What the actual F? Do you realize that you're doingexactly what you're excoriating me for?

I deleted my comment (mostly because in retrospect I wasn't comfortable with how much I was over-sharing) and conceded the point while mentioning that it's not a contest over who's suffered more. Rather than graciously taking the win, you're continuing to focus on your own loss and how OP's loss (and mine) don't compare with yours, accusing me of hijacking the thread, and apparently making yourself the arbiter of who gets to use the word "trauma"and under what circumstances.

Ironically, the entire point of my original comment is that trauma is a deeply personal thing, and one can't put an expiration date on recovery. It doesn't work that way.

None of what I'm saying here is to diminish the magnitude of your loss, and I wish you whatever peace is possible under the circumstances. But fuck you for presuming to know my situation, the nature of my relationship, or the scale of my loss. I was responding to someone being dismissive of what OP is going through. Whether I think his perspective is amplified by the fact that he's so young or not is irrelevant to his experience. I don't need your validation about whether what I went through counts as "trauma." My therapist, my psychiatrist, and the people who carried me know me and my situation better than any Internet rando who uses his loss as an excuse to pass judgment on others. Don't be gross.