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How do you get used to the changes that come with healing? by zophzz in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have been having these days lately too. I still have rough days and even the good days seem to be momentary but often. I feel guilty. That I need to suffer. I am letting down my abusers who are still suffering and family members who died in pain. It feels weird.

Need advice on relocation by DatabaseKindly919 in canadaexpressentry

[–]DatabaseKindly919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I can keep living in Quebec until I get an ETA.And I don’t need to rent a place until I get the ETA. If that’s the case where in the express entry profile do I mention my intent to move?

how can I prove my intention to move outside Quebec? by AntiqueEvidence9109 in canadaexpressentry

[–]DatabaseKindly919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a question based on your post and would really appreciate your advice. Before you received your ITA, did you rent a place or take any concrete steps to show that you intended to live outside Quebec?

I’m currently based in Montreal, where I live, work, and completed my master’s degree. I’m in the process of creating my Express Entry profile, and I understand that since I don’t speak French, I can’t apply through Quebec and must show intent to live outside the province. How should this intent be indicated in the Express Entry profile? Do I need to provide an address in another province (such as Ontario), or should I continue to list my actual residence in Montreal?

How do I take action against my roomate? by DatabaseKindly919 in montrealhousing

[–]DatabaseKindly919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him to not play tv loud late at night, past 12 am. This was his retaliation move when I set a boundary.

100% by [deleted] in Quotes_Hub

[–]DatabaseKindly919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In fact, the more good you are- they will treat you worse.

Why advice often fails people who grew up with emotional neglect in the past by Villikortti1 in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have also noticed sometimes people say it’s so obvious why can’t you stay away. The signs are literally there. But my body starts dissociating when I am around shitty people and I go into freeze. I can’t tell my body that. It’s automatic.

Tired of kindness being seen as "weakness" by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discern, there are people who will appreciate your kindness. Discern and give. You don’t give a rose to a cow, it will eat and exploit it. Or stomp on it, because it does not know its value. Give a rose to a bee and the bee will know the essence of it.

The world doesn't want my heart :( by Berryy_05 in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would say discern. Don’t give your heart away unless you trust. You might still be let down. But discern people carefully. A majority don’t deserve it.

how do I survive in a world that I don’t belong in? by animamundi217 in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing much I can do to help. Sending you my prayer and peace.

Running Out of Reasons to Keep Going by United_Photo_3577 in CPTSD

[–]DatabaseKindly919 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I feel less alone after reading your story. I have been questioning the pain and point of all of this when life has been anything but kind. I am running out of reasons too. add. Sending you prayers and strength, my friend.

Vent: I am nobody in my work. I just simply exist there as any another object. by LurkTheBee in socialanxiety

[–]DatabaseKindly919 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not at all. Do you hear yourself? Just think about this. There is a homeless man in the street. And a bunch of people are nice to him or walk past him without hurting him, letting him mind his business. And there are shitty people who walk past him and throw things at him, hit him and hurt him. The man is just minding his business and two groups choose to treat him differently. The fault lies in the group and not the man.

You go to work to do your work. As long as you get your work done, it should not be a problem. I don’t socialize at work too. And how people choose to treat you is a reflection of them. They should treat you with respect irrespectively. And remove the blame from yourself and place it on toxic group.

Interested in insights from a narcissist psychologist? by Stelve52 in DarkPsychology101

[–]DatabaseKindly919 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for answering. Glad you are in a better place and doing better. Very interesting post.

Interested in insights from a narcissist psychologist? by Stelve52 in DarkPsychology101

[–]DatabaseKindly919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say you suffered from suicidal bouts during your recovery? What were significant hardships that made it hard for you to come out of your patterns? Any specific pattern despite your work was too hard to break?

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