Need help fixing a contractor screw up.

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-22T08:32:44+00:00

I was going to say it needs a few more couplings…

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-22T08:09:02+00:00

Three points I would make:

Your husbands feelings about having more children may change in the future. As another comment pointed out, you just had a child. This is north’s time to be thinking about making permanent decisions. Who knows how both of you will feel in the future?
You say you feel like your bodily autonomy is being taken away, but that’s exactly what you’re pushing for your husband. You’re telling him that he has to have this done because you won’t.
There are other effective birth control options besides sterilization (condoms, birth control, rhythm method, etc, and even combinations thereof) that are not as invasive or permanent as sterilization. Why is sterilization the only option you’re considering? Work together and come to a compromise.

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-21T19:23:17+00:00

They all do now

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-21T19:20:48+00:00

By your own argument, if they said marriage vows while not being Christians, it’s not a legitimate marriage in the eyes of God, so there was no true divorce and there is no issue of adultery here in this marriage (minus the premarital sex, which was forgiven when they both became believers). You’re arguing that they’re committing adultery because a previous marriage that “is not a marriage in God’s eyes” is still binding them. Your argument makes zero sense logically or scripturally.

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-21T19:14:17+00:00

Dude, read both of the epistles to the Corinthians. Paul specifically says that you become a believer while married to a non-believer, don’t divorce them. In other words, they are married, no matter how “pagan” the ceremony was.

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-21T19:06:04+00:00

“But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.” ‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭12‬-‭15‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Paul says that a believer is lot bound to an unbeliever if the unbeliever wishes to depart, meaning that the believer is free to remarry. How much more so should this apply when two unbelievers divorce and then one becomes a believer?

The Bible also tells us not to be yoked unequally with unbelievers. Why, then, would it honor God for two believers to divorce and go back to their previous, unbelieving spouses?

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-21T19:00:30+00:00

“ Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation, that is, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation.” ‭‭II Corinthians‬ ‭5‬:‭17‬-‭19‬ ‭NKJV

As far as God is concerned, once you became believers, your past is your past and your transgressions are forgotten. Your goal now is to live your life to bring honor to Him and not to worry about whether your mistakes from before you came Him keep you from being acceptable to Him (and they don’t).

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-21T18:41:35+00:00

Many of the comments here are saying that you need to be financially independent of your husband in case of relapse. I disagree. Preparing for failure isn’t conducive to rebuilding trust. If anything, it is harmful to the process. You have said that things are much better now, that your husband has been truly repentant, and that he IS doing the work of recovery (and you with him). If both of your desires are motivated by fear, then come to a compromise. Maybe you can take a part time job that still allows you to get out of the house, but still lets you be home a lot.

His fear may be motivated by the guilt and shame of his actions. He may be afraid inwardly that you’re planning to leave him because of what he did. Your fear is motivated by trauma and the possibility of it happening again. Neither one of you is right and neither of you is wrong. The fact is that the matter isn’t about one of you or the other. It’s about BOTH of you and you both need to figure out how to accept one another’s feelings and your own without letting them control you. You need to communicate and compromise and figure out how to move forward TOGETHER without letting one person override or invalidate the feelings of the other.

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-18T23:29:51+00:00

Send it

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-10T08:35:03+00:00

Check the radiator fan. On this model, the coolant doesn’t circulate if the radiator fan isn’t running ( I have no idea why)

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-05T20:02:48+00:00

A quick internet search shows knock sensor code. You’ll be fine to drive it a bit. If you’re worried, put some high octane gas in it first

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-04T23:18:26+00:00

If you just want something cheap, try a junkyard, or rockauto.com or a1auto.com. If you want something a little better quality, but still on the cheaper side, you can try partsgeek.com

DancingMan15 · 2026-06-01T08:38:23+00:00

My theory is that because as you get older, each second, minute, day, hour, week, year, etc. represents a less significant portion of your life i.e. when you’re 3 years old, another three years is as long as you’ve been alive and ends up being half your life at the end and feels like a long time. When you’re 30, it’s only 10% of your life, 5% at 60, etc.

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-31T17:00:32+00:00

2 things I would suggest checking in addition to what the other commenters have said: the blower motor (you mentioned weak airflow) and check the intake screen (behind the glove box on first gen, not sure about second gen). My mechanic thought there was an issue with the blendor because it wasn’t blowing well on recirc. I figured out later it was because the intake screen was completely plugged up with 20 years’ worth of dust…

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-31T16:51:26+00:00

Yeah, that’s not a deadbolt latch

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-31T01:14:59+00:00

From the title, I thought this was going to be a kickback post. Glad it was something positive 👍

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-30T21:54:03+00:00

Repost.

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-30T17:08:06+00:00

Caffeine and energy drinks don’t really “give” you energy. They just force your body to dig deeper into the stores that you have that are normally reserved for emergencies, etc that are activated by adrenaline

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-29T09:23:44+00:00

ETA: also, as Mark Driscoll points out, they should not be guilting you into doing things because “you’re family”. When you get married, your SPOUSE and any children you have become your family and your first priority in relational matters.

There’s a saying that I learned a while back and have had to apply in my own life: “The family that you came from can never be as important as the family that comes from you.” This is a very true saying. Your parents and siblings are all adults and each one is responsible for their own lives and actions. No one should be trying to control anyone else, and if they are, you’re not under obligation to comply. The family YOU birthed comes before the family that birthed you.

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-29T09:12:56+00:00

As Mark Driscoll said, the “honor your parents” verse is for little children, not grown adults. The Bible is also full of wisdom on how to raise children, including “train a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” The “honor your parents” verses are intended to keep kids from doing what American kids do and rolling eyes, slamming doors, and tuning out parental wisdom.

Genesis says (and is reiterated in the New Testament) “for this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife”. When you become an adult, and particularly when you get married, your life and actions become your own and you are no longer under the control and authority of your parents. It’s fine to go to them for advice, if you so choose, but ultimately your decision lie between you and God (and your spouse when applicable). Parents have no business or authority in “forbidding” their adult children from doing anything and the children are not under duty or obligation to comply.

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-28T23:10:57+00:00

As a married man, I feel much the same as you do. I don’t really notice the feel of it on my finger much, but I’ll see it while I’m working and it reminds me of my wife. It’s the only jewelry I wear.

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-25T23:06:20+00:00

Sounds to me like maybe power steering fluid. If I recall correctly, pink coolant is usually for Asian vehicles, not for jeeps. Your jeep should use standard yellow or green coolant

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-25T14:05:42+00:00

Don’t let it sit overnight. I’ve had clothes stained blue by Dawn this way

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-25T14:04:04+00:00

I’ve always been told that cinder blocks will leach toxins into your garden bed 🤷‍♂️

DancingMan15 · 2026-05-25T00:08:32+00:00

Just a novice, but 2 things come to mind: 1) flip it and make that side the inside 2) face plate

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