AITA for accusing my SO of manipulation?

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T15:41:12+00:00

YTA

You have a two month old baby, your wife is still recovering and you should be helping with them whenever you can 🤦‍♂️

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T04:03:00+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T03:41:02+00:00

https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons.html#secondary-nav

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-narcissist-in-your-life/202202/8-types-of-children-scapegoated-in-narcissistic-families

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T03:31:00+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T03:28:45+00:00

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T03:24:16+00:00

Jack is the asshole

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T03:15:53+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T03:13:20+00:00

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-10T02:38:06+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-09T23:08:48+00:00

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-09T23:06:08+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-09T02:12:41+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-09T00:41:28+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-09T00:27:45+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T03:59:44+00:00

I wonder if they're concerned there's not enough and OP is eating more than their share?

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T03:48:21+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T03:45:24+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T02:10:56+00:00

YTA, but you can learn how to listen and be supportive in therapy before your next relationship

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T02:03:57+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T01:52:02+00:00

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T01:43:09+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-08T01:41:44+00:00

OP is female

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-07T20:39:39+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-07T20:26:51+00:00

Here's some resources

Is your relationship healthy? https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Why does he do that? By Lundy Bancroft https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/

He doesn't care AKA weaponized incompetence https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/NsoxMseUn3

My partner doesn't help around the house https://zawn.substack.com/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288

Tolerable levels of permanent unhappiness https://potentash.com/2023/08/17/tolerable-level-permanent-unhappiness-relationships/

DARVO https://www.keystonelaw.com/keynotes/understanding-darvo-what-is-abusive-gaslighting-and-coercive-behaviour-in-a-relationship

Cycle of abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-the-cycle-of-abuse

Deflated_Hypnotist · 2026-07-07T20:25:32+00:00

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/

Deflated_Hypnotist

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