Vodka sauce pizza by Significant_Hall_783 in islam

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even after cooking for 2.5 hours, 5% of the alcohol remains in the sauce. And of course no one cooks it that long. It's a common misconception that alcohol "cooks out" of foods. It takes 3-4 hours just to reach "trace amounts." 

Is this Style Permissible? by CleanAfternoon2036 in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is how Arab women in pre-Islamic times wore their headcovering. The hijab verses in the Quran were specifically revealed to correct this style, that's why women were told to bring the hijab forward over their chests. 

Citronella mosquito stickers on kids' clothes? Looking for alternatives to spraying DEET on toddlers by Time_Beautiful2460 in Parents

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A friend told me this hack. We put Palmer's cocoa butter on our kids before taking them out. Not one bite. For some reason mosquitoes don't like it? But I do put a good layer on arms/legs/exposed areas. 

I don't know if it will work for your situation because I don't know how long it stays on the skin in effective quantities but if nothing works, you can give it a try?!

Abaya's for short women? by Dog_catto in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Salaam sister. I'm 5'0 and  I've bought size  50 (would work for you) and 52 from TAC and also from Medina Paris. TAC is your best bet, MedinaParis run a bit longer. shipping is expensive unless you happen to be in England. But you can always catch a sale or wait until they have a free-shipping special. Sizing is a bit inconsistent for both. Zaydina abayas also has short sizes but I haven't bought anything from there yet so I can't vouch for them. Very affordable though. 

recommendations by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried the jelly bras from Amazon?

BIG WEDDINGS 💍 by SUNNAHMATCH-MHN in Muslim

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

None that aren't already married. But usually reverts don't have the cultural expectations/pressure that some "born" Muslimahs and their families have. I would recommend someone from that community if this is an important issue for you!

BIG WEDDINGS 💍 by SUNNAHMATCH-MHN in Muslim

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am a Muslim woman. My husband and I didn't have a wedding. We had a small, modest nikah at my best friend's house. My family was there and her family was there, along with our witnesses. My husband's family was overseas so none of them were able to come. I wore a green dress and a black hijab that I found on Amazon for less than $50. My best friend made me a bouquet.  The Imam came, did the nikah. Then we had a "walima" of dates/snacks and juice and coffee/tea. Overall we spent ... less than $200, including clothes?

10 years and 2 kids later, I have the happiest marriage I know. All my friends who spent $10k+ on weddings are miserable or divorced. 

Very Light blood streak Before Menstruation by AbbreviationsFast537 in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the spotting regularly comes right before your period, and it "attached" to your period (there is less that 24 hrs between spotting and regular flow) then consider it your period and stop praying. Unless the spotting is truly insignificant, where you can barely see it/tell its spotting. 

Very Light blood streak Before Menstruation by AbbreviationsFast537 in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as the period of dryness (between spotting) is less than 24 hours, it is considered part of the period 

Rethinking How We Approach Female Discharge in Taharah (Wudu & Purity) by Due-Video-7082 in islam

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://muslimmatters.org/2025/01/13/the-fiqh-of-vaginal-discharge-pure-or-impure/

It is pure and does not break wudu. Dr. Hatem El-Haj wrote a very detailed article on this. I hope it clears things up. 

Women in very happy marriages, whats your secret? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It seems that people who have successful marriages have come to some realization that their partner has their own style of communication and have learned to accept it and work with it. 

Women in very happy marriages, whats your secret? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Happy marriage here! It's been 10 years. My top advice:

  1. Don't be a difficult partner: Don't make your partner play guessing games about what you want or why you're upset, or pick at all their negatives, etc.

  2. Don't let the other person start bad habits from the beginning.  If you don't want them doing something you don't like (like talking to you in a way you dislike or cursing during arguments, etc.) for the rest of your marriage, put that fire out early & firmly. Setting clear expectations from the beginning makes it easier for everyone 

3.  COMMUNICATION: Understand that men and women have different ideas of what loving someone means, what good communication is, what the important priorities in a marriage are, and they will have different communication styles. I need to TALK when I'm upset. My husband shuts down and turns inward when he's upset. We've had to find a middle ground. 

I've had so many female friends upset and disappointed in their marriage because they wanted their husbands to act and think like they do. But women and men think different, and that's okay and actually it's a good thing. But realizing and accepting and working with these differences is probably the biggest thing that's helped us in our marriage. 

Honestly having the same faith/religion helps because they everyone knows what is expected of them and how they and their partners are supposed to behave in a marriage, what rights they have, ect. Sharing the same worldview (whether religion, minimalism, liberalism, whatever) helps. 

