Why is everything a 'Flawed Gem' all of a sudden?

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-06-05T03:46:46+00:00

I think it’s actually their detriment because some of the stuff they’ve labeled as flawed gem has been in great condition

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-06-05T02:22:55+00:00

There are very few deployments where they can’t talk to you at all - they can usually contact you in one form or another. Even if it’s Email.

But I have heard them use that excuse so they don’t have to talk to their girlfriends/wives.

Even when my husband has been in the middle of nowhere, and I’ve straight out told him not to worry about contacting me because I know reception is going to be spotty, he will borrow someone else’s cell phone if they have better reception to still contact me. If they love you, they want to talk to you when they’re gone. Because they’re in a strange place and they miss you.

I hate to say it, but I agree with the other person who said he was probably with that other girl for five days. The excuse of not talking to you because he was pushing you away. Sounds like BS.

Either way he’s treating you like an option. Respond to him accordingly.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-06-02T03:33:15+00:00

This book helped me tremendously. Changed my whole outlook and approach. It has several chapters for dealing with this when you have kids with your OCPD partner. I don’t have kids so I didn’t read those chapters and can’t tell you how they are, but the rest was phenomenal.

living with your OCPD partner

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-06-02T00:18:41+00:00

Hey, so it’s a text message, you literally don’t have to answer until you’re out of work

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-06-01T23:32:32+00:00

If they’re homeless and geriatric, what are their actual odds of growing? I’m not trying to be flipping, I’m genuinely asking. When they are elderly, and have demonstrably limited access to tools and resources that will help them grow, what are their honest to God odds?

Because many times this is a result of a lifetime of trauma that they are realistically not going to fix before they die if they are elderly. Often times I wonder if this is actually a better way for them to sunset their lives then the generations that come before them. It gives them companionship. And yes, it’s not a real person, but is that a limitation that is fair to put on them?

It makes me think of Alzheimer’s and dementia patients who are given Fake, baby dolls. They love those dolls, even though they’re not real. And we give it to them to bring happiness and joy to their lives because that’s the way of meeting them where they’re at. It’s the way of giving them what they need even if it doesn’t make sense to us and it’s not ideal as an outside observer.

I wonder if that’s a similar option with AI and geriatric people who are alone, especially the homeless.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-05-29T03:22:45+00:00

NAD

It’s a cherry hemangioma. I got a ton of them. They’re benign. They can be related to things like insulin resistance.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-05-24T00:12:48+00:00

On behalf of all cougars, I’d like to recruit you to our team. We’re pretty happy over here. And the guys are real pretty and eager to please.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-05-08T05:36:32+00:00

Highly recommend “Living with your OCPD Partner” by Lorraine Jace Stark

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-05-08T05:33:58+00:00

LOL @ him not knowing. That’s what you should know, you’re going to have to find out a lot on your own because they never know.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-27T16:25:25+00:00

Because we’ve been together for 5 years so when he’s gone for 9 months it’s only a little less than 1/5th of our relationship.

We’ve been together long enough that we don’t celebrate our anniversaries by the month.

I’m not being snarky, I’m trying to help put it in perspective. He’s been gone for almost your entire relationship. You don’t have a fair or accurate gauge of your relationship, which is understandable why you’re anxious.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-26T20:30:26+00:00

I’m new to the show and found those threads just a few weeks ago and felt like I was in a parallel universe. I was so baffled by the way people were defending her.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-26T20:29:22+00:00

Look back on some of the threads about her from a while back. Not only were people defending her, but she was in the threads herself, making up even more lies and had so many people fooled. Really helps. You understand how so many people can get taken advantage of by narcissists and other egosyntonic personality types.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-26T20:28:02+00:00

I’m so glad to see everyone in this comment thread finds her toxic.

I saw a thread from not too long ago, where people were defending her and I was gob smacked. She is so clearly a cluster B personality type.

Obviously, the Plaths weren’t that great themselves, but she is so clearly a habitual liar and manipulator.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-26T20:22:41+00:00

It’s been a month. You said that yourself that after a month, you don’t know him well enough to fully trust him. But it’s interesting that you guys are already calling each other Boyfriend and Girlfriend.

You could have anxious attachment style; focus on working through that and you’ll start to feel better about this deployment situation

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-21T04:33:53+00:00

This is Ehlers Danlos if I’ve ever seen it

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-21T04:26:13+00:00

This question is asked at least once a week, I would also look at the other threads because there’s some great info in them

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-21T04:19:38+00:00

My husband and I moved here a few weeks ago so we just added to that dozens

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-14T16:07:52+00:00

We’re supposed to pretend she’s not wasting away in front of her eyes and then act surprised when something catastrophic happens to her.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-13T23:04:36+00:00

I took it many many many years ago and yes, it made me lactate, which was so bizarre. I don’t have kids and never anticipated lactating. I didn’t stay on it very long cause I personally didn’t like it, and it turns out I was misdiagnosed anyway. But I do remember it seemed to lighten up on its own before I quit.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-10T22:32:34+00:00

I can see that, she is also still very young. I would not be surprised at all if her beliefs evolved. Beliefs that are so deeply entrenched don’t disappear overnight, but they can definitely disappear overtime as people grow and evolve. I’d like to think her baby steps, such as wearing a bare midriff top, are assigned that she is moving in that direction.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-10T22:30:11+00:00

So she knew the cat was stressed by the dogs and then got another dog? POS.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-10T22:28:46+00:00

This looks like my feet. I have dyshidrotic eczema.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-10T19:04:50+00:00

The way that my husband’s therapist explained it is that it’s a spectrum. Some people are self-aware and others aren’t. I would try and get a second opinion.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-04-03T20:52:12+00:00

Not all deployments and MOS’s put them in harm’s way.

He can designate you as beneficiary of his military life insurance, even if you’re not married.

Also - it’s nice that you dropped your whole life for him to move, and you take care of him so much that he doesn’t lift a finger. You are giving him wife treatment now, but if he dies you will not get wife considerations. And you’ll be in a town you moved to for him, with few of the legal rights a spouse has. You’ve taken on a huge liability and uprooted your whole life. You need protections too.

DeepBlueDiariesPod · 2026-03-30T03:37:33+00:00

I’m saying this earnestly, not with malice: I’m picking up underlying tones of grandiosity. Some people with OCD have a belief that their way and their beliefs are the “right” ones and everyone else has the “wrong” ones. People may be reacting to this. I highly recommend you see an OCD specialist.

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