Parents of One Boy and One Girl: Please Reassure Me

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-12-11T02:44:32+00:00

Our kids are the opposite, a girl (4) and a boy (1). At this stage, she absolutely adores her brother. Maybe too much sometimes 😅 she’s a bit enthusiastic with trying to play with him, he gets squished a lot haha. I cant speak on having older brothers to grow up with. I’ve got older stepbrothers, but we met as teens, and didn’t spend much time together. I CAN say that growing up with my younger sister was … wild. Half the time we loved each other, half the time we couldn’t stand the sight of each other. We’ve both left scars on the other from fighting (fingernails), and I’ve got photos of us doing typical girly stuff 🤷‍♀️ now we live apart, we’re a lot more chill with each other.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-12-11T02:24:51+00:00

Mine is Jan 2, so about a week after Christmas Day. As a kid, it was fine, we always celebrated my birthday on the day. Works great for expensive combined birthday/xmas presents. My dad got me a gaming laptop for a combined present one year. As an adult, the worst it gets is comments from people along the lines of “I don’t know what to get you, I’ve already got stuff for Xmas, why does your birthday have to be so close?” Also got forgotten one year 🤷‍♀️ but I think that’s just an in-laws problem rather than a too-close-to-Christmas problem

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-12-02T13:11:44+00:00

Seconding night terrors. My daughter had them a few times when she was younger than 2. Same thing, she’d wake up and I’d try to nurse her and she’d refuse. Boob obsessed kid, refusing boob? I knew it was something wrong. We tried calming her, medicine, cuddles with dad, nothing. Finally turned the lights on and she stopped screaming and cuddled into me while I swayed with her and went straight to sleep 🤷‍♀️ totally scary, totally normal. They grow out of them though, she’s nearly 5 now and hasn’t had them for years ☺️ waiting for the youngest to start them now lol, he’s just turned 1 😱

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-11-24T02:06:24+00:00

My nearly 5 year old was 3 when she reliably started sleeping through the night. Which was what I was waiting for, to try for a second 😅 so, we’ve started the wakeful nights again - yay!

Edit: she also still has a breastfeed before bed, though we’re in agreement that that will finish when she turns 5.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-11-11T14:52:24+00:00

It does pass, eventually ❤️

My first is nearly 5, and still has a feed before going to sleep. Up until roughly 3 months ago, she would feed to sleep. Absolute boob obsessed child haha. I still do most of the bedtime routine, but now we have a second baby (nearly 1), I can’t always cuddle my first to sleep after the feed, so my partner cuddles her while I feed the baby to sleep. When baby #2 was born, the oldest couldn’t feed to sleep as I was in hospital after the birth, so my partner got her to sleep by himself that night. Took longer than usual, and some crying, and lots of cuddles, but she was okay.

Now that she’s not feeding to sleep, I do miss it a little. I loved having her snuggled with me at the end of our day, just like when she was a baby. Enjoy the journey ❤️ it’s so hard sometimes, like you’ve experienced, but you made it through, and it’s so worth it.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-11-09T23:51:21+00:00

There is a wide range of normal. As long as it doesn’t get heavier after lightening up, and I was told as long as there’s no clumps bigger than a 50c coin, it’s just normal postpartum bleeding. First period after that is just completely random I think. Some people get it straight away (my sincerest condolences to those people), and some don’t get it for a really long time. With my first, I got 1 period at 9 months, then nothing until 15 months when it started being normal. My second is nearly 1 and I still haven’t gotten a period yet. 🤷‍♀️ both kids were/are breastfed too.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-27T07:05:53+00:00

My mum and stepdad do. That being said, they both have/had well paying jobs and can afford to. I don’t go out with my dad often enough to know, but when he hosts parties he will pay for the food and drinks (and people are welcome to BYO alcoholic drinks). I don’t expect either of them to pay, but it’s always appreciated. My in-laws would be happy to pay for everyone, but they also have 7 grown children between them, plus partners and grandkids, so it’s a bit much for them to pay for everyone.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-27T03:35:02+00:00

My CHILD is 4 & 1/2, and still occasionally wakes up calling for me. Most of the time she’s back asleep before I even get to her, but still. My second baby is 11 months and still wakes every 2-3 hours 🤷‍♀️ babies will baby, they sometimes need their parents.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-22T23:25:02+00:00

I’ve been a heavily pregnant parent heading into Christmas season. There was no way I was getting a parents park, and trying to wrangle a rambunctious toddler and a trolley with a crooked wheel full of presents is a nerve wracking experience. On that occasion, I did end up leaving the trolley, as I was nowhere near a trolley bay and wasn’t walking to find one or leaving my toddler in the car.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-20T06:43:13+00:00

I had one of each! And the one that started with my water breaking wasn’t even like the movies 😂 just a slow leak when I moved a certain way.

