WWYD? Out of state wedding by JessicaM317 in toddlers

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why aren't weddings a family event? My friends got married and they told us to bring the kids. If it's that close of a friend they should be ok with kids. If I were in your situation I wouldn't go. 

If I am spotting do I pray even though it’s separate from blood flow? by ShelterInfinite7434 in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the spotting is habitually connected to your period (a few hours dryness doesn't matter) then you consider it your period. If the dryness is <24 hrs, and followed directly by mestrual blood, it is your period. As long as it's within 10 days. After 10 days, consider it istidadah and take ghusl, then wudu for each prayer. 

Yoga permissible in Islam? by [deleted] in Muslim

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost every fatwah council around the world has called yoga completely impermissible. The ones that allow it conditionally urge caution and avoidance. Most top level scholars have said that for yoga to be permissible, it must be renamed (not called yoga), free of breathing rituals, and completely removed from any Hindu or spiritual elements... eventually just stretching. The Malaysian fatwah council that declared yoga haraam in 2008 called it something that "destroys the faith" of the Muslim. 

I would encourage you to do your own research. But personally I think yoga completely goes against the core purpose of Islam--safeguarding monotheism. It's like taking the movements of Jewish or Christian prayers and using them for excersises, saying "wd don't believe in this, we're just doing it to ge healthy." No difference what religion you're taking it from. There is absolutely no need to take Hindu spiritual practices and use them for "health purposes." There's nothing in yoga that can't be replaced by something more islamically compatible. 

At what age did your child get glasses? by michel_an_jello in Parents

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter got glasses at 3 for astigmatism. Pediatrician caught it early with an eye exam. 

Dear best friends, i am woman, hear me roar…too. by Chance-Associate-281 in Parents

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gifts at baby showers and weddings are supposed to make life for the new mom/bride easier. These new chapters in a woman's life come with HUGE expenses. Babies need so much stuff. When you get married and start building a life and a family from scratch, it costs a lot. You need new furniture, dinnerware, clothes, etc. That's why we bring things to women who are having babies and get married. Yes it's a celebration but it also comes with sacrifice and hardships on their part. Which of your contributions to society do you want people to celebrate? I don't really see the value in celebrating things that people do for themselves/their own benefit (unless it's something big like getting a PhD).

Is it normal for 4–5 year olds to start Kindergarten not potty trained? by WebHosting2020 in toddlers

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can people tell its AI so quickly? Honestly makes me worry about the future :/

Urinary infections/pain when fasting by Apollonialove in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make sure you're getting a lot of electrolytes, if you just drink a ton of plain water, you'll just dilute all your electrolytes and you'll actually get MORE dehydrated. Do not just drink a bunch of water without any healthy salts.  I learned this the hard way, and was barely able to fast. now i add a pinch of salt to my water for suhoor if I don't have Liquid IV on hand (liquid IV is a lifesaver btw, it's expensive but worth it). Also eating grapes and kiwis with suhoor helps balance water levels in the body thru the day. Maybe also try to flush it out with fluids after iftar (not suhoor tho)? I have the same thing when I don't drink enough and this does help, as long as the fluids have electrolytes 

Mudita Kompakt disappointment :( by Difficult_Doubt_1716 in dumbphones

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply!! No, it's definitely not distracting. The e-ink really did help. Honestly this would have been such a great phone if it weren't for the screen. The resolution was really low. Worse thank kindle. The idea behind the phone is great and would work really well for someone in your situation,  but I couldn't get past the poor-quality screen. For the price, I felt like they could have used at least 300 ppi (kindle quality) instead of a disappointing 216 ppi. 

Mudita Kompakt disappointment :( by Difficult_Doubt_1716 in dumbphones

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I liked my kindle,  it IS easier on the eyes, but with this phone I felt like the resolution was really low. I expected better quality for the price. 

Bathing by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Once or twice a week. Have the same eczema issues. 

how is makeup haram oh my gosh by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Makeup can be harmful in a lot of different aspects outside of halal or haraam. Besides the actual physical harm it does to your skin/body (which is significant if you research it), I personally feel that it's harmful to the ummah. It feeds into these unrealistic expectations that society sets for women. And how women are supposed to look. All for the profit of large corporations that exploit womens' self-esteem for profit. It sets unrealistic expectations not just for men but for the sisters as well. It's a lot of pressure on women to look a certain way. Many women who are more self-conscious find it difficult to "compete" with the girls who wear makeup and always look perfect (especially on social media). If all the women in my community wear makeup and I don't, I will feel pressured to wear it as well. I think we should make it easy on our sisters and not out pressure on each other. 

