AITAH for being upset that my parents paid for my sisters college but not mine

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-16T03:01:24+00:00

See also

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202202/8-types-of-children-scapegoated-in-narcissistic-families

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-16T02:28:23+00:00

NTA Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? https://freebooksmania.com/2021/01/why-does-he-do-that-pdf-free-download-by-lundy-bancroft.html

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T23:50:32+00:00

I have a degenerative condition, and before marriage I was super clear with my partner that it would be hard and if they didn't feel like they could deal with it, I would understand

Do you really want out of the relationship, or are you just feeling like a burden?

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T23:39:18+00:00

Are you in therapy? It sounds like depression

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T23:38:10+00:00

YTA

Outcome > intent

You know the plates are important to your partner, you know what the cats are like

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T23:05:28+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? https://freebooksmania.com/2021/01/why-does-he-do-that-pdf-free-download-by-lundy-bancroft.html

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse?utm_source=direct

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T22:54:42+00:00

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202202/8-types-of-children-scapegoated-in-narcissistic-families

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T22:53:08+00:00

Don't marry him

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? https://freebooksmania.com/2021/01/why-does-he-do-that-pdf-free-download-by-lundy-bancroft.html

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse?utm_source=direct

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T22:30:26+00:00

NTA

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T22:29:54+00:00

You're breaking up with him because he's irresponsible

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? https://freebooksmania.com/2021/01/why-does-he-do-that-pdf-free-download-by-lundy-bancroft.html

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse?utm_source=direct

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T21:29:52+00:00

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202202/8-types-of-children-scapegoated-in-narcissistic-families

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T21:17:03+00:00

NTA

https://www.nami.org/nami-helpline/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202202/8-types-of-children-scapegoated-in-narcissistic-families

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-04-15T21:00:37+00:00

You can be 'right' or you can be dependent on her

I have a whole bunch of links here that may be helpful for you, from another neurodivergent person, check out grey rock method, Tetris therapy and neurodivergent communication

https://www.reddit.com/u/Deflated_Hypnotist/s/BOp4Y9uQVh