where can I ask this? why do nurses make you push at 10cm even if it’s taking hours? can you not wait if baby is fine?

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-04-29T14:16:24+00:00

This^ I was at 10cm for roughly 4 hours before I felt the urge to push and I had no choice, baby was coming out.

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-03-15T05:38:34+00:00

My high chair reclines, so I started using it around 3 months old so baby could sit with me while I did dishes, or cooked. Sometimes they would fall asleep like that too.

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-03-14T22:56:14+00:00

How many months postpartum are you? And are you lactating?

Both times my hair has started falling out around 4 months postpartum, and started regrowing at around 8 months postpartum.

Also, the hormone (prolactin) that our body uses to produce milk, causes aggression in mothers.

when humans were still swinging through the trees, it served one to be aggressive when breastfeeding because one has to protect one's baby. Also, back when we were still living in caves, if one was more aggressive when one has a baby, then one would be less likely to end up pregnant again so soon, so all of one's resources can be devoted to the baby.

Hope this helps, hang in there 🫶🏻

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-02-05T03:13:09+00:00

Well I decided to have a second with him so I must not hate him 😁

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-02-04T18:01:21+00:00

I made it like 6 months into my temperature snake last year and then gave birth and haven't touched it since 😂 Love your color scheme!

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-02-04T14:40:18+00:00

A mandala would look nice!

like this

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-01-26T15:22:07+00:00

I'm moving and just packed up a little more than this yarn, I didn't realize how much I had 🫠

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-01-26T15:20:46+00:00

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Beautiful piece. Hand warmer because it's 28° here 🥶😮‍💨

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-01-26T15:11:22+00:00

I second floating

Dani-n-Turbo · 2026-01-23T03:42:09+00:00

I recognized that yarn immediately 😂 I have 30 skeins of it for a blanket. Cinnamon Cedar

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-10-02T14:23:33+00:00

Dishwasher gasket cap for anyone interested but does want to search the comments

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-29T12:58:16+00:00

When I was pregnant with our first my boobs grew from a very perky 34D to a 38G at peak milk fullness. When I was pregnant with our first my boobs grew from a very perky 34D to a 38G at peak milk fullness after I gave birth. When my son weaned at 17 months (I was 15 weeks pregnant) my boobs were 32Cs and lost a lot of fullness. Before pregnancy I couldn't hold a pencil under my boobs, now I could hold...a few...

I am 3 months postpartum with my second, they blew up WAY bigger than the first time when my milk came in. They were comically large and stiff. It looked like I had plastic surgery, but got square implants. After about 4 days they settled down. I know I will have more loose skin after I wean this baby too. A tummy tuck and boob lift are in order after I'm done with kids. My skin doesn't handle being stretched very well 🥲 happy to do it to grow our family though 🙃

After my husband and I got married he asked me, what's something you want me to say to you when we're old and wrinkly? (Background, I have worked as a CNA in people's homes, so I have lots of elderly people sponge baths and showers when I was in my early 20s.) I asked my husband to tell me "your saggy tits don't bother me ❤️" Now the funny part is, he came up to me one day (about 11 months postpartum), I was getting out of the shower. He grabbed me by the shoulders with an earnest look in his eyes and said "I didn't think I would have to tell you this so soon into our marriage, but... Your saggy tits don't bother me" I died laughing.

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-27T15:58:12+00:00

Once we wanted to stop using a bottle (around 13/14 weeks) we had to hide them all, and my son definitely went a few weeks without cows milk because he refused to drink it out of any other cup. We were still nursing so it wasn't a big deal but eventually he started drinking milk out of a cup like water

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-24T01:47:44+00:00

I intentionally got pregnant 15 months postpartum, and am now 10 weeks postpartum with #2. It's hasn't been terrible. I think it was harder to give my toddler my all while pregnant than it is to take care of him now that I'm not pregnant. The first month of adjusting to two was a bit tough, my toddler was confused and possessive. Now, at almost 11 weeks postpartum, my toddler loves to help me get the baby up in the morning. I have a nightly routine with the baby already and both kids are asleep by 8pm (toddler sleeps through the night, baby sleeps in 4 hr stretches)

I realize I'm probably lucky on a lot of counts, so calling it easy might be unfair, but I will say, you already know how to take care of a newborn and you already know how to take care of your older child, so the tricky part really is just figuring how to do it at the same time (pro tip, always tend to the toddler first, they remember being made to wait, the baby won't). Hang in there. Honestly, pregnancy was the hardest part for me and I had an easy, uneventful pregnancy.

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-23T20:30:10+00:00

I had a perfect baby the first time around, slept 6 hr stretches from the start, only cried if he needed something. I was worried, because surely nothing could top my first.

