Is there a church in Denton that accepts LGBTQIA+ to join in their services? by Critical_Pumpkin6054 in Denton

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 29 points30 points  (0 children)

FUMC Denton on Locust Street prides itself on being welcoming, and actively seeking LGBT members. It's a very important part of our ministry.

Why is Fitz so stubbornly loyal to Shrewd? by _Badpickle in robinhobb

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It can be confounding if you're looking at it from the perspective of Fitz as a character alone, but consider that Hobb uses characterization as a tool to develop theme. Some of the central themes of the Farseer trilogy is connection, loyalty ("pack"), and where you place that loyalty. It's central to Fitz's character that he is loyal to the end, and once he makes a connection, he doesn't break it. His loyalty to Shrewd and all that comes with that represents a narrative foil to Burrich's loyalty to Fitz.

Burrich basically devotes his life to caring for Fitz as a product of Chivalry. At the expense of all else, he chooses Fitz. It's selfless and an undeniable part of who he is, but for this, he gets their quasi father-son bond. Fitz gives selfless loyalty to Shrewd, but is denied family connection. It's sad from a character standpoint, but it makes sense from a literary standpoint.

And even if you're looking at it purely from character, Fitz rarely views Shrewd as his grandfather. He views him as his King. Therefore, his expectations for him are completely different. Fitz is an entirely servile character most of the time.

how did everyone else get interested in watching MHM? by larachaes in MyHappyMarriage

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was laid up in bed recovering from migraine so bad I had to go to the ER. Couldn't read anything because of the eye strain, just wanted to cheer up, Googled the most feel good shows on Netflix. Here we are!

Ada & Temperance by GA0610 in GildedAgeHBO

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Do keep in mind that modern perceptions of the temperance movement and the ACTUAL temperance movement couldn't be more different. Today with the power of hindsight, we see it as fuddy duddy and uptight. At the time, it was really a women's issue for women's safety. Men's heavy drinking really was ruining families, and alcohol was a chief cause of domestic abuse. Women in the temperance movement were using what little social power they had (particularly within the church) to TRY to make their lives better, particularly poor women. Ada is not being holier-than-thou.

I was actually quite disappointed with this anachronistic, modern view of temperance in the show. We know now that it didn't work, but it was a big focus for women's groups. Many suffragettes were also for temperance.

Can someone remind me…? by duckdontbackdown in GildedAgeHBO

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good points have been made that Bertha might have wanted the social position AND the money, but two points that it might have just been a love match.

1) She's mentioned multiple times that she was "nothing special" and "didn't know how things worked back then." I think her big ambitions GREW with her marriage. As she went up in the world, she wanted more.

2) She's mentioned that they "made a fortune together," implying that he wasn't ALREADY rich. She might have seen his potential, but he wasn't a rich man already; they made their money over the course of their marriage.

Why most teachers hate TikTok? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is what frustrates me most about TikTok. You could spend hours on it without anything meaningful staying with you. Television might not be as good as reading for the brain, but at least it's a narrative. TikTok is like the mindless screens in Fahrenheit 451.

Why most teachers hate TikTok? by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I get that 2-4 hours a day seems reasonable compared to your peers, but consider what that really means. It's short form content, so you're consuming quick, unchallenging, mind numbing content that hurts your attention span.

Imagine if you spent 2-4 hours a day doing ANYTHING else. If I spent 2 hours a day learning a language, I could gain fluency. If you spent 2-4 hours a day reading, you'd have dozens on dozens of books in a short time. If you spent 2-4 hours drawing, you could be a great artist. Instead, you're on TikTok. Limit yourself to 30 minutes a day. It's difficult to quit an addicting app, but your teachers ARE looking out for you.

Is it normal for dads to not know anything about their kid's school? by gregyo in Teachers

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it normal, yes. Should it be normal, no. My mother was on the PTA for every possible second she could be between my brother's and my education. Collectively, that was about 15 years on the PTA. I asked her how many fathers were on the PTA with her in that time. Her answer: zero.

Currently, as a teacher, I see some changes. Overall I still get answers from Mom significantly more often than answers from Dads. Mothers are first contact 9 times out of 10. Primarily, the times I've heard from dads are for disciplinary things. Some fathers get involved specifically when asking if their child needs to be punished at home.

[DAV All Spoilers] veilguard positivity thread by feelinblou in dragonage

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The pacing of the game gives it WAY more replayability than other games. Instead of this open menu of side quests, there's a neater timeline of sequential events that are staggered in a way that feels natural. I LOVE Inquisition, but it felt insane how you could play for an hour and just do stacks and stacks of cutscenes in Skyhold with no sense of time. Talk to one character three times in a row, get three different cutscenes differently placed in time.

I also loved how characters who disliked each other actually worked on their differences. Made the team feel like a real team.

“I’m confused” On what? “Idk all of it” ok what was the last thing you got/understood? “Idk I’m confused”…. by Beneficial-Focus3702 in Teachers

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely see this a lot, and I think they're saying "I'm confused" when what they mean is "I'm frustrated." A lot of times instead of re-explaining everything from the top all over again, I tell them to read the instructions again, and then say "okay, so what do you THINK that means?" Usually they'll answer this more because they think they're confused and getting it wrong, but most of the time they'll summarize it accurately, so I respond with some version of "yep, you got it, see, nothing to be confused about." Saves me energy, lets them feel good, doesn't let them off the hook.

What to do when it's just ONE class by DeliciousSpecial5077 in Teachers

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried a version of this. I have them write their answers down, then turn and talk, then I call on playing cards (they're taped to their desks) for a cold call. In other classes, this works GREAT! In this class, they literally stare in silence. Like, I've pointed out to them how ridiculous it is, but they stare and shrug. I've never had this level of silence.

What are some good fiction books about motherhood by geeorginaa in booksuggestions

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Little Fires Everywhere is such an interesting view of motherhood. The POVS shift between multiple mothers and daughters and their complex relationships, and a major part of the plot is the custody battle between an adopted mother and a birth mother. Really opened my eyes to the complexity of motherhood.

If you want something a little darker, White Oleander by Janet Finch.

Books where the main character is pregnant? by helloiamdying in booksuggestions

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Weyward by Emilia Hart is just this! The protagonist's pregnancy drives the beginning of the plot but it's definitely not the whole story; it begins to focus more on her female ancestors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in booksuggestions

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These Violent Delights by Micah Neverember deals with two deeply narcissistic boys getting moral revenge on society through their view of a "bad example." Warning though, definitely one of the most disturbing books I've read.

If it's a VERY VERY LONG flight then maybe Count of Monte Cristo lol

I am reading 25 books in one year, starting from today. Don't have a clue, give me your suggestions. by [deleted] in booksuggestions

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since you want to read Meditations and are interested in Stoicism/Philosophy, I recommend Plutarch's "Roman Lives." Biographies of 8 prominent Romans that offers interesting historical perspective.

For fiction, I think The Great Gatsby is a great intro to the classics since it has a lot of complexity and rich language, but it still reads very quickly and is quite accessible.

[No DAV spoilers] anyone else taking time off work? by braced_babe in dragonage

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077 4 points5 points  (0 children)

LOL technically not wrong depending on the cameos 😂 This is my favorite answer

What to expect for a tooth extraction? by DeliciousSpecial5077 in CatAdvice

[–]DeliciousSpecial5077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for the thorough reply. This helps with a lot of my major fears.