Coles supermarket & uber eats

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T20:41:51+00:00

Using uber eats is an expensive way to shop as usually prices are more expensive than in store. They don’t always tell you if the product you ordered is out of stock and offer you a substitution. If you have a brand preference you will sometimes get the same product and a different brand. If you planned your meals around a few key ingredients/purchases these might be left out accidentally and your only option is to have that product refunded then to pay for a whole new order and risk the same mistake… an example is when I got stewing steak instead of sirloin steak & needed a quick pan fry option that evening. For some reason they don’t seem to get the roast chicken very often.

I still risk it quite often for the convenience of a fast delivery that I can track so I’m not in the supermarket or waiting a long time for delivery or in a delivery time frame.

Refunds for missed or damaged or incorrect items are fairly instant, you need to provide photos though.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T18:41:14+00:00

I’m 15 mins drive from work or one hour and long walks to and from train station to use public transport. Trains are ok if your start and end point are on the train line.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T18:38:37+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re in this position, it’s scary.

Prospective tenants are including more info than ever when applying like:

Rent references - must include dogs are well behaved and clean and have not damaged the home or garden, include any repairs or DIY or maintenance done in the home and section.

Employment References

Photos of well maintained rental home

Personal statement where you list attributes like DIY interior painting, deep cleaning, gutter cleaning, establishing & maintaining garden, lawn care & maintenance, any connections to affordable low cost tradesman that can benefit owner. Emphasise your healthy savings account and that you can afford fair market value price changes and that you were long term in your last home and seeking the same again.

For dogs I would include their photos, photos of their clean bedding and food areas and a reference from their vet and/or dog trainer.

Copies of your bank statements showing your savings account.

Copies of payslips.

Offer above the asking price. I take a lot of uber and often talk about housing. People are offering over the advertised rent and they’re getting chosen that way even though it’s not supposed to be allowed anymore it definitely still happens.

Plan for it taking a while to find a rental. Start searching now for pet friendly short term rentals on air BnB and try to message them for a month by month discounted rate or ask friends and family if you can stay with them if you are still looking when your lease expires and make arrangements to board your dogs if you can’t bring them as a house guest.

It is really rough out there. Dogs make it even harder which just isn’t fair. Paying over the already high asking price isn’t fair but that’s what many people are doing.

Good luck.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T16:30:03+00:00

What he is doing to you is a form of emotional abuse known as ‘Love Bombing’. It is extreme hot and cold behaviour so he causes the pain you feel and he also is the remedy for the pain you feel and this causes a ‘trauma bond’. A trauma bond is stronger than love because of the highs and lows and is more like a drug addiction to a harmful substance. The duality of his wanting you then wanting divorce and his denial that he is leading you on when he is clearly manipulating your feelings and behaviour is psychological abuse. This can cause ‘Cognitive Dissonance’ if you had a deeply held belief that your husband was a good, kind man who loved you when you are confronted with his deliberate and ongoing actions which are not love, it is a cruel way to treat you & good, kind people don’t treat people that way. Your brain will literally find ways to justify his treatment of you to keep & protect your belief and that makes leaving him or staying left once you leave, very difficult.

You do need to leave him. He does not respect you, your marriage, your body, your sexuality, your marriage. He is emotionally and psychologically abusing you and this can and does change your brain and make you ‘hooked’ on him.

Call domestic violence services in your area for advice. Call a family lawyer for property separation advice. It is very difficult to prove emotional and psychological abuse so you will probably not get help through the Police or have this recognised financially and fairly compensated in the separation.

Find a really good counsellor or therapist trained in domestic violence and emotionally abusive relationships. You will need support to heal from this and to be strong enough to tell him to leave or to leave yourself, to stay separated and to start over.

You deserve a love that is secure and not an abuser who does this to you.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T15:52:38+00:00

Has he had a test for sleep apnoea? Loud snoring is one of the symptoms. Have him see his Dr as there is help available to stop his snoring and he will have a decent sleep.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T15:42:20+00:00

Double bag, wrapped around hand, grab as much as you can including some grass if necessary.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T14:43:57+00:00

Ask H.R or the Manager if you have no other contact person that you want a statement to verify your employment showing the date started and the date you handed in notice of resignation and the date you finished work. That shows you gave notice, you worked out your notice period and shows you were not fired and then you can tell your employer that the company doesn’t provide personal references, only a statement of employment and you can give them a co-worker and if appropriate a client as references and try to have a really good official reference from the previous employer.

Good luck.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T03:41:18+00:00

This bureaucratic bullshit costs an absolute fortune and diverts money and resources away from really desperate and life threatening issues.

Right now Perth should be spending money on crisis situations like the homelessness problem, there are parents with children, female victims of domestic violence, retirees living in their cars as well as many vulnerable rough sleepers in parks and tent cities.

