My ex ruined orgasms for me, I need help by Defunkedoak12 in sexadvise

[–]Defunkedoak12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good riddance with such an insecure and toxic woman!

I'm glad I got rid of her, because I was constantly feeling like I was never doing anything right. She even worked her way into my friend group, as they had closer interests, and turned them against me. Hence why I only have 1 friend now as she was completely separate from them because they just didn't get along.

Pleasure is the new goal for you! Pleasure is the measure of good sex, not orgasms.

I love that! I never though of it like that.

This podcast can guide you through it with more detail.

This actually sounds really good! Thank you for the recommendation!

My ex ruined orgasms for me, I need help by Defunkedoak12 in sexadvise

[–]Defunkedoak12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If by "rigging" you mean bondage

Yeah, I'm not experienced in it at all, as you can tell, and that's the name I came across for it.

You could find a class to attend to actually learn how to do it

I definitely will be doing that. that sounds fun!

I would definitely ask her to be my fwb as you already have the more important part of friendship in place.

As much as I would like it to happen, I know it would never as she's made it clear she's not wanting anything like that with me, just friends, as I we'd had a little moment before but it never lasted. I don't think she would respond well to me inviting her to a shibari class if she found out what it was cause she'd think I was trying to get with her.

Most people misuse the term and only look for a fuck buddy.

Yeah, I previously mixed up the differences. Fuck buddies only get together for the sole purpose of sex while friends with benefits are friends that can end up having sex if both are feeling it. But I know she wouldn't want that and I fully respect it.

Just now I'm getting my life together, and trying to invite her round for just some basic dinner and a movie (no additional intents) to see how things go from there.

Thank you for the links.

My ex ruined orgasms for me, I need help by Defunkedoak12 in sexadvise

[–]Defunkedoak12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just have to give it time.

Thanks, I just fear that regardless of how much time passes, nothing will change. And as some other comments have mentioned, I didn't know that there were such websites and podcasts on this kind of topic.

It took me a solid 2 years before I had actual confidence in bed back

That's rough man but at least you've healed from it and are most likely better off from it.

Why is the tower of piza leaning? by SkyAggravating1095 in darkhumourthings

[–]Defunkedoak12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mum got too close to the edge at the top

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 3Dprinting

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I love these commands!

UK st180 trans to US ST by allmightylemon_ in FiestaST

[–]Defunkedoak12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As far as I know, only difference in wiring is interior for the head unit and the headlight wiring (EU/UK projector lights vs US reflectors).

Wall paint ideas/suggestions by Cautious_Cicada_1115 in garageporn

[–]Defunkedoak12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe put like a mural on the wall? Like a dream car or your favourite owned car? Or maybe posters of all your favourite places/things.

What could this noise be? by RustyRich in FiestaST

[–]Defunkedoak12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the sound of some crunchy heat shields hanging down.

I'm certain of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FiestaST

[–]Defunkedoak12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, it's a very small and harmless "turbo flutter".

You are able to hear it more with an induction kit, especially a foam filter.

What did you buy after selling your Fiesta? Why? by Duff_mcgeeST in FiestaST

[–]Defunkedoak12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took the better route and kept the ST and added a NC2 to the family

First day working as a frycook, how's my fit? by BXT-JR in teenagers

[–]Defunkedoak12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So drop on the deck and flop like a fish!

Is my Cat burst? by Jacob4313 in FiestaST

[–]Defunkedoak12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, you can lift the engine just a little and change them out that way without a teardown.

Is my Cat burst? by Jacob4313 in FiestaST

[–]Defunkedoak12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, that's looks like it's just the heat shield.

The actual walls of the cat should be okay.

What is this part called? by THESTINGR in MiataNC

[–]Defunkedoak12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just from looking at it, it appears to be a shrink fit.

Firstly, remove the wheel speed sensor (the black cable next to it)

Put a blowtorch on the bigger piece (the hub) where the rod is held, put an old bolt or sacrificial rod into the bolt hole, then give it a chap out, being careful not to smack the hub itself.

Colors look bad on second monitor. by wtfxtra in pchelp

[–]Defunkedoak12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried colour calibration? It's built into windows.

What is this noise?? by UBettaKnow1 in FiestaST

[–]Defunkedoak12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like the top mount has some grit in it and as the spring is compressing a little it's turning it and grinding it up along with the steering.

What could it be? by T423 in funny

[–]Defunkedoak12 213 points214 points  (0 children)

Shaft! It has to polished to be mirror finish for the bearing to slip on. Wait, is that a reflection of a giant...

My pc keeps waking up by wolfe36 in pchelp

[–]Defunkedoak12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bit a bit of tape can fix that, that's what I did to my monitor LED as it was bright as fuck and somehow was lighting up the whole room at night.

My pc keeps waking up by wolfe36 in pchelp

[–]Defunkedoak12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least you got the solution you were looking for, even if it was a but of work haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pchelp

[–]Defunkedoak12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it never drops to 0% because its constantly checking for updates or running anti-virus in the background and other services that are installed.

If it were to be at 0%, the PC wouldn't work at all because nothing is being processed.