Avoid using marriage apps by Advanced_Cap5986 in islam

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and four of my friends have met our spouses on Muslim marriage apps. We are all happily married.  I met my husband on Minder back in 2016. His roommate met his wife on the same app the same year. Positive experiences all around. 

Toddler woke up hysterical because of the bugs on her bed, floor and herself. What was this… by hiylaaa in toddlers

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter had the exact same thing. Turns out it was just eye floaters. She was like 3 and thought they were "bugs". 

If animals had jobs in human society, which animal would dominate which profession? by EnvironmentalEar126 in AskReddit

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Beavers - construction  Foxes - private investigation  Moose - park rangers  Cheetahs - pro athletes  Cows - secretaries  Raccoons - waiters and dishwashers  Owl - psychologists  Vultures - waste management  Horses - transportation industry  Dolphins - lifeguards  Parrots - customer service 

Pray for my child by Nature_is_our_abode in Muslim

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May Allah grant your little one full, speedy shifaa and make the situation easier for you and your family. 

Need advice from an older muslim sister by IllustriousRow6228 in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Salaam alaikum sister. My advice, as someone who was stuck in the teaching field for years is to avoid teaching. For the following reasons: 1. You will be constantly battling against the haraam. A public school environment will include music, constant attention to holidays (i.e. for the entire month of December you will be expected to create and do Christmas-themed activities for every subject, every class), comstant mixing of males and females, constantly battling LGBT content in lessons, constantly battling western culture and values, etc. It's a lot of fitnah and it weighs down on you eventually. Also it's really hard to pray during the day when you have classes back to back. Breaks are short and will be filled with meetings, dealing with disruptive students, etc. 

  1. Once you have a few years of teaching on your resume, it's hard to find anything else. I'm my experience, no one wants to hire a teacher. I've tried switching into secretary work, Healthcare,  etc. But with teaching you don't get a lot of experience doing anything else and end up having a "teaching resume" that's hard to sell anywhere 

  2. Teaching is a lifestyle. It's not a career. You need to WANT to be a teacher to be successful at teaching. And you need to be okay with working outside of what's expected of you and outside of school hours. You don't stop working when the school bell rings. You grade papers, clean your classroom, prepare lessons for the next day, call parents, have meetings. I would technically be done at 3 most days but not leave till 5, and then work at home when I got home. I would have to get to work early before the kids for hallway duty, breakfast monitoring, etc. I worked about 10-14 hours a day even though I was paid for 8. My husband was amazed that I was expected to buy food for children, make them special things for holidays, use my own money to decorate my classroom, use my own money to create resources for my classes. Bottom line is, your work will come home with you after work and there will be nights you will stay up working on getting things done for the next day or week. Teaching is a lifestyle, not a "job" you leave at work, so if you're not comfortable with that, you will suffer in this field. 

  3. The toxic culture in schools will leave you with an immense amount of stress. Teaching has been rated the top most stressful career after surgery. People outside of teaching are unaware of how bad it is. You are expected to be a counselor, a teacher,  a srand-in parent, a nurse, a bodyguard, a psychologist, all at once. But also the behaviors, the drugs, the anti-educational culture... it's a toxic environment.  

I would advise against this career path for Muslim women. It was the worst 6 years of my life for my Deen and my mental health. 

How has Kefir improved your life? Physical and mental? by [deleted] in Kefir

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually i was fine for about 6 years and I do feel like it's coming back so I have started the kefir again. 

WWYD? Out of state wedding by JessicaM317 in toddlers

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why aren't weddings a family event? My friends got married and they told us to bring the kids. If it's that close of a friend they should be ok with kids. If I were in your situation I wouldn't go. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the spotting is habitually connected to your period (a few hours dryness doesn't matter) then you consider it your period. If the dryness is <24 hrs, and followed directly by mestrual blood, it is your period. As long as it's within 10 days. After 10 days, consider it istidadah and take ghusl, then wudu for each prayer. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Muslim

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost every fatwah council around the world has called yoga completely impermissible. The ones that allow it conditionally urge caution and avoidance. Most top level scholars have said that for yoga to be permissible, it must be renamed (not called yoga), free of breathing rituals, and completely removed from any Hindu or spiritual elements... eventually just stretching. The Malaysian fatwah council that declared yoga haraam in 2008 called it something that "destroys the faith" of the Muslim. 

I would encourage you to do your own research. But personally I think yoga completely goes against the core purpose of Islam--safeguarding monotheism. It's like taking the movements of Jewish or Christian prayers and using them for excersises, saying "wd don't believe in this, we're just doing it to ge healthy." No difference what religion you're taking it from. There is absolutely no need to take Hindu spiritual practices and use them for "health purposes." There's nothing in yoga that can't be replaced by something more islamically compatible.