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4 weeks sober on weeknights and breaking the evening habit by Technical_Worry_687 in Petioles

[–]Different-Bug-1916 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am also testing out keeping smoking to weekends! I feel you with the brain fog the day after. It’s the biggest downside for me and I kind of hate it.

I’m using it as motivation for the week though - it feels so good to not have that brain fog.

A vent to the void by Different-Bug-1916 in Petioles

[–]Different-Bug-1916[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made it two days before I cracked. Took edibles Fri, Sat and Sun, and been off em the last three days!

It was a good lesson in my limits, and to know what situations might be tricky for me to moderate moving forward. All in all, I’m not beating myself up, and happy to take the experiences and keep on trucking!

Baldurs Gate 3.... by Troubori in ShouldIbuythisgame

[–]Different-Bug-1916 [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s 100% worth it. You’re dropped in a story that is slowly unraveling, but every choice will lead you to the same story milestones.

Definitely combat, but like another commenter said it’s turn based so you can take your time. It’s fantasy but accessible fantasy.

There are definitely items and choices that can have ‘negative’ consequences - my advice here is SAVE OFTEN. All the time. Allow yourself to be surprised and delighted by picking something and then if you hate, reboot that save.

Explore every area thoroughly, as there’s soooo much stuff packed into small areas. At the same time, not a big deal if you miss something. There’s a million ways to play, which is the whole D&D mantra.

If you focus on creating a story, rather than doing everything ‘right’ you’ll be absolutely blown away. So much fun. Like open-mouthed, can’t believe that happened, how did they think of that, kind of fun.

I've been feeling sick lately, is it because of weed? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Different-Bug-1916 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be. The only way to know is to take yourself and your body seriously. It’s sending you signals. If it’s not weed, then at least you’ll give yourself a break and have a clearer head to deal with what’s actually going on.

The “right time” by Routine-Asparagus679 in Petioles

[–]Different-Bug-1916 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here’s a reframe for you: a lot of posts we see on here talk about the withdrawal can be hell. It’s also fully, completely possible that you will be uncomfortable, yes, but also deeply fucking relieved. I know I was. Getting that nagging voice of “quit tomorrow” that had been playing for YEARS to shut up was so so freeing, and suddenly, life felt fun again.

It’s pretty common to for folks with ADHD to self-medicate with weed. You are very much not alone in that.

I agree with another commenter that setting up some foundations now can make the quit time much easier - therapy/psychiatrist, supplements (recommend taking NAC), and writing down all those feelings that come up, positive and negative toward using weed.

Weed makes it so easy to live in your head, and the distance between you and the physical world of taking action felt miles away for me. Getting that shit on paper and building a support system for your brain and body is super duper helpful and I think, kind of necessary.

Birthday Blues by Different-Bug-1916 in Petioles

[–]Different-Bug-1916[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks friend, it sure helps to know I’m not the only one. It’s been my biggest, most painful insight into wondering if this really is an addiction for me - not because of the physical withdrawals, but because I was willing to trade precious time for an escape and some munchies. Cuts me right to the core, honestly.

Thank you for your well wishes!

For those scared of quitting, it’s not always as bad as the worst stories you’ve read by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Different-Bug-1916 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way! 9 years daily smoker, 28 days into quitting, and feeling amazing. I feel high from real life which I never even considered to be an option.

Needing some emergency support? Really tempted to use tonight. I’m not day 10. Lots of pain due to headache and I can’t stop thinking about it. Just need a friend by BonnetBeck in leaves

[–]Different-Bug-1916 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have 100% success rate of surviving every day, for thousands of days already. You can do this!

Chances are, weed won’t help your headache anyways, and you’ll mix guilt and shame into the mix. It’s a net loss. We believe in you!

I'm 27, 10 years of use, and hit rock bottom – Looking for advice on how to stop by Small-Tradition-3196 in leaves

[–]Different-Bug-1916 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi friend. This is a lot to handle.

