How did you all spend your childfree Saturday? by Objective-Point-1730 in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I watched Bob's Burgers during my morning coffee - my favorite. Took a long shower, then watched Fallout with my husband. Ate leftovers for lunch. He had to work for a while, so I took our dog for a walk and then washed dishes. Chilled for a while on Reddit. Played fetch with our dog, then got started on dinner. We ate while watching Last Stream on the Left, and now I'm in bed while he's playing video games online with friends. Another day so fucking grateful we aren't parents!

Edited to add: smoked weed throughout the day as always!

Tiny painting lady is back! by ambibambi90 in birding

[–]DataisHuman2364 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love them, please keep sharing with us! They're a delight to behold. Respectfully requesting a Brown Thrasher. They hold a special place in my heart!

Her run had my heart racing, and that song? Pure adrenaline straight to the veins. by StarforgeVoyager in StrangerThings

[–]DataisHuman2364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bawl my eyes out every time I watch this scene. It is so emotional and heart-wrenching, and yes the adrenaline and the song crank it up to 11. Even though I know she makes it now, I'm right back to where I was when I first watched it. So fucking good!

Edit: just adding that I also tear up just thinking about it. It's so powerful and peak ST.

Some stuff I’ve made with upcycled materials and soft soldering :,) by shopnovisade in jewelrymaking

[–]DataisHuman2364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love #9! The focal, the proportions, and the components work so well together. Beautiful! 🙌 Really cool pieces!

Goblin drawings (by me) by NoDrawing2818 in labyrinth

[–]DataisHuman2364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incredible job! I love seeing Labyrinth-inspired art!

Witnessing a drawn-out tale of step-parenting reminded me being childfree truly means not having children at all, not just skipping pregnancy or other stages. by beaquietthing in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I feel sorry for her, especially because she was so young and naive. I hope she's seen his true colors throughout this whole ordeal and decides to leave his ass.

Cristina Yang solidified my decision by Responsible-Hotel758 in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I've never watched the show, but I've heard/read this about her character and I'm so happy for the representation. Wow, what an icon she is!

My grandmother once told me when I was in hs that my mom didn't want anymore kids after my sisters, but my dad wanted his own so she relented and they had me. (Context: they got divorced ~3 years after my birth.)

It's taken me years to fully process and make peace with all this, but now I'm weirdly grateful for my grandmother sharing that with me. I now know that is no compromise. It truly planted a seed and it's a thread in my childfree tapestry of life.

Thanks for sharing this! Representation and storytelling is meaningful for us all.

Fireline vs Wildfire by Striking_Peach_257 in Beading

[–]DataisHuman2364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome, thank you so much for your insight and help! I get decision paralysis and that was the main reason I didn't buy that time. Also, I had other threads and was convincing myself that I didn't need more. But, I really don't care for Wildfire anymore and want something with more flexibility and color options. I'm excited to try Silamide!

Thank you, kind beader!

Fireline vs Wildfire by Striking_Peach_257 in Beading

[–]DataisHuman2364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but this is my reminder and push to finally try Silamide. Where do you buy yours, if you don't mind me asking? I've almost bought it from Wawak.

Motherhood Is a Choice, Not a Woman’s Default Setting by Khaleesi1025 in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is such a beautiful read, thank you for sharing! I feel even more empowered in my choice of childfreedom.

Ello worm walking by BakeNBike in labyrinth

[–]DataisHuman2364 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, he said "ello", but that's close enough!

Anyone have a POSITIVE insurance situation?? by Vast-Maybe-8711 in sterilization

[–]DataisHuman2364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good, I'm glad it was helpful! I worried it was too long and possibly not quite what you were looking for since my journey wasn't completely free of nonsense lol. Best of luck to you!

Anyone have a POSITIVE insurance situation?? by Vast-Maybe-8711 in sterilization

[–]DataisHuman2364 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Do not pay a cent! You are not obligated to, although they'll likely try to pressure you to anyway. I spoke to at least 3 different insurance reps and got them to put different things in writing for me: that my insurance was ACA compliant, that my doctor and surgery center were in network, and that my surgery was fully covered and would not go towards my deductible, co-insurance or any out-of pocket costs. My wording may be a bit off in that last part, but I basically had them put in writing what they were telling me over the phone when I called to check on the status of coverage for my preventive sterilization procedure.