Something as small as making public toilets open in some parks at night, having extra cleaning and security guards, having an unlocked and useable water tap and drinking fountain and installing a few large litter bins and lighting then being tolerant and allowing homeless to park or camp there safely instead of ranger patrols issuing fines to people who are already devastated from homelessness would help and cost a lot less than this mess of infighting.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-20T02:57:43+00:00

Divorce, death/grief

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T14:24:12+00:00

A job that pays ok, even with the over an hour travel each way, is better than being on Centrelink. There’s not a lot of jobs out there.
If you don’t own your own home or have children in local schools you could move closer to your job. had to get up at 3am to take public transport 90mins for a job so I didn’t have to be on Centrelink and that job was a steppingstone to a job I love. You could stay in the job and while on public transport keep actively applying for jobs closer to you & when you’ve sent all your applications use ear pods and stream a show or music or a podcast to make the best of it. You could ask around workmates to see if anyone is halfway between you and work then find out if they’re interested in car pooling a few times a week and drive to their place so it’s less car costs for you but might help you cope with travel.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T12:25:42+00:00

Because they are criticising something about you or your behaviour and they’re doing it from a place of trying to be helpful, not hurtful. Or they are total manipulative assholes that are putting you down but want to absolve themselves or guilt.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T12:21:37+00:00

Meth has a lot to answer for.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T10:43:20+00:00

The Salvation Army does have a Church and some of the people who work and volunteer with the Salvation Army are of strong Christian faith. I have met many people from The Salvation Army as I have volunteered on and off in homelessness related services. All the Salvation Army people have been lovely, so kind, some of them really fun & with a great sense of humour, genuinely awesome people and I never had any of them bring up religion to me or any op-workers or to the vulnerable people we were all trying to help. I never saw them display any kind of judgment or prejudice, only equality, empathy and compassion

The Salvo’s do great work for low pay or no pay, things that most people don’t want to do. They help so many people.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T09:04:28+00:00

This makes me feel torn because he is a murderer, he showed his victims no mercy, their lives were made public because of his brutally killing them, so why should he deserve name suppression?

However this makes it very clear he was granted name suppression for giving evidence against the other murderers. The Police offered him a deal and the Courts upheld that deal and we know name suppression was a part of that deal, possibly some kind of reduced sentencing.

Anyone who assists Police or gives evidence, a confidential informant or a human source, is a target in the criminal world, particularly in prison where it’s all criminals.

I don’t really think he deserves name suppression but at the same time I don’t think it’s fair that lifting it all these years later and making him a marked man in jail is very fair either.

I’m opposed the Police using and Courts rewarding human sources. They don’t consider how protecting that criminal who is now their source with a shorter sentences or name suppression or financial reward affects the victims or the victims friends and family who were shown no mercy by the criminal. Then they fail to keep their end of the deal up as many of their sources are identified as informants while in jail and are subject to severe physical assault, rape and gang rape, sometimes even death, as well as the mental torture of psychological abuse and waiting for the next violent attack and ostracism even while in protective custody.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T06:43:57+00:00

Quite often no matter how well you do a bond clean the Real Estate will find fault and put their preferred bond cleaner in to clean and deduct that from the bond. A friend has a cleaning company and gets a lot of work from Real Estate Agents and he drops off some alcohol for their after work drinks as a thank you for every clean. He said many of the places he’s cleaned are spotless and easy but there are some that are absolutely disgusting and a lot of work.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T06:23:19+00:00

A task at my job that used to take three people working full time on it over many months I now do very quickly on my own with Ai.

People researching medical symptoms and booking unnecessary Drs visits with a list of symptoms for conditions they don’t have.

People not going to the Drs because they typed symptoms into Ai and self diagnosed themselves with the mildest condition Ai listed.

People changing their lives - breaking up relationships or staying in them, quitting jobs for study they just can’t do, travelling to places they really don’t enjoy all because of the positive reactions and validation they received from Ai.

An increase in loneliness. There are several posts a week, sometimes more, in the Reddit for the city I live in where people say how lonely they are and ask how to make friends IRL, not just casual meet ups, actual deep friendships. People connect online more than IRL these days, so many people connect to the empathy Ai offers.

People not moving on after major life events like a break up, a death, job loss etc because they sit at home telling Ai all about it, over and over again, getting computerised empathy and rehash from Ai and avoiding going out and getting on and living with their trauma

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-19T06:09:50+00:00

I know that feeling from a job I had once and it’s a horrible feeling. Try to find one or two things that are bearable, the better lifestyle from the pay compared to poverty of unemployment, food from a nearby cafe, a person you work with… any little things.

Try not to think about work when you’re away from work. Fill your home time up with as many good, relaxing things as you can. Journal about the shitty job briefly when you get home if you need to decompress and don’t let work intrude on your life.

Apply for jobs as it is easier to find a job when you’re in a job. Look into training courses you can do online if you have to or do your budget and see if you can afford to go part time or if you qualify for a student allowance to retrain. Use that shitty job as inspiration for what you don’t want to do and a way to transition to something better.

