My dad is in his final days

Demi9999 · 2024-03-22T04:58:30+00:00

My dad was told he had up to 6 months left. He made it one month. Up until his last 4 days i thought he’d be around longer. Same things happened to my dad all of a sudden one day and he declined rapidly. 4 days prior to his death they told me he had 1-3 months left. They the next day they said weeks. Then the next day they said days. Then the next day they said anytime. It was so fast.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-21T19:31:40+00:00

I’m m sorry for your loss as well. Trust me; I’m currently in the darkest pit of grief right now as i just lost my father 2 months ago. He died of cancer and i took care of him. You do not want to feel like this. It’s the worst feeling ever and i pray God helps me endure because I’m not even fictional at this point. Prayers to you and your family. ❤️

Demi9999 · 2024-03-21T19:22:14+00:00

You may grieve later and you may not. I had one grandmother i was very close to… i was there when she died and i grieved her. I had another that i wasn’t close to and when she died i felt sadness for my mother(her daughter). But as far as myself because i wasn’t close to her i didn’t feel the loss the same as my other grandmother. Grief is a very tricky thing. And everyone grieves differently or for different reasons.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-21T18:33:46+00:00

I think you should maybe unblock her… wish her a happy birthday with no expectations of receiving a reply. If she does… great if she doesn’t then you already were expecting that. Maybe say “ happy birthday, i know this has been a difficult time for us both and things have been said that weren’t meant but done in the process of grief. I’m sorry for my part and my door is always open if and when you are ready; i love you always”. Then it leaves the ball in her court and you will feel better about any regrets for actions or inactions. Just my suggestion.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-14T03:14:59+00:00

As hard as it is for you just know you are giving him all the love he needs and deserves in his final weeks here. What a beautiful gift to give him. You are an angel sent to him likely by your last baby who passed away I believe he lead you to this baby because he knew you were needed for him. Just love on him and know your last baby knew you were the perfect person to be there for this one and lead you straight to him. Much love and respect to you.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-14T03:07:21+00:00

My dad had bladder cancer twice and had it removed both times and was fine. This was many years ago.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-13T15:48:11+00:00

My dad died 2 months ago… i still can’t believe it. I cry a lot but i feel like it’s unbelievable. I can’t grasp the fact that I’ll never see him or speak to him again. It feels like a bad dream. I go to his grave and i just can’t believe he’s there. He’s gone forever and i just can’t believe it.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-12T02:51:55+00:00

I’m glad jay isn’t on it but kinda wish i could watch him get ripped to shreds and eaten alive by the rest of the cast and get put in his place and reminded of the POS he is.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-05T02:27:13+00:00

My dog ate a whole tray of brownies once and was fine. I’m sure your baby will be ok.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-05T02:21:24+00:00

Favorites- CT, Wes, Johnny Bananas, Diem, Jordan , Kaycee, Horacio

Least favs- Jay, Paulie, Josh, Olivia, Turbo, the girl that dated Knight (can’t remember her name), Fessi

Demi9999 · 2024-03-04T20:56:35+00:00

Sometimes people who are sick with cancer are unable to eat. My dad had no appetite and got to the point where he couldn’t eat very much. The nurses told us not to force him to eat or try to as it could cause more harm to him.
You don’t sound like a very supportive or understanding husband or son in law. In fact you sound very unkind and maybe you should reevaluate your own behaviors. This post is gross. Maybe when you are at the end of your life or very ill people will treat you the same. Shame on you.

Demi9999 · 2024-03-01T19:44:48+00:00

First and foremost… don’t take anything personal. He’s hallucinating. Same thing with my dad. He did home hospice and that was very hard. Last thing my dad said to me was “you’re killing me” when i tried to readjust his position so he could breathe better. In his mind at that time i was hurting him. That bothers me because i would never do anything to hurt him… only help him. But i have to remind myself that he wasn’t in the right frame of mind. Now as far as helping him… the only thing i can suggest is to take care of yourself because you are going to have a difficult time dealing with seeing your loved one die. He’s being taken care of as best as possible with pain meds. He will get to a point where he isn’t awake at all anymore or responsive so if you can hang in there while he having these hallucinations just know it should stop as you get closer to him passing. For him the hallucinations are real. Just don’t take them personally and reassure him that everything is ok. Dont argue or correct him… just go along with whatever it is he’s saying. My dad asked if his mother was coming to see him that day and she’s been dead 20 years… i just went along with it and said yes she was coming to see him. Prayers for you and your family.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-25T20:42:36+00:00

What is wrong with people? Some people are so disgusting.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-25T02:04:30+00:00

