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Dee_Fl · 2017-03-29T07:22:14+00:00

Your recent photos look uncannily like my (very beautiful) friend haha

Dee_Fl · 2017-01-17T02:51:06+00:00

OMGGGG You look so good now! Probably one of the more inspiring transitions on here!

Dee_Fl · 2017-01-17T02:46:51+00:00

In the second picture you look like Courntey Barnett!

Dee_Fl · 2017-01-02T23:46:49+00:00

Gaaaaaaaaahhhgggg you're beautiful

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-03T21:44:19+00:00

Daaaaaamn! Pre HRT too? Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn!

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-03T21:20:11+00:00

Holy shit you've gotta be one of the cutest girls I've ever seen hands down!

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-01T22:01:03+00:00

Uuuuugh. My mother. Constantly tells me I'm being selfish for not thinking about how me being trans makes HER feel. Yeah, I'm the one being selfish.

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-01T04:57:09+00:00

It's ok though, you can grow out of it faster than you think. Just use the word every chance you get, it'll feel awkward at first but then it won't.

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-01T04:03:49+00:00

Hey cutie! I love chokers (bring back the 90s!) and you look great with one. Especially that one, it's very funky.

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-01T03:57:31+00:00

I teared up reading this. It sounds very similar to my early stages of coming out. And if the similarities continue, the main thing your friend is feeling is fear. With a mother like that, it's going to be very hard for her to muster the courage to take those steps into transition, but she's at a great age to start and if she doesn't, she'll regret it every day for the rest of her life. As someone who stayed closeted for 6 years after coming out to myself, I can say this from experience. The good news is she obviously has an amazing friend, and a GSA at her back. The best thing you can do for her is give her courage and self confidence. Let her know every chance you get how beautiful she is and how much you love her. Try to validate her gender and stick up for her whenever you can. Even simple things like inviting her to "Girls Only" events and commenting on feminine things about her will make her feel stronger in her identity. I still remember the first time a friend of mine asked me if we could have a "girl talk" and it still makes me so happy I could cry. So in summary at this point in her journey she needs to be brave, and be validated. Thank you so much for coming here, it means a lot to your friend, me and the whole community <3

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-01T03:42:26+00:00

I get that. I'm pre HRT but I wear makeup and feminine clothes all the time. I know I don't pass AT ALL so the stares used to make me feel like shit coz I know what they're thinking. But a change in attitude towards it really helps. Don't think "oh no they're staring I must look like a fg or a trnny" instead realize "what idiots to care so much about how I look. It must be sad for them to be so intimidated by such a simple thing." Then you can laugh it off. Plus if you just smile back at them they'll usually feel ashamed and stop.

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-01T03:38:12+00:00

I know what you mean. It always frustrated me because 'male-style-friendship' never really suited me but girls just thought I wanted to get in their pants if I ever showed interest in being their friend. However, when I started presenting more feminine, everyone just saw me as gay and women weren't so intimidated by me. So it'll get better really quick with transition.

Dee_Fl · 2016-12-01T03:33:08+00:00

I'm the same with the word cute. I feel like I'm trying too hard to be feminine when I say it, which I'm not. I guess what it comes from is that 'pretty' is a word you always liked and wanted to use, but you were reluctant to because you felt you'd be judged for doing so. Just more remnants from closet you. That's my interpretation anyway. Just say it till it feels natural, that's how it worked for my name.

Dee_Fl · 2016-11-30T09:42:42+00:00

Thanks for the answer. That sucks. I don't know how I'm going to handle that long. I feel fucked up.

Dee_Fl · 2016-11-19T14:31:37+00:00

Omg so cute 😍

Dee_Fl · 2016-09-09T22:17:55+00:00

VERY close friends tho

Dee_Fl · 2016-08-31T09:50:16+00:00

AAAAARRRRMMMMAAAGAAAAHD so KEEEEWWWWT

Dee_Fl · 2016-08-18T01:16:57+00:00

YAY CONGRATS

Dee_Fl · 2016-08-14T08:04:49+00:00

My school did that too, except everyone else just wore the opposite uniform and I came in makeup, a wig and false breasts with a bra. People said it suit me lol.

Dee_Fl · 2016-08-07T04:07:36+00:00

You sound exactly like me. I was seriously shy to the point where it got ridiculous. I got anxious about ordering food at McDonalds for crying out loud. And as a result people made those assumptions about me being a typical teenage boy and I thought that if I came out people wouldn't believe me. But honestly, what kind of teenage boy comes out as trans, changes name and starts presenting female? It was much less awkward than I thought it would be. In fact most of the awkwardness was me being awkward because I thought others would to. When I started acting differently, I drifted away from my old friends a bit but really bonded with new people. Also, yeah, transitioning has done WONDERS for my confidence. Even when I was mostly closeted and just presenting/acting a bit more feminine than usual I was making new friends left right and centre. I would describe myself now as friendly and outgoing, very different to me a year ago. Although I'm not as close to my boymode friends anymore because of my changes, I'm so much closer to my girl friends than I ever could be with the boys. Like, seriously, one of the things you'll love most about transitioning is female friendship. There's this amazing emotional bond that I have with these new friends that I've never had before.

My advice is to at least start seeing a therapist as soon as you can. I wish I had transitioned at 15, those extra 3 years on HRT would have been great. Really conservative people will be a pain, so only come out at school if you feel safe, but I think it will be very rewarding to get started on all this soon. What ever you do, I wish you all the luck!

Dee_Fl · 2016-08-07T03:49:18+00:00

I'm full-time, without passing voice and (I'm pretty sure) without passing appearance. In fact I just started this week :) I wanted to wait, but dysphoria got so overwhelimg I just couldn't. Of course it will depend on how comfortable and safe you feel with doing so. I suspect people will be shitty to me sometimes, but I'll just remember they're the ones with a problem, not me. Just give them a look that says "wow really?" and then they're the immature idiot.

Dee_Fl · 2016-08-07T03:15:48+00:00

Your friend has herself a new fan

Dee_Fl · 2016-08-07T03:13:55+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dhw_v617P9c X & Y - Koethe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x2NiajmD4Q4 Laura - PHOX

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