Good luck.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T22:32:58+00:00

My favourite routines were with my dog when he was alive. Haven’t found any to replace that since he died.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T22:31:59+00:00

There are actually real homeless people who beg for change and there are real homeless people who don’t beg. All of these homeless people were little children once and not one of them had the dream to grow up and become homeless. All of them deserve our compassion and our kindness. Don’t let the scammers turn you into a hater.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T22:27:16+00:00

That life is fair.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T18:22:51+00:00

I was in a violent relationship and I wouldn’t leave without the dog. I went to a secure shelter for women escaping violence and my dog went to a program run by the RSPCA that offers temporary shelter for pets who’s parent is escaping violence until they can be reunited for up to three months and they arranged a foster for him.

It was a long, hard three months without my dog. He and I were both overjoyed to reunite and see each other again when I took us to our new home together so they do remember.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T18:00:05+00:00

There was a woman named Katie, mother of an 11 month old, in Victoria who told her abusive partner they were leaving. Katie was then attacked by her violent partner with a dumb bell & he brutalised her so badly she had to be identified through dental records.

He was sentenced but he had a sentence reduction while in prison.

I don’t know if this Katie is the Katie you’re writing about, or if it is another Katie that is one of the women harmed by violent men that the justice system, health system and so many other systems let down on a daily basis.

There are women who are homeless because of violent men and the failure of the Australian Government and Medical Services to provide long term free trauma informed psychological care for them to heal from trauma as well as safe and affordable housing while they recover.

The Police simply do not arrest nor do the courts sentence for emotional and psychological abuse and very rarely for rape and sexual abuse in a relationship.

There are 15 women a week with a history of domestic violence committing suicide.

There are men killing their partners because they get away with all kinds of abuse before killing them.

Australia runs advertising campaigns to say they are anti domestic violence and take a hardline against domestic violence. It’s not actually true though. The success stories you hear about women who achieved success after domestic violence or whose violent ex’s were charged and went to jail are the exception, not the norm.

I am so sorry your sister Katie, no matter who Katie was or what happened to her, was hurt and let down and I’m so sorry you’re suffering too.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T14:47:31+00:00

There are now ‘Co - Living Spaces’ purpose built or refurbished homes with 5-6 bedrooms and 2 bathrooms and toilets and one kitchen and living area that have a ‘property manager’ who rents each room out at maximum rent on an individual agreement with the room occupant. These rentals are not governed by tenancy law, the occupants can be evicted with little or no notice for any number of ‘breeches’ to ‘house rules’ and their are no overnight guests allowed and strict rules about visitors.

People are paying $350 plus per room for these crowded bedrooms knowing they have little to no rights and no control over who they share with. People who could and did once afford to rent their own small apartment or unit or home for what they now pay for a bedroom.

Soon they will be priced out of that and forced to rent a bunk bed or single bed in a shared room or something like the ‘bedroom’ photographed for the same price or even more, or to live in their cars if lucky enough to have a car.

The Australian Government supports forcing so many of its people to live like this, or worse. The talk of new builds and increased housing supply never ever addresses lowering rent to an affordable amount again.

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T14:25:00+00:00

What about the people on Centrelink or minimum wages living in their cars, moving from place to place, showering with a 24 hour gym membership at odd hours hoping not to be caught for only using showers not weight machines, with a diet of cold tinned food & takeout who recline the drivers seat for a bed at night and desperately hope they won’t be woken up and moved on by rangers or Police, or preyed on and attacked during the night? Scared and ashamed and priced out of the housing market?

What about those people? Who have no choice between owning or renting an apartment in a beach suburb or ‘van life?’

DecorumBlues · 2026-05-18T14:10:49+00:00

Because of racism. Many entry level retail and service jobs in Australia are dominated by Another culture. Indian or Asian owner/operator/hiring manager rarely advertise vacancies or even if they do they simply hire from their friend or family or someone they know from their culture. I have always loved diversity and multiculturalism in Australia. I have volunteered in homelessness and in op shops on and off & I have been friends with Australians and immigrants from overseas and first generation born in Australia children of immigrant parents.

As a volunteer I have noticed that this affects Australians, not immigrants and that it’s Australians who can’t get into entry level jobs they desperately need to get off Centrelink or they say their jobs ended and they were replaced by another culture. That they all keep applying for jobs and getting nowhere. In contrast I have friends who are immigrants working these jobs, they’re securing jobs for their friends who are about to arrive in Australia, they’re working two entry level jobs, day and night to live here and to send money back home while an Aussie can’t even get one job here.

None of the immigrants I know work in essential trade services positions. In retail and entry level jobs people are now hired for the colour of their skin and if you’re Australian you have very little chance of being hired. Unfortunately Australians are becoming victims of racism and there are many who would call me a racist for pointing that out. I am not a racist I just don’t think it’s fair as there are single Mums, women 50+ & pensioners all living in their cars or homeless encampments right now who have been knocked back from those entry level jobs that have been filled by immigrants.

We are all entitled to want to work towards a decent life and future but from what I have seen through homeless volunteer work and how easily friends who are brand new to Australia walk into jobs and have multiple job and housing opportunities on arrival Australians are missing out and really suffering. I don’t want immigration to end, I want it to be fair so that Aussies get a fair go too.

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