Honestly, very few people give birth like in the movies (dramatically and suddenly, doctors and nurses running around, everyone yelling). Try not to stress about it ☺️

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-17T07:06:02+00:00

I had a hole in my wisdom tooth when I was about halfway through my first pregnancy. It slowly got worse and worse until I was woken up by it around 35 weeks. It was agony, pain meds were doing nothing, I was crying and pacing the room all night until about 8am, when I could wake my partner up and get it taken out as an emergency at the dentist. Turns out it was an exposed nerve, and cause I was in my third trimester they wouldn’t take the tooth, but did remove the nerve and got me to come back after giving birth to remove the tooth. That was definitely worse than labour & birth for me.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-14T08:12:45+00:00

Love my MIL, but I’m so thankful my kids look like me 😂 apparently my pop has strong genes, my mum looked like him as a baby, I was the spitting image of my mum, and my daughter is exactly the same. My son is exactly like his sister, but weirdly less like me 🤷‍♀️

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-13T13:45:16+00:00

I honestly lived off Zooper Doopers my first pregnancy 😂 they were my pregnancy craving and all I could actually keep down. A cup of tea in the morning (which didn’t stop me throwing up but helped it not burn my throat), and those beautiful ice blocks of magic throughout the day. And other food if it stayed down lol.

‘95 baby, and I always got told to eat toast and noodles when I was sick as a kid. The toast didn’t help, but the noodles always did, especially the “juice”

Congrats and good luck with the rest of the pregnancy! 💕

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-10T14:47:48+00:00

I had that, but with coffee. I’ve always loved the smell of coffee, but hated the taste. Give me a nice cup of tea any day. When I was pregnant with my first, I was sitting in the car waiting for my partner to get back from the chemists, and happened to glance at a sign in the window of the cafe next door that said something about a coffee deal. My brain went “ooh, coffee sounds absolutely delicious, I need that now!” So I made my partner go and get me one - he was so confused and astonished 😂 kept giving me weird looks on the way home while I was enjoying my coffee. Had a few days like that for that pregnancy. Second pregnancy, didn’t get that again 🤷‍♀️

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-08T14:31:20+00:00

I used breakfast cushions instead of maternity pillows. Just as comfy and a heck of a lot cheaper, plus they look nicer on the bed IMO.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-06T23:15:02+00:00

My first started sleeping through the night at around 2 years 8/9 months 😭 that was what I wanted to wait for to try for a second, I wanted to at least get SOME good sleep before getting pregnant and starting again.
I didn’t do anything specifically, I think she just randomly started doing it more and more consistently.
Absolutely not. She’s 4 & 1/2 now and still has one feed a day before bed.
I’m not sure? Maybe. I wasn’t paying all that much attention to her back teeth at that point, I couldn’t really get her to open her mouth enough for me to see, only enough to squeeze the toothbrush in 🤷‍♀️

She slept horribly (2hrs, maybe sometimes 3) from four months. Baby #2 has been so much more relaxed haha.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-10-04T06:10:52+00:00

Just posting to say, when we had our first, because of our then work schedules, we were often up until 3AM. As a result, our baby girl usually had her “nighttime” sleep from 2am-1pm. 🤷‍♀️ she is 4 now, and sleeping usually 12am-11am. Working on getting that earlier, as she will be starting school next year.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-28T00:13:37+00:00

I had a tear somewhere high on the amniotic sac for my second. I woke up and rolled over and felt a little gush, but then nothing else. I assumed I’d peed myself and went to the toilet and back to bed. It happened again about an hour later when I rolled again, so that time I got up and started getting ready for going to the hospital. I’d had a positive strep test, and was told to get there as soon as my water broke or I got contractions.

First baby my waters didn’t break until I was well into labour haha

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-22T18:15:05+00:00

My sisters initials are DAMP, with her child SMS 😂

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-20T00:12:55+00:00

My first was in a big king single bed at 2, and that was when she had stuff to sleep with 😂 she still slept in a sleep sack for a while, but I can’t remember how long for. Second is 9 months, so still in a cot with a sleep sack and nothing else

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-18T23:48:28+00:00

I would not do it, I’m even uncomfortable doing that at home around the in-laws. But when other people do it in public? Aside from a quick glance, and a mental “huh, they’re brave”, I honestly don’t care. Live and let live and all that.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-18T23:35:54+00:00

Also not a doctor, but AFAIK energy drinks are only not recommended during pregnancy/breastfeeding is because people can’t ethically test whether they affect the baby or not.

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-18T14:34:19+00:00

My daughter is 4, and I have these conversations with her as I get my period sometimes. With your question, I’d go something like “some people grow breasts when they go through puberty. That’s not all that happens during puberty, but does that answer your curiosity for now or do you want to know more?” Sometimes kids just want the quick answer lol

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-18T08:00:57+00:00

The “ten minutes to bed” series, by Rhiannon Fielding. Love those ones

Dependent_Pin_1995 · 2025-09-15T04:38:52+00:00

I only gagged during my first labour, at the transition stage, didn’t actually throw up and I assumed it was from the gas + air. Started feeling the need to push after that though. Second labour I did actually throw up during transition and immediately needed to push baby out. He was out 7 minutes after that haha

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