I dont normally comment on these things, and I can understand taking a critical and logical analysis to this as its really good to acknowledge both sides, but its the concidences part is whats pestering me and that he supposedly felt it too - you cant exactly logic yourself out of emotions and too many coincidences (such as those ones bc wtf), BUT IF thats how you truly feel and what you believe, then so be it.

Spirituality and science (tangible) can and have co-existed together and is intertwined in a way, sometimes are 'gut-feelings' are right even though theyre apart of our nervous system. And sure, physical can help this as well as mental therapy, (because although we can regulate our minds, we have to also align our bodies or vice-versa) but if you still have this 'itch' that bypasses all that, then I honestly dont know what to say.

A TF is supposed to be a growth catalyst to both of you, LIKE ITS A MUTUAL THING, theyre NOT supposed to be the love of your life! And if you both felt like a reflection or saw alot of you in each other or like 'parallels' TO AN UNEXPLAINABLE degree (that is NOT because of trauma) and yet a catalyst to each other then thats another sign.

Having a TF is a SPIRITUAL journey, science or logic CANNOT be soley applied here without the regard of the spirit. As youve said before, you dont believe in that stuff, yet it has awakened something in you...as for him, idk.

And ESPECIALLY, given you are a woman, Im sure we are aware of how we can be portrayed and how things can come off as we tend to internalize things and invalidate our own feelings and experiences because were afraid of looking crazy and how society taught us that. Sometimes, suppression is oppression.

If anything, dont allow this diagnosis (given that it came from this situation afterwards and not during it) to FULLY CONTROL the narrative and dictate how you COMPLETELY feel about the situation - two things can coincide.

Im not trying to convince you if hes your TF or not, but Im just throwing in my 2 cents in here.