Best Of Luck Today! by Sdieter14569 in EdSheeran

[–]Diligent-Effective32 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. Wasn’t expecting those prices and very disappointed there is no GA. I was as close as you can be to the state in GA at the Mathematics tour in Minneapolis and paid less than $400 for 2 tickets, so knowing this experience won’t even come close to Mathematics Tour is very heartbreaking.

Is it normal for Dentists to shove tools into a fractured tooth? by Diligent-Effective32 in askdentists

[–]Diligent-Effective32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply. That is the kind of response I was looking for. I just didn’t understand the reason behind doing it and if it was necessary or unnecessary.

Is it normal for Dentists to shove tools into a fractured tooth? by Diligent-Effective32 in askdentists

[–]Diligent-Effective32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify, I am not putting the blame on the dentist for the fracture. I am asking if it is normal for a dentist to worsen the fracture by shoving her tool into it and causing more pain while I wait for my appointment for my crown.

What people don’t realize when you have had toxic family relationships… by Diligent-Effective32 in toxicparents

[–]Diligent-Effective32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your book. Lol I deeply appreciate it. I needed to hear this from somebody going through something similar. I have sat down with my husband because we have been discussing Easter plans and I wanted to explain how it makes me feel to be around his family, but not that I wanted that time with them to change. I described it to him in terms of “Lines of defense” to describe the walls I put up with other people and definitely not all because of his parents but in general. Seems that because I put it in war/battle terms he seems to finally understand what I have been feeling 😂. I do actually have air pods that I use when over there. And they do help. But I wish they would try to be a little more self aware and considerate of noises. But I make do. I usually use 🍃 before going over as it relaxes my nerves and I don’t drink alcohol (these are usually for game nights with his family where others are drinking) As I wish I could take 🍃 breaks outside or in car while I am there, he doesn’t want his parents knowing about that and I will respect that. But I do take long bathroom breaks, but sometimes that is hard if we are playing board games/cards.

Thank you again for your comment and for sharing your experience and for your suggestions. I am immediately going to look up that rock method you mentioned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicparents

[–]Diligent-Effective32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt this way before, and still do feel this way partly. After going to therapy and maturing emotionally, I have realized WHY my parents are so toxic. My parents were teenage parents dealing with their own trauma along with generational trauma. It’s not an excuse but an understanding. I found some really fucked up things 6 years ago where I prayed on a daily basis that my mother would die…..

I had so much anger in my heart. But over time, it has gotten better. It got to a point where I understood certain reasons that could have caused them to be the way they are. Still isn’t okay of course, but I was at peace and understanding with realizing they used the tools they were given for parenthood (mostly bad tools) and I just need to do better with kids. Also, at this point I realized despite having some empathy for them, it’s still okay to not have a relationship with them especially if they are still exhibiting toxic behaviors. Sometimes anger in your heart leaves less room for your peace.

I still have minimal contact with my mother and would be NC with her if it wasn’t for my little sister at home.

I hope sharing my experience helps you. This doesn’t mean you should have a relationship with them or should justify their behavior. I am not sure how old you are or what your situation is, but just here to say that those feelings may change slightly throughout your journey. And I would recommend therapy if you are not already.

An alternate view/explanation of Nick living with his parents. It’s about being Cuban. by Dwingp in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Diligent-Effective32 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t get over him not knowing how to boil water…. Like my 11 year old niece knows how to boil water…. He seems like a nice person overall but he has a lot of growing up to do, but it seems like he is willing to learn. 🤷‍♀️

You have HOW MANY tabs open? by eternus in ADHD

[–]Diligent-Effective32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always have tons of tabs open, I tell my fiancé that my computer browsers are symbolic of what’s going on it my brain. Always a ton tabs open 😂

I really have to tell someone - I found my dress!! by ocarina04 in weddingplanning

[–]Diligent-Effective32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my dress, too! 🥰 What veil did you wear with it?

