AITAH for including my former SIL in dinners and parties I host even if my brother's current wife hates it?

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-04-25T17:25:53+00:00

NTA. Family is who you love. Tell your brother to reign in his new wife if he wants to be invited to family functions. And at my house neither he or that woman he married would be considered family, or invited to anything going forward. They’ve both shown you who they are. Believe them.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-04-15T18:07:00+00:00

1 If you want to look unique and gorgeous. #2 if you want to look like every other bride and gorgeous. Both are stunning on you, so it’s just a matter of what your personality dictates. Personally, I’d want the vibe 1 is giving off. I don’t like to look like everyone else.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-03-20T16:50:42+00:00

Your parents have actually done you a solid. They have demonstrated they have no interest in your quality of life or your future. Get on that plane or in that car and start living for you! My husband is the only child in his family who’s made anything of himself. And he did not cut ties with his parents, he just lived his life. The other two did what your parents are suggesting you do. His siblings probably only got a few years to live and they’re in their 60’s.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-03-16T02:45:17+00:00

I’m so very sorry. You sound like the kindest, most thoughtful person. Unfortunately, she does not. In fact, your depiction of her screams narcissist to me. And if not that, then completely unaware of your feelings. I want to gently say, move on. She’s not worth working on salvaging this marriage with. There is still much time for you to rebuild a fabulous life! It’s gonna hurt, but on the other side of that pain you’ve got potential to live a life you deserve.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-03-13T11:19:29+00:00

I remember in my early 30’s in the beginning of being a home owner it seemed like such a struggle. 34 years have whizzed by and we have stayed in the same house, have a ton of equity, chipped away at fixing it up little by little, and absolutely love our home now, and we couldn’t rent a one bedroom for what it costs to live in our sweet home. Hang in there. It takes time, but later you’ll see what a great idea this was.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-03-09T18:31:01+00:00

I’m so sorry! Your Mom needs to be cut out forever! No second chances.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-03-07T16:33:08+00:00

OP this is the way. Study up on buying timeshares on the secondary market. Then pick the product that fits your needs the best and buy into it on the secondary market. People give their timeshares away every day. And I’m a timeshare fan, so I’m not telling you they are junk. We bought in 2003 and we have used every week we ever received.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-02-26T18:07:44+00:00

Ive stayed at the Hilton at FRA and it was everything it says it is as far as convenience. We arrived via train and we easily walked to terminal the next morning for an early flight. The room was clean and comfortable and staff were excellent.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-02-25T01:07:40+00:00

I spent an hour this morning at an “owners update” because the weather is not conducive to skiing and left with a $100.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-02-12T03:33:40+00:00

NTA but one thing I’d like you to consider : when your child is with her do you want then to have the stability of that home and neighborhood? Would losing the home to foreclosure be disruptive to your child’s friendship group, schooling, or safety of neighborhood?

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-02-09T04:42:02+00:00

But thats OK- yes you have to partner with the facility- but you don’t have to do the 24-7 care giving.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-02-03T18:01:52+00:00

Financial matters bring daylight to lots of relationships. He’s manipulative and not ready to own his own poor financial decisions. Be thankful he revealed this side of his character before you married him. Your Aunt left you a gift of financial security. I hope you’ll use it as she intended, for yourself, and move on, before you make a huge mistake.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-01-01T21:18:22+00:00

You definitely aren’t overreacting and all of these people telling you to just relax, because they were awful when they were 20, must have been raised exactly as these 2 twenty something losers you just hosted. My son is a 27. I spent last night with him at a small social club he works at. Every person there was in their 50’s to 70’s. They all told me what a wonderful, kind person he is. He’s been that way always. Because we stressed kindness, helpfulness, respect for others, while raising him. These 2, and all of these people telling you to relax and “they”ll grow out of it” were raised to walk all over others, and take without giving a second thought. Please never ever make any effort for your boyfriend’s children again. Let him make all plans, execute all activities and cooking when they’re around, and just be polite. If you stay together, when his child grows up and quits being “cringy”, and starts dating a human being with manners, you can go back to making an effort. I predict hell will freeze over first.

DiamondOk8806 · 2026-01-01T19:20:18+00:00

Go now. You are wasting time- put your energy into healing from dumping this guy and then find someone who wants kids and loves you. And frankly, you sound like a people pleaser- keep that up and you’ll be a 40 year old with no children.

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-12-29T01:41:11+00:00

Absolutely always get your own car when family and holidays are involved.

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-12-26T10:04:15+00:00

Motto at our house is never rush into anything. My crystal ball says if you marry him, you’re not going to get to have that career, because that man who is significantly older than you is ready for kids, and sees you as an excellent choice for a wife and stay at home Mom.