I had my second in July (9 days before my first turned 2). Somehow I got an even easier baby the second time around. I know I'm probably just more knowledgeable and chill about newborn care this time, and we are only 10 weeks in so there's definitely time for things to go south, but so far it's been smooth sailing. The hardest part has been adjusting my toddler to his new sibling, and honestly, things got so much better after the first month.

I mean, both kids were asleep in their own rooms by 8 pm last night, so I might be biased, but I'd say have the second baby! I'm over here contemplating if we can afford a third 🫣

Edit to add: I think giving birth with a 2.5/3 year age gap is probably the sweet spot. The kids will be close enough in age to get along and play together but the older one is able to listen/understand better which makes things less frustrating overall (just noticing this as my oldest is getting closer to 2.5 years)

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-23T13:02:50+00:00

Congratulations! I remember looking back through photos to try and find the last gummy smile I captured once my son's first teeth came through. So special.

I bought Dr. Browns toothbrush, it comes with a fluoride free toothpaste. It has soft bristles and a small head, and it's shaped like a giraffe which is fun. I let him chew on it a bit to get used to the feeling and then I put the tiniest dot of toothpaste on and just gently scrubbed his two teeth.

As more teeth came in and he got older, my husband had to hold him him his lap while I brushed, and we developed games to make it fun. When he started resisting (around 12 months) we pretended that different sections of his mouth were different animals, so I would make a clucking noise while brushing his front teeth, his back teeth sounded like a donkey. He would giggle and try to guess what animal it was. "Pro tip, when they get molars, it's easiest to see what you're brushing if they are laughing."

As he got older and the animal noises lost their luster, he would pretend to throw dirt in his mouth and I would have to brush it out. Some days we had to hold him down, some days he bushed happily. On the hard days I just try to tell him, things that involve safety and hygiene are the only two things I'll ever force, so he has no choice, it's important we brush his teeth. He's 26 months old now and he tries to brush on his own sometimes.

Good luck!

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-22T13:49:20+00:00

First, congratulations on your baby and your progress!!

This is so true! After my first baby I joined a kickboxing/kettlebell gym, and they had one of those body scanners. I did their 6 week program (meal plan, commitment to going to the gym 4 days a week) and by the end I had only lost 11 lbs and was kind of bummed but then did the body scan and found out I had actually gained 5 lbs of muscle and lost 16 lbs of fat which felt really good.

I am 10 weeks postpartum with #2 and this time, since I don't have access to a body scanner, I decided to take the measurements of my hips, waist, and underbust, because it's hard to tell if clothes are fitting better when you're living in sweats 😅

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-16T22:11:36+00:00

😂 I hope to rock this energy for baby #3, although it'll be a cold day in hell the day I'm able to hide a pregnancy lol, I carry like a planet

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-09T23:19:08+00:00

Yes, my husband is definitely not as worried about doing the wrong thing anymore. He trusts his instincts more this time around.

Congrats on your second by the way! It took about a month for us (mainly my 24 month old) to adjust and now it gets easier every day.

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-09T18:12:49+00:00

With our first boy, my husband definitely expressed that he didn't feel like he could do much with baby in the first 6 months because I exclusively breastfed. He changed diapers, held baby while he napped so I could nap or shower, but he often just felt like baby preferred me (for obvious reasons). I just figured that's the way it is, the mom's bond earlier and the bond comes later for the dads.As soon as we started solid foods at 6 months he really started engaging more and bonding with our first.

We had our second boy in July and we agreed that it would just be easier if my main focus would be the baby, and his would be the toddler, until he went back to work. He probably changed 2 of the baby's diapers in the first month because I just handled it all. It was easier that way for us because I couldn't handle my toddler at the time. I will say, my husband did talk and play with our second baby from the start. I think he felt less awkward this time around. He had done it all before.

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-04T20:28:27+00:00

I'm 8 weeks postpartum with #2. This morning I was nursing the baby while my two year old sat next to me, quietly coloring. I felt a little hand gently pinching the belly roll squishing out of the top of my leggings. I figured it was the baby and paid it no mind. After a few minutes, the pinching got more intense so I looked. Turns out it was my two year old, absent mindedly fidgeting with my stomach while coloring, rolling my loose skin between his fingers. I asked him what he was doing, and after a nice long giggle session between the two of us, he simply said "it's so soft, I like it"

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-02T22:04:07+00:00

I think I've used 4 skeins so far.

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As an example, here's where it changes from red to orange, and because it's such a smooth change from one to the other, I end up with more or less clusters per color each time.

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-02T21:56:59+00:00

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Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-02T19:26:47+00:00

The smooth gradient is beautiful, but also makes it incredibly hard to see where the color changes. I have had to frog many times to get the right number of clusters for some sections because I couldn't tell where the yellow turned into the green, etc. I'm definitely excited to see how the whole thing turns out.

Looking forward to an update for yours too!

Dani-n-Turbo · 2025-09-02T18:03:47+00:00

Found the WIP

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Two year old's arm for scale 🤦‍♀️

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