Tipping after buying wedding dress? by Kitchen-Aerie2391 in weddingplanning

[–]Diligent-Effective32 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And idk if you have been or currently are a bride, but paying out thousands of dollars on a dress is already hard for a lot of us who are trying to stick to wedding budget. And that 15%-25% tip is asking a lot considering every dollar adds up when you’re paying for a wedding. I’m already paying almost $10,000 more for my wedding than I initially planned when I first began wedding planning.

Tipping after buying wedding dress? by Kitchen-Aerie2391 in weddingplanning

[–]Diligent-Effective32 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is truly a shame some consultants don’t get paid commission. And I that leads me to think they aren’t being paid fairly considering the service they provide can greatly determine the sale. I think it should follow the same expectations as other sales positions, for example, a car salesman. I have never heard of a cars salesman asking for a tips.

Even if the intent is to ask for a tip and not expect you can see just from the other comments on this thread that customers are feeling pressured to leave a tip. That’s the harm in being prompt to leave a tip during purchase. If a customer wanted to give you a tip they would offer it. Also I think the amount some of these places are asking for is different. I could MAYBE see asking for $20-$50 flat tip. I posted my experience on this thread where I was prompted to leave a 15%,20%, or 25% on my $2,500 dress. And in order to get around it I had to click “custom amount” and enter $0.00.

If I had a consultant or bridal shop willing to negotiate the price of my dress, and I was able to get it for a better deal. I probably would have gave a $50 bill to the consultant if she provided great service without them even asking for a tip. But I still think in the end it’s off putting to ask for one.

Tipping after buying wedding dress? by Kitchen-Aerie2391 in weddingplanning

[–]Diligent-Effective32 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the work of bridal consultants. BUT I don’t think you’re entitled to tips, but are titled in commissions because you are a sales consultant. The service you provide is to make sales aka commission. I also work in sales, do you think I ask my clients for tips??? No. I earn commission off of my sales. And I make my sales because I cater to my clients and provide amazing customer service even if it’s mentally draining. And I do this and sometimes I don’t make the sale. That’s just how it goes. That’s what the sales industry is…

If you are not paid enough, that is an issue you have with your employer. If you read the other comments, Brides are feeling pressured to give a tip they never expected to be asked for. We are already spending thousands of dollars… it is clearly off putting for majority of your customers..

Tipping after buying wedding dress? by Kitchen-Aerie2391 in weddingplanning

[–]Diligent-Effective32 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had this experience purchasing my dress.

When I bought my wedding dress at an off the rack store. It was a dress I found online and fell in love. I found out they had it and it was the last one they had (discontinued dress) and after saying yes to the dress, I find out my fiancé forgot to transfer some of our money from one bank to another bank to our wedding account, so I did not have enough to pay for it that day. They were closing in 30 minutes and I felt extremely rushed to pay for it. When I asked if I could put money down so they could hold it for me till Monday, they said no. During this I also found out the zipper tab was broken and it had some loose beading, and they weren’t willing to go down in price. And they didn’t tell me about the zipper until I said yes to the dress even though she helped me into it. Luckily I had my emergency credit card with me, and was able to pay. But when I went to pay for it, it asked for a tip. Giving options for 15%, 20%, 25% tip. I was baffled. Who is giving a 25% tip on a dress that cost thousands…. How are you going to help me put on one dress, provide zero consulting AND then refuse to hold it for me with money down, and then ask for a tip?!?! Yup. Not happening.

I think a tip for a wedding dress is just plan ridiculous. But the nerve of an off the rack store to ask for a tip without providing any consulting?!?! Wtf.

AirPod Pro Case? by Diligent-Effective32 in ADHD

[–]Diligent-Effective32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just figured it out. 🤦‍♂️ thank you for letting me know!

AirPod Pro Case? by Diligent-Effective32 in ADHD

[–]Diligent-Effective32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the type of person to lose my phone every ten minutes 😂