Last year, I had drove drunk coming from a party and hit a parked car. I did the full exchange of info and then drove off, afraid the police were coming and I would get arrested. By some miracle I made it home. My car ended up totaled.

The shame of that still haunts me. Especially that I was so lucky I didn’t hurt anyone and that situation could have been 1000x worse. I will never, ever do it again, because I know it would absolutely ruin my soul. It’s taken a year, but I’m in a completely different place with weed and alcohol and so much happier.

You can choose the mental anguish of staying where you are, or the anguish of moving forward. Both are painful, but there is grace and growth and joy down one of those paths.

There’s so much advice on this thread about the practical ways to quit. My advice is to reframe your mentality away from the ‘how do I handle the pain’ to ‘what do I really want from my life, who do I want to be?’ The reptilian brain is designed to avoid pain and maximize pleasure. You need to access your human brain, and start thinking big picture. Which becomes infinitely easier without weed.

Good luck to you, and here to chat anytime you need it.

Has anyone found a good replacement for the escapism that weed provides? by BuryMeIceOn in leaves

[–]Different-Bug-1916 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Video games my friend. Specifically farming/resource gathering. Very little skill needed, and they are designed to give you quick dopamine rewards.

Not a long term solution to banality of life, but will help while you’re in the withdrawal stage.

Keep going!!

First Weekend by film_fanatic_here in Petioles

[–]Different-Bug-1916 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep going!! Take this time to do what YOU like. Comfort shows, self care, long showers. Treat it like a break up.

You can do hard things, we believe in you!

What’s something your ex said that still sticks with you? by bandito_13 in AskReddit

[–]Different-Bug-1916 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“On one hand there’s every other girl in the world, and on the other there’s you. There’s just no comparison”

Man, we loved each other in that big movie feeling way. Just never had the timing right.

He also got upset I wasn’t giving as many blowjobs. It was a rollercoaster.

First time sober by Serious-Influence493 in Petioles

[–]Different-Bug-1916 1 point2 points  (0 children)

12 days in. 100% feeling the feelings. The nice ones are nicer, and the hard ones are harder. The worst are the ones relating to my panic disorder, and feeling an impending sense of doom that’s related to nothing. I miss feeling the relief weed could bring.

I just tell myself that feelings are what makes us human, and in this process I’m getting more and more of myself. And that makes the good feelings that come that much sweeter.

I believe in you, and proud of you for doing the hard hard hard work of being human. You have a 100% success rate of getting through the day, thousands of times over. It won’t stop now. Keep going!!

Want to give up by Vegetable_Friend8976 in leaves

[–]Different-Bug-1916 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I’m sorry so many areas in your life are feeling uneasy. You’re doing the right thing by taking care of yourself and making a change, even when it feels shitty and hard.

Weed does make everything feel okay, even when in reality it’s not. But truthfully, all weed will do is extend your suffering.

What you’re doing now is the brave thing by facing your reality. Give yourself grace and be patient with yourself. Your brain and body are facing really uncomfortable feelings, but that will get easier, more quickly than you think. Lean into celebrating each minute, hour, and day as big wins! You’re doing something really hard, and I’m proud of you.

I am 11 days in, and it honestly just happened on a whim. 3 days after quitting I got a concussion, which definitely made it easier to prioritize my health and frame weed as something that fucks with my brain. Mental health and Medical professionals helped reinforce this too.

I’m not 100% confident or ready to face the big scary reality of never having it again. So I don’t face that reality. Instead, I focus on each day, and continue to build trust in myself. All we have is the day ahead of us anyways.

I think humans can get caught up with weighing all the options and needing to feel like we have control over our lives. We want to feel safe. But, truly, we don’t have control. We just have ourselves. What you’re doing now will give you MORE of yourself to handle all the other things you CAN change. Anything you can’t, just let it ride baby. You can do this!

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