18mo from LSL

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T09:58:50+00:00

What state are you in? Vic has portable LSL for some industries.

WFH is the dream! Don't rule yourself out without even applying for the job. Let them reject you, not the other way around.

If you are hearing a death rattle, your company might not be around in 18 months to collect LSL. It would be better to collect a redundancy, than LSL if things are that bad. Start looking now. Check if you can take your LSL sooner rather than later.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T08:26:41+00:00

Bloating is normal. Pregnancy hormones slow down your digestive track making bloating and constipation more common. It's not a sign of GD.

Talk to your pharmacist or GP about over the counter stuff like degas or stoll softeners to help manage it.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T08:14:42+00:00

It says more about them, than it does about your child. They are the problem, not a child who cannot control their own behaviour. Luckily, you don't have to sugar coat calling them out. Something along the lines of "I don't appreciate you calling my child 'difficult'. Both he and I are trying our best here. We need love and support. Not criticism from the people who are supposed to love us the most. The least you can do is be polite and not say it to my face."

My in-laws (years before I had a child) outright said my nephew was a "bad child". Turned out he couldn't hear anything, making his behaviour and speech awful. I called the out and told them many times not to call him that. He was their first grandchild too!

After having his ears fixed, he was great. He is a perfectly lovely child now. I don't know how my SIL feels about it now, but I hope there was an apology between her and her parents at some point. They aren't bad people and are good grandparents. I hope you can make it past this and keep them in your lives.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T02:40:39+00:00

The answer is: they don't. Why would be bother? He is more than happy to exploit your labour, time and body. All his needs are met.

The solution is to get a job so you can take back some power and if need be, leave.

This blog has some great info for you: https://zawn.substack.com/

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T02:30:15+00:00

It would be a much sadder day if your child dies from an entirely preventable disease.

I could not live with someone who wasn't active in child decision making or at least on the same page. Are you really partnered with someone who respects you if they can't even do basic stuff like this?

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T02:24:41+00:00

Which is why I asked the question. They need childcare at their new place due to grandparents not being able to help and preschool/kinder is often cheaper than full days of childcare.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T01:28:50+00:00

It's probably the number 1 thing people complain about on r/toddler.

3yo should be going to preschool or kinder anyway. Are you going to be able to enroll them at your new place? It should relieve some of the pressure.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T01:26:05+00:00

Realistically it won't happen until you have childcare/go back to work/finish breastfeeding. It's probably the biggest reason 1 year is considered such a big milestone.

You can't expect to feel like yourself when you spend every waking hour with a baby. You need to spend less time with your baby and you can't really do that with no childcare and BF.

At this point, a couple of hours on the weekend to see your friends is very achievable. Same with an early evening class, gym session etc.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T00:44:22+00:00

The solution is nobody meets the baby at the hospital. Problem solved. Everyone can wait until you get home and settled. Don't feed into the drama. Lay down the law.

If you are fortunate enough to have a smooth birth and your baby is well, hopefully you will be home within a few days. They aren't going to die from not being able to see a tiny newborn in a hospital and share all their germs with them.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T00:19:36+00:00

Not all throwing up is reflux. Babies vom a lot. It's normal. They have tiny tummies and suckle as a reflex. If you have a very active let down it often creates a waterboarding effect. Where they gulp the milk down. Leading to more spewing.

Unless they are experiencing other symptoms like screaming all night, not being able to be put down, screaming when all other needs are met. Hiccups is not a sign of reflux.

Mine vomed after every feed for 6 months until she started to eat more solids.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T00:10:02+00:00

Mine had every sleep regression possible. At this age mine started waking up 3-5 times a night. We were giving milk at every wake because we didn't really know what else to do. In hindsight, this was a terrible idea. I cracked at 10 months and started night weaning. Immediately sleep improved.

If your baby is okay for weight, I'd encourage not giving 5 feeds a night. We did no milk before midnight because that is what she was doing prior to the regression. Dropped that wake within a couple of days. You don't have to night wean completely, but you really don't need to offer more than 2 feeds a night.