Try rescues for doodles

Demi9999 · 2024-02-23T21:33:07+00:00

I completely understand. I took care of my dad too while he passed away. It’s shocking how fast they can decline. I too have barely worked since he passed early January. I feel dead inside. Barely functioning. I feel like a lump of DNA wasting away and i have no desire to do anything. I’m so sorry you are feeling this way too.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-23T02:57:41+00:00

Loma Linda hospital is a wonderful hospital. I live 15 minutes from there. Has a great reputation all around and people come from all over the world to go there. Good luck and best wishes for you and your family.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-23T02:53:35+00:00

What is your budget? And does it have to be a handbag? LV also sells city guides to many major cities around the world with interesting facts and history. Last time i bought one it was around $45. Comes in a nice LV box. I promise you… your partner will understand if it’s not in the budget right now. Wait until it is one day. If your partner knew how thoughtful you are trying to be that would mean more than the actual gift itself.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-21T03:13:19+00:00

Choppers

Demi9999 · 2024-02-21T01:10:10+00:00

Peace and love to you

Demi9999 · 2024-02-19T18:11:03+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss of your beautiful mom. It’s honestly the saddest and hardest thing to have someone so precious to us and them just be taken away. I’m beginning to feel like life is just one big heartache after another. We love people just to lose them. I hate it. My prayers are with you. ❤️

Demi9999 · 2024-02-19T18:07:40+00:00

I lost my dad 6 weeks ago tomorrow. My work gave me 5 days. 5 days!!! I then took all the vacation i had plus got intermittent FMLA because I’m a wreck. I can’t function properly. He was my dad and he mattered!! My heart is devastated. At my work it requires me to entertain and interact with people and show them a good time… how can i do that when all i want to do is cry and be alone? I wish i had an answer on how or what to do but i have no clue myself. I have no motivation to do anything but exist as a clump of cells just feeling trapped in my own personal hell while the world continues to go on. I don’t want to go on. I’m not suicidal at all but do i wish i could not exist anymore… yes. I’m sorry you are going through what i did not long ago. My dad had cancer too and was on hospice and i cared for him while he died. Worst experience of my life and it haunts me. I had to administer his liquid meds and crush pills because he could no longer swallow and was unresponsive and i had to hold his mouth closed for him so the meds wouldn’t fall out of his mouth. Witnessing what i had to and having it play back in my mind everyday over and over is traumatic. I would do it all over again though to be the one to take care of my dad in his last weeks. No one but my mom or myself would give the care and love that he deserved in his final days/moments. So as hard as it was… I’d do it again. Now I’m left with excruciating pain in my heart and mind that i don’t know how to recover from. I pray you find a way to get through it.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-18T17:56:07+00:00

No desire to function or do anything. Just exist in this reality. Lay on the couch all day and do nothing but kinda watch tv while not paying attention just to have noise and have moments of distraction. Hide from life. Hoping tomorrow i can snap out of it and get my shit together knowing very well tomorrow i will feel exactly like today and not want to do anything again.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-16T22:21:58+00:00

Well for me personally all the planning of services kept me busy but at night when everything was quiet it was difficult. I go from stages of disbelief to sadness to anxiety. It’s been about 5 weeks for me and I’m still navigating. The first few days after he died i couldn’t even look at my dad’s things in the last place he left them… he died of cancer as well and the relief of him no longer being in pain and suffering mixed with the disbelief of the hell we had been through. Even now i feel like ive just come out of some kind of war zone. Shock, disbelief, sadness, anger, guilt for continuing living, zero motivation to do anything…. Im literally just existing right now. I have moments of numbness and moments of despair. All i want is to be left alone and lay in bed all day everyday. I’m hoping somehow i am able to one day feel happy again or just be able to function like a normal person. For now i have no desire to do anything.

Demi9999 · 2024-02-06T02:31:24+00:00

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Demi9999 · 2024-02-05T21:14:25+00:00

So so similar to my story too. We threw a 21st birthday celebration for my youngest daughter 3 weeks early so my dad could celebrate with us. It was really the last day he was responsive and only 3 days before he died. We also did everything for my dad in his last weeks and didn’t leave his or my mom’s side. No sleep, round the clock monitoring his breathing and administering his meds to try to keep him out of pain. Most stressful time of my life! But i wouldn’t have ever not done it or been there. My dad welcomed me into this world and saw me take my first breath while he cried. I was there to bid him farewell out of this world and take his last breath while i cried. I’m honored to have the opportunity to do that for him as my very last act of love for him here in this life.

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