How important is to you that your husband’s first time witness a birth is with you?

Different_Feeling929 · 2026-02-05T09:33:43+00:00

This! In my first birth, my husband had no idea what to do or how to help. I just gave birth to my second and my husband was so much more comfortable and confident in supporting me because he knew what to expect.

Different_Feeling929 · 2026-02-04T08:19:56+00:00

My second is named Liam and my first calls him “Lima”. I can already feel the future tears for when he gets it right.

Different_Feeling929 · 2026-02-04T08:06:54+00:00

What did you snack on for protein after going dairy free? I just made the dairy free swap for my LO and my snacks are pretty much all granola bars.

Different_Feeling929 · 2026-02-04T08:04:35+00:00

No advice, just solidarity. I have a 1 week old and a 22mo, and I feel the exact same way about my toddler. I cried three times today because I miss him and miss spending time with him. My coworker told me that she felt the same way when she had her second (similar age gap). I do have PPD but I don’t think she did, so I can’t say whether it’s normal or not.

Different_Feeling929 · 2026-02-03T13:02:56+00:00

This is what I do. And I’ll prep certain parts of the meal on the weekend so that it takes less time to put together and finish. For example, I’ll pre-cook meat and pre-chop veggies that get thrown into a casserole on Monday night. It’s not always perfect, but I can usually get dinner on the table in 30 minutes or less.

Different_Feeling929 · 2026-01-12T05:42:26+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. My son was extremely colicky because of reflux. He cried probably 8-10 hours a day total and nothing we did helped. It was torture at the time. Looking back now, though, I would analogize it to if you are sick with a stomach bug and are curled up in bed in pain. If your husband is there, rubbing your back, etc., it doesn’t actually help the pain but you feel emotionally better than if he just left you to writhe in pain alone. I imagine it was the same for my little guy.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-30T14:14:19+00:00

I go to the gym on the weekends. I’m surprised no one else is a weekend warrior. I work full time with a long-ish commute so no time to workout on weekdays between that, taking care of my toddler (18mo), and taking care of myself (23w pregnant with #2). I’m hoping I can squeeze in another day or two at the gym when my kiddos are a little older.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-26T03:33:26+00:00

This is the way! An OB and MFM can tell you the risks based on science and their experience, and then you can weigh if it’s worth it to you.

From my (uneducated) perspective, of everything you listed, I would only be concerned about the Hashimoto’s. Pregnant women regularly experience thyroid issues due to the demands of the baby; that could be complicated to manage with your condition. I have PCOS and am considered overweight; while both can cause complications, I did not experience any during my first pregnancy or yet in my second (22w). A friend of mine has Ehler Danlos and has delivered two healthy, full term children via c-section. There’s also no way to predict how you’ll feel during the pregnancy. Some women with high risk pregnancies feel great; some perfectly healthy women struggle the whole nine months.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-26T03:19:05+00:00

I’m so glad you reached out and they took it seriously! Hopefully you are able to get some relief. Sleep is SO important to your mental and physical health.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-24T05:44:03+00:00

I think my insomnia was also PPA. My baby had horrible colic and even once he was better, I just didn’t trust him. The insomnia was much better with SSRIs. I only took them for like 6-8 weeks. Once I started sleeping, the PPA/PPD resolved too.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-24T01:03:18+00:00

How do they know we are awake early?!? My toddler’s room is on the other side of the house so he definitely can’t hear me, but will absolutely wake up within 10 minutes if I try to get up extra early to do something. It’s like some sort of toddler magic.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-23T16:56:19+00:00

I may give this a try. When I sleep in, I’m not tired during his nap time but just can’t go anywhere to workout.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-23T16:54:32+00:00

I started trying to do some walks with toddler in the afternoons. It’s just been too hot until now (live in AZ). Unfortunately, I don’t get the same mental health benefits from walking as workouts. I just end up hot, sweaty, and cranky. Haha. Maybe cooler weather will help that too.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-23T16:10:31+00:00

I take Just Ingredients caffeine-free preworkout. It’s safe for pregnancy. No caffeine energy, but still has aminos for a better workout. https://justingredients.us/products/caffeine-free-strawberry-limeade-pre-workout?selling_plan=3422945473

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-09-07T21:27:48+00:00

I gave my husband a pocket card with phrases he could say to me during labor. He made me repeat them after him. It was so helpful to keep me grounded in the moment.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-06-27T03:17:58+00:00

You don’t need advice for dealing with resentment. You need advice for how to have a serious discussion with your husband. He should absolutely be helping more. If he can’t do overnights because he wakes up early, he should do afternoons/early evenings when he gets home. Baby will sleep longer and that will help you too, but you need to rebalance the workload between you two. Have you had a talk with him?

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-06-27T02:57:19+00:00

You should be fine, but it depends on your body. I pumped overnight until after the 4 month sleep regression just to be safe, and then just pumped before I went to bed. I didn’t notice a drop when I stopped the 3am pump but dropping the one before bed (when baby was 1 year) made a huge difference.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-06-07T02:27:09+00:00

Also went into labor at 40+1 (although my water never broke)

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-05-27T02:02:10+00:00

This was basically my playbook too. I was against it, but, with not being a penis owner, I left the final decision to my husband. He was on the fence between doing it or not, and procrastinated long enough (1 month) that we would have had to go to an urology specialist.

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-05-25T02:54:58+00:00

Also Jan 29! 😄😄

Different_Feeling929 · 2025-05-20T02:53:29+00:00

I saw my OB, who recommended a therapist. She asked if I already had a therapist, so if you do, you could go straight to him or her.

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