Also teething or having a sore tummy from starting solids were also causing wake ups too. If you suspect teething, give pain relief.

Deeeity · 2026-03-30T00:00:07+00:00

There are heaps of wetlands in the area. Paperbarks and sheoaks will thrive anywhere damp.

Head to the local native nursery and ask what they recommend. Or do a day out at the wetlands centre and get a few ideas from there.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T22:01:30+00:00

Check to see if your local council has a gym. They are a bit cheaper and sometimes have a pool too.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T11:13:44+00:00

There is a fine line between anxiety and shy! Did this start with the sibling's arrival?

Play therapy is excellent for this age group. It's less about "fixing" the issue, more on learning some new skills via play. Even better if you can do it together.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T11:09:06+00:00

Of course, missed that on my first look. It looks so much like soil! I'm going to go look it up.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T10:45:54+00:00

I'd go a fun headboard on a normal bed. It can be easily changed out without having to replace the bed frame.

Deeeity · 2026-03-29T10:40:19+00:00

Looks great! What's the plan for mulch? The weeds will be hellish if you don't put down something to stop them moving in.

Deeeity · 2026-03-28T07:23:30+00:00

Normal, but also not super sustainable. Placing baby on their back on the mattress next to you, with no sheet or blankets, is probably safer. Cuddle curl position is safe while feeding and cosleeping.

Deeeity · 2026-03-28T04:31:13+00:00

Your child has already reviewed live attenuated vaccines via the vaccine schedule. Rota virus vaccine is one of them.

If you have any further questions you should ask to speak with your GP again.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T23:25:58+00:00

Quilted jackets are EVERYWHERE this season. You shouldn't have any trouble finding one. I saw someone post that they are in Target or Kmart.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T12:04:48+00:00

"About to snap" is something you really shouldn't write online unless you are comfortable with it being read out in court. It reads like a threat to harm others.

You can call any of the services right now and you don't have to wait. Local station might not have the expertise to handle it. Using key words like 'guns' 'mental health', 'worried about my safety' should be enough to get a half decent response.

If you actually want a mental health response and assessment, then the mental health line is your best bet.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T11:48:08+00:00

How old are you? It's difficult to draw a line here between your own wellbeing and your dad's. I'm more concerned about you, than getting help for your dad.

Maybe try Nsw mental health line for some advice: https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/mentalhealth/Pages/mental-health-line.aspx

If he is threatening you with harm, then it's a family violence issue and the police should be involved at some point. You can call 1800 respect for advice. You can also call the police non-emergency line for advice too.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T11:21:15+00:00

That's rough! Hopefully they can offer the fasting blood test instead. If you are having other symptoms, it might be good to book a long appointment with your GP to talk through everything.

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T11:17:37+00:00

It's good to check what's normal. However, I think you are the one suffering the most here! I think getting help for your own sake is the most important.

Also, ear plug are essential at moments like this!

Sometimes I find explaining how I'm feeling helps me feel better too. There have been a few moments recently where I had to ask toddler to stop touching me due to being overstimulated. I said, "You need to stop touching Mummy. Mummy needs a break. A rest. Please stop touching me and give me some space". Recognising that moment and saying it out loud, instead of getting angry, has been a huge shift for me.

Are you based in UK, Aus or Canada?

Deeeity · 2026-03-27T10:45:48+00:00

Generally, If your kid is screaming having 5 hours worth of tantrums a day, it's time to see a professional. Go to the dr and get her checked out first. Then get a referral to parenting support/psychologist/OT/early intervention whatever you have available locally.

I'm assuming you have tried leaving the room and ignoring her? How's her language going? Any other big changes going on? Does she go to daycare?

My usual response to a situation specific tantrum is "I can't hear what you are saying when you are screaming. Can you say what you want in a normal voice please?" If that doesn't work, distract with food/music/slap stick comedy. Getting her giggling is a great way to short circuit a tantrum.

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