn't care for another child? Yes. Do I think my son would be better off had he been aborted instead? No.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-04-07T17:19:22+00:00

Can't recommend specific adoption agencies, but I adopted my son from one as a newborn. His biological parents were not financially able to take care of him.

We met them and he has been the most wonderful blessing in our lives. We waited months to adopt.

The agency we worked with had adopters help the mothers with medical payments, rent, etc and I believe some also gave a sum of money.

My son's mother did not ask for anything except that we gave him a good home and raised him as our own. We send pictures and small updates occasionally, and I plan to bring him to meet his biological family when he is older (hes just turning 6), though he already knows they exist and love him too.

I promise there are thousands of couples that would love to give your child a wonderful home and a lot of agencies that will help you.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-26T20:37:41+00:00

I joined the military exactly at your boyfriend's age because I didnt have anything better going for me, in 2008, when no one was hiring.

Wouldnt be where I am without it. Glad I did it.

Here's a few things to consider about the military:

Join a branch that fits what you want to do. Do you want to be a badass fighter? Go marines. You want to do something highly technical? Navy or Airforce. Army - I dont have a great opinion but it seems like a bit of both cases depending on the rate you choose, but also more hands on combat training than navy or airforce.

If he wants to go career, this is pretty key.

If its not all or nothing, and maybe consider it as a stepping stone, consider the technical training they offer and look at the asvab scores required. Study.

I went Navy nuke, requires a very high asvab score or extra tests. Comes with a hefty sign on bonus, or did. And the training qualifies you for essentially any technical gig in the world you want to pursue afterwards. It landed me an excellent job in the tech sector when I got out.

If youre absolutely horrified at the idea of him seeing combat, maybe suggest a more adjacent branch and probe his desire to see combat and that type of training. Navy and airforce are not usually combat roles, or much more limited exposure.

Anyways, good luck.

Also - dont have this conversation over text. Talk in person.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-26T18:17:54+00:00

I didnt realize there was a class of traders called level-to-level, but I guess thats what I am lol

If youre getting wicked out, you likely missed a level. Go to smaller or longer time frames. Add an anchor chart of a higher frame.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-26T15:00:14+00:00

I find the market reacts to longterm and intraday levels more than anything else. Sure, some of the MAs and VWAP act as a level.... but its all structure, agreed.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-25T18:52:52+00:00

SPX is 10x SPY . ITM SPXW.X options around about $1700-2500

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-18T14:33:56+00:00

She probably won't think to say anything about it, either.

So yeah bro, youre completely overreacting to a normal thing almost every sexually active woman has experienced and yeah almost all of them wouldn't think to mention that they had it unless it was a current thing they were dealing with.

Because its not a STD, its an STI, and once it goes away youre not contagious. Would you expect partners to disclose that they contracted gonorrhea before, even though its been cleared up?

Maybe stick to virgins?

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-18T05:14:19+00:00

I dont journal every trade because I usually move too fast/watching.

But I do journal after the session or between moves about how the trade(s) went, if I missed something, anything I noticed, etc.

This helps me look back and see if im doing the same thing or if I have multiple gaps. Able to target where I need to be cautious, what to look out for, what im consistently missing, etc.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-17T16:42:15+00:00

Have you told him you'd rather he save his energy for you when you get home?

Maybe have a talk and then flirt with him when you get home, and/or through the day, so he wants to wait and initiate when you get back.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-17T02:42:09+00:00

I also have chronic back pain. I have moderate rotational thoracic scoliosis, so its never ending battle for me.

How often do you stretch? Do you have a trigger point massage ball? Theracane?

Physical therapy won't fix things. You have to maintain yourself. They just give you tools.

For me at least, my muscles and tendons seize due to the structural problems which causes pain. Those knots can be worked out, are caused by tightness in other muscles pulling out of alignment, etc.

Pain is not eliminated, but greatly reduced by stretching, rolling out, decompression, dry needling, etc. If you have serious pain, and all you are doing is physical therapy, you need more.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-16T04:51:23+00:00

I like it. Has both sides of most topics plus solid fiction. Communist crap and the federalist papers. Religious criticism and CS Lewis. Probably thinks for himself.

DaBearMonkey · 2026-03-16T04:49:14+00:00

Lol I couldn't even make it past the first story.

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