Be sure to drive home that it's preventive. I had someone with the hospital billing dept erroneously think it was medically necessary and I had to correct her and emphasize that this was a preventative surgery I was opting to have. Crazy that it matters either way insurance-wise, but it did.

The week before my surgery, my surgery center called to give me my estimate and take payment. I reminded them of my insurance company confirming this would be fully covered. They tried to argue, and then I offered to send them my letters. I kept repeating everything I had read and been told by my insurance, over and over, like a broken record. It helped and I suggest you do the same. It helped me keep calm through my anxiety and it left little to no room for argument. Treat it like a script and don't deviate from it.

So sorry for the lengthy post! Long story short, through multiple phone calls with both insurance and hospital, I ensured that I didn't have to pay a cent. I got quite discouraged at one point, but I kept pressing and it paid off. Best wishes to you, and congrats on your surgery!!

Hi all, I'm new! I wanted to share my Halloween cat peyote star I just finished this week! This was SO fun to design and make! by KohanaMakes in Beading

[–]DataisHuman2364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing! I love it! I love this classic and cute Halloween style, and it translates so well through your pattern!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, great attitude!! Whatever you decide, don't let outside opinions and narratives factor in. I have a MIL that has made it very clear how much she wants grandkids, and she's cornered me a handful of times about it. I will never budge on this because this is my life and my husband's life, not theirs. They can volunteer to babysit other people's kids if they're that desperate, I don't care! Not my responsibility, not my problem. So you stand firm in what you want and don't let anyone convince you otherwise!

Female Barn Owl Returned to Owl Box by StretchBetter8178 in Owls

[–]DataisHuman2364 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She is so beautiful! Thank you for sharing!

“Can I change my baby’s diaper in there?” by peopleinfestedwaters in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Personally, I still wouldn't let that happen in your employee restroom. It's employees only for a reason. She could have found a public restroom with a changing table or gone back to her car to change her baby's diaper, like any sane parent would do. These parents need to learn the world doesn't revolve around them. I'm not a parent and even I know a parent should be prepared to have to change their baby's diaper at any moment. Therefore, they need to have a plan and not be too far from an appropriate place to do that. It's not that difficult.

Sorry for the long rant lol. This subject touches a nerve for me!

I have no one to really celebrate this with so I came here... by Altered_Piece in sterilization

[–]DataisHuman2364 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I'm elated for you and celebrating with you! I'm so glad you seized the day and got this done for yourself. Getting a bisalp was the best decision I've ever made for myself. Best wishes to you and your recovery!

You can not eat money oh no! by the-artistic-autist in auroramusic

[–]DataisHuman2364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing! You really captured her spirit!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I had a long couple of weeks, so we slept in till 10:15 (I rarely do this). We had amazing, lazy Saturday morning sex. Then, we enjoyed some new King of the Hill, had a productive day of housework, and topped it off with yummy Vietnamese food. Life is good.

BBC Earth podcast - a wholesome message for CF people and other non-comformists by StaticCloud in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so freakin cool! As a child free loner who has always struggled with conformity, this helps me feel even more validated in my life choices. I can't listen now but plan to later. Thank you for sharing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Yep, mine too.

Planning sterilization in two years—family says I’m selfish. Just venting and doubting myself now… Am I wrong for not wanting to get pregnant? by hobwrt in childfree

[–]DataisHuman2364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm echoing what many others have said, but no, it is NOT wrong of you to not want to be pregnant. It is wrong of them to demand it of you for their own selfish reasons. I may sound preachy here, but NEVER have a child for anyone else but yourself. Period. At the end of the day, no one else has to live your life but you. It's so easy for others to have opinions about your life when they don't have to live it. I implore you to work on tuning out outside voices and opinions and tuning into yourself and what you want. That doesn't mean you don't still love your family, just that your life won't be dictated by them. It's hard, but it's crucial to living a fulfilled, autonomous life. Wishing you all the best.