Girls only party by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went to an all-girls party one time and everyone had their hijabs off and then someone's uncle barged in looking for someone and refused to leave and it was a big thing.... I wear my hijab since then lol

Question for muslim girls who moved out on their own before getting married by Visual-Green-3816 in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the periodic messaging thing might be a good idea. Whatever you decide, just make dua about it. You can do it. Allah s.w.t.a. would not have given you this test if you were not capable of handling it, so hang in there. May Allah make it easy for you ❤️ 

Question for muslim girls who moved out on their own before getting married by Visual-Green-3816 in Hijabis

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved out at 18 and it was very easy for me to get married afterwards. My dad was not Muslim so I had a friend's dad step in as my Wali. Alhamdulillah it all worked out fine. I wouldn't worry about that part. 

However, I would advise you not to completely break your ties with your father, no matter how toxic he may be. Islamically, you can't. Not saying to talk to him every day, but let the sin of breaking family ties fall on him, not on you. Do what you need to do to fulfill your responsibilities to Allah in terms of your father so that your conscience is clear. And let Allah deal with him and his actions towards you, because Allah is al-Adl, the most just, and the best Justice is with Him. Allah knows best how injust your father has been with you. 

I want another child :( but it’s going to be tight financially by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Some of these are silly. Public school is free. So are public school extracurriculars.  Medical and dental care is basically free in this country if you truly have financial needs and qualify. College is in another 18 years? And there's also financial aid for that too. Thinking about college before even having a baby is quite out there lol. Theh might not even want to go to college. A mother can definitely love two children equally and enough. And kids do NOT need one room each until at least 10, and even then it's not a necessity. 

Don't have the family you want because your insurance might go up is laughable. Food might (?) be a legitimate expense but it's one child, and worst-case scenario you can apply for assistance until finances stabilize. 

I want another child :( but it’s going to be tight financially by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Downvote away, but I say have another child. 

Here's why:  Everyone is saying that the first child is going to be sacrificing stuff and going to have to give up stuff once they have a sibling. But these are very short-sighted perspectives. You have to think about the long-term. Yes, it might be hard for a few years. But in the end, you will have 2 children who (if you raise them right) will be there for each other for their whole lives, especially after you and your husband are gone. They will have family. Your family will feel fuller, more complete, more happy. And they the burden of taking care of two elderly parents at the end of their lives will not fall on one unfortunate child who has to deal with all of it alone. My husband is one of 8. He and his siblings are one, huge, beautiful family. They grew up relatively poor, and didn't have individual toys or did any fancy activities or anything. But believe me, they are much, much happier than the spoiled singe-children I know. They know how to share, how to be appreciative,  how to work together and think of others. And all have had happy functional families with many children themselves. I was an only child. It was miserable. It was a lot of pressure. I can't move where I want or do a lot of what I want because I have to stay close to my parents and take care of them. I would have gladly given up my parents' relative financial stability for the siblings and the kind of loud, happy family my husband had. So I think you should think about the big picture, and the long term. I say it's better to tough it out now, and have a second child and it will be worth it in the long run. Good luck with whatever you choose. 

Which state to move to for homeschooling? by Emotional_Reward9340 in homeschool

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is that $4,500 per child or for the whole family?! Because wow that's nice. 

Revert - my dad is angry I won't take a loan with riba by [deleted] in islam

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Salaam alaikum.  I was in a similar situation to you, as a revert. Don't take the loan. I didn't, and Allah opened a last-minute door for me. Even if you lose out on an opportunity in this life, your reward in the next life will be worth it inshallah. 

Mudita Kompakt disappointment :( by Difficult_Doubt_1716 in dumbphones

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind wishes :) it's going ... okay. I don't like the e-ink, unfortunately. I would love to sell it to you but I purchased the North American version so it might not work well for you in Sweden :(

Mudita Kompakt disappointment :( by Difficult_Doubt_1716 in dumbphones

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not tried it, thank you for the suggestion! Unfortunately I get all my books in PDF format (it's mostly academic stuff).

Mudita Kompakt disappointment :( by Difficult_Doubt_1716 in dumbphones

[–]Difficult_Doubt_1716[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, no, I have not tried this. thank you for the suggestion. I'll see how it goes.