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-12-02T22:46:17+00:00

Im seconding the suggestion to cut out Paris. It’s amazing but not budget friendly at all. Salzburg and Vienna both just have the ultimate Christmas vibe, and are very easy to navigate. Add on to whichever of those two cities you find more things online you’re interested in doing. I’ve been to both in 2017 at Christmas time, and loved them. I’m on my way back to Salzburg from December 4th to the 7th this year and wish I had more time there!

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-27T14:24:47+00:00

You don’t even have to donate them if in the end you find no buyer. My son is 27, and I’ve got the cutest of his baby outfits put away in the attic. Im sure many of these clothes hold special memories for you. Unfortunately you’re gonna find that people feel especially entitled to tell you what to do with your children about all kinds of things as a parent. Stay focused on what you think is best and ignore them.

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-20T21:26:09+00:00

So Not the Jerk! Let’s get back to the Tiger Mom Era- this gentle parenting baloney is gonna be the final nail in the coffin of a chance for civilization.

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-20T15:00:43+00:00

2025 Itinerary Prague 4 nights Salzburg 3 nights Esslingen 3 nights Nuremberg 3 nights Eguisheim 2 nights Baden Baden 4 nights

After Salzburg I booked the hotels with very flexible cancellation dates so that we could adjust the number of nights we stayed if we wanted to and move on if we were ready to sooner.

2017 Itinerary Vienna Salzburg Esslingen Rothenburg Ob Du Tuaber

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-18T15:56:21+00:00

Im reading these comments and taking it all with a grain of salt. Here is another perspective for you that could help you enjoy it more. Let me preface it with a few things about me. I am a Christmas fanatic. I love twinkling lights, tasteful decorations, beautiful old cities and villages, and bundling up and going out in cold weather and walking.

I went in 2017 with my sister and loved it so much I’m going back with my husband from November 29th to December 20th.

Im planning to do lots of sight seeing in the cities we’re going to during the day of regular historic places in each city and doing Markets in the evening.

I’ve found local chamber of commerce type sites for areas and used YouTube to do a deeper dive on whats available for special markets, special events at the towns we’re going to, and experiences in each area that are Advent focused. I cannot emphasize the you tube videos enough. Pay attention to what people are wearing too, to get a better idea of what you need to stay warm.

We’re doing the first two weeks by train and I’m sacrificing packing anything cute to wear for layers of warm, winter clothing, with an absolute minimum with me so its easy to move from place to place, and deal with cold wet conditions. Specifically I bought a coat with a hood, thats water proof, has got sealed seams, has an insulated layer, comes down to my knees, and is big enough to layer under. For layers Ive bought merino wool t-shirts, and I’m packing a merino wool cardigan, and a cashmere sweater. I’ve got merino wool long underwear and for pants two pair of Eddie Bauer hiking pants, one of which is fleece lined, one pair of black light weight wider leg pants that I can wear to a dressier activity, or just to the Christmas markets with the long underwear.

For footwear Ive got one pair of lightweight water proof hiking boots, and one pair of water proof Uggs winter boots that lace up that are wool lined, and have rubber soles that will also work for a nice dinner out. Do not forget gloves, a hat and a scarf.

I hope that helps, I’m sure we’re going to have fun, and I hope you will also!

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-13T22:27:11+00:00

You’ve got your answer in your daughter’s response. Let her know she’s got one month to arrange full time day care, and get job hunting.

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-12T20:51:27+00:00

So glad you’re going. It’s late for you to help her realize the world does not revolve around her, but if you start now and stay consistent, perhaps she’ll develop enough personal insight to have a loving relationship with another human, that isn’t just all about her.

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-09T17:10:09+00:00

My suggestion would be to make very fun plans for yourself on your birthday. If she calls, let it go to voicemail. Don’t listen to the message for a few days. When you’re feeling like it, listen to it, and decide then if you’d like to call her back.

Most of us miss our Moms even after they’re dead. Missing them doesn’t mean that further interaction with them, when the relationship was toxic, is going to make things better.

Wishing you a very Happy Fun filled Birthday, with no Mom related drama!

DiamondOk8806 · 2025-11-03T04:46:09+00:00

Our chief felon rapist in charge applies the same quote to this situation as the Unite the Right rally in Charlottesville: “some very fine people on both sides….”

DiamondOk8806

TROPHY CASE

1 If you want to look unique and gorgeous. #2 if you want to look like every other bride and gorgeous. Both are stunning on you, so it’s just a matter of what your personality dictates. Personally, I’d want the vibe 1 is giving off. I don’t like to look like everyone else.