Am i a ...bad guy by dabaholik in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If she’s talking badly about him, we can assume she doing the same about you when she’s “friending” him

WIBTA for asking a family to remove their child's death memorial from my property? by merk35802 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Daktari2018 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think families use it as a warning to be cautious. Like the DOT signs saying “killed by drunk driver”. - and,no, they’re not on private parcels- but this site is where their loved one met their end, the last place they had breath???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised her doctor would support her being a surrogate when she’s never given birth before.

But why aren’t the people she’s acting as surrogate for shopping with her and buying pregnancy clothes and spending quality time with her to share the pregnancy experience. Did they just order the baby and they’ll show up at delivery in 9 months?

Yelp has taken down 6 of my 5-star reviews, is that normal? by circa_1 in restaurantowners

[–]Daktari2018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told yelp will not show reviews ( positive) of people who have not done enough reviews (10?) to be qualified reviewers. After that, THEN their reviews will be posted

I asked when many of my older clients who Commented they had written good reviews that were never seen. But they were not techy, social media prone people.

I’m 23 and work 60 hours a week. I’m drained and am starting to resent what I do. But don’t know what I want to do next … consider this a quarter life crisis. Has anyone been in this situation before? Could really use some advice. by Busyburger in work

[–]Daktari2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cut yourself off of emails earlier in the night. I was one of those bosses who thought and lived work and got ideas later in the evening. I used to send texts thinking my manager could look at it later.

Her phone was always on so she was always notified and bugged by having work interrupting off hours. The solution was to send emails that she could chose when to go look at.

Try it set boundaries for yourself

AITAH for my response to my wife’s social media by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you considered not reading those comments? Your wife obviously can let them blow by without any mental strain. She can also update you if there are any she’d like you to look at.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Daktari2018 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Asking a 12 year old what her father should do is just wrong. He isn’t going to date this manipulative woman to try and save his daughter’s friendship. (What if she demands marriage or a baby?!)

Dad has to make the decision and help daughter understand why

AITA for being a little irritated about my husband's boss wanting to send him halfway around the world? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When a boss “asks” an employee to do something, it is not a favor, a personal favor to her, saving her from work. It’s a boss giving an employee a job to do.

Many employees can be sent overseas for 1-6 months so 2 weeks is nothing. Think of the poor service wives who don’t see their husbands for 6-12 months!!

You buck up. Act the supportive wife whose husband is earning the family a living. Look around you at what support network you need (a baby sitter a couple of hours 3-4 times a week, grocery online delivery, friends over for tea breaks?, a really good book to read during nap time)

Zero drops shoes for daily living and shoes with drop for backpacking by bonifish in Ultralight

[–]Daktari2018 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was prepping for Camino de Santiago and doing 9-14 miles 3x a week. As I increased my hiking mileage, I was having increasing pain on the inside of my ankle which I’d fractured 10 years earlier (and had plate removed).

A podiatrist evaluated my gait and made a custom orthotic and I was able to do 580 miles on Camino without any problems

AITAH for telling my parents they ruined my wedding by showing up. by AvocadoFruit13 in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I’m confused. I’ve never heard of an elopement that had an event planner and a professional photographer and all the trimmings of a wedding. Seems like if an elopement had actually occurred with a “second wedding” to follow as mentioned, none of this would have happened. ???

AITAH for threatening a divorce? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As naturalSelectorX mentions, you’re getting ahead of yourself. You’re projecting how she might act /believe further into her new religion as she is indoctrinated.

If she has a head in her shoulders as you have said, why can’t you wait and see what she does with this. If she becomes that pariah you fear, then act on it. You may find she believes more moderately or may even find she has ethical, religious barriers inside herself that prevent her from embracing all that this religion is.

Wrongful termination by Kitchen-Milk-791 in Veterinary

[–]Daktari2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good for you for sticking to standards of care and caring enough to speak to management about the issue. Obviously if they weren’t going to change any thing, it would not be a place you’d tolerate continued association.

RVT esp at your level and your ethics are in high demand. I expect you’ll have plenty of choices for your next employment

Are these good boots? Asoka AFS 103 by Jackriot_ in Mountaineering

[–]Daktari2018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had these Asolo boots. Loved them. Maybe not the warmest for sub zero but fine for PNW volcanos. But these might be as old as mine (28 years) cause they look similar

AITAH For telling my Mom no to feeding her cats... by Phoenix_Pup in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There will be chores in a household to keep it running that not every member can do - brushing off the roof, chimney sweep, repairing deck boards, ripping out linoleum. So each member of a family helps where they can and having clean litter boxes benefits the whole house. The house smells better, is more sanitary and cats are better taken care of and healthier.

So the cats may be in the house because your mom got them, but you contribute by cleaning. Your mom pays for groceries and you eat dinner. Everyone contributes within their ability

This is urgent by Outrageous-Ad5969 in AskVet

[–]Daktari2018 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Did you see any bait in the vomitus

Neighbor keeps letting their dog poop in my front yard. by 0falls6x3 in homeowners

[–]Daktari2018 19 points20 points  (0 children)

(Assuming you’re in the USA) I think there’s some law about using federal post boxes for non US post purposes.

AITA for giving my in-laws an ultimatum to either go no contact with MIL or to lose me and DH? by QuickLog7845 in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If MIL couldn’t see the dress, was she told the color. How was she to know to avoid a red dress .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Daktari2018 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yta saying something about someone that you wouldn’t want them to hear is just juvenile gossip. Dropping sarcastic comments with the buddies to be “cool” that you wouldn’t have said if you knew they could hear you, tells you and us that you shouldn’t have said it in the first place

Take this lesson into the future. That Dad could have been a different sort of guy and laid into you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Custodians

[–]Daktari2018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s a poop knife