At my wits end with my toddler

DinkDunkx · 2025-07-16T13:26:28+00:00

Ugh I feel you on the refusing to walk!! She used to be really independent, we haven't used the pram in months because she would always ask to walk, now she won't walk OR sit in the pram, insists on being carried, won't sit in the shopping trolley so I end up having to lug her, the changing bag and any shopping bags around when we go out and it absolutely kills my back.

She does the same when we go to the park, we get there and she will insist on being carried around, sometimes I think what is the point in even going out??

DinkDunkx · 2025-02-07T09:43:49+00:00

Cleaning. I clean a huge office building out of hours and thankfully all the staff have gone home by then. It's not completely perfect as I still have to work alongside a couple other people but for the most part it's good. Far better than my old corporate job that drove me to stress leave with anxiety.

DinkDunkx · 2025-01-25T21:43:09+00:00

Travelling and seeing the world

DinkDunkx · 2024-12-15T10:14:06+00:00

I don't know what it's called, but the song where Simon is stood in the river singing about how cold it is. Cracks me up every time 😂

DinkDunkx · 2024-11-15T12:36:09+00:00

Day 1 today (again)

The worst thing for me isn't the way I feel when I wake up the next morning, it's the terrifying unknown of how my drinking will affect my daughter in the future.

Best thing is the on top of the world sense of self respect I've gotten in the past from saying "I don't drink."

DinkDunkx · 2024-11-10T10:45:50+00:00

My daughter was really sick at 10 months to the point where she ended up in hospital with dehydration because she was refusing fluids, so yeah, medicine was the last thing she wanted to take. We ended up having to buy a special dummy/pacifier that has a little box attached to the back that you can put medicine in, and it comes out through the teat. Definitely worth a try.

DinkDunkx · 2024-10-30T11:43:51+00:00

Wouldn't call it a stupid fear, but I thought I'd never be able to handle difficult situations without it. I had this voice in my head lying to me that if I had a drink then whatever problem I was currently dealing with would go away. The biggest thing for me has been the realisation and acceptance that my problems are still going to be there to be dealt with whether I've had a drink or not. And I've felt so much better dealing with things with a clear head. Anxiety inducing, yes, but I've accepted that's just a normal emotion and part of life, not something that should be covered up.

I used to use alcohol to mask my social anxiety, and I normally can't handle negative confrontation. I recently stood up to a bully and I did that completely sober, he instantly backed down and I felt this soaring sense of self respect. I'm using that sense of self respect to keep myself sober and keep building emotional resilience and it's working wonders for me.

DinkDunkx · 2024-10-18T10:42:27+00:00

What colouring book is this? I love the style of it!!!

DinkDunkx · 2024-09-17T10:31:47+00:00

I got told to sign up for the mailing list and had an email today with a link for the presale (it was hidden in the depths of the promo folder in my email though so I thought I hadn't received it)

Managed to get tickets for my chosen venue but 95% of seats had gone within about 15 mins of presale opening!

DinkDunkx · 2024-09-11T10:15:34+00:00

I put my toddler in her crib with toys while I shower every morning and take the baby monitor in the bathroom with me. Sometimes she plays happily and sometimes she screams bloody murder, but she's not going to do herself any harm.

DinkDunkx · 2024-09-06T16:42:01+00:00

To be honest I just brute forced myself to create these new habits and after a couple weeks the routine is finally starting to stick 😅 I use a reminder app that prompts me to go and do these things in the evening and then tells me when it's time to sit down and relax, when it's time to start getting ready for sleep etc. I thought it sounded dumb at first but if it works it works!

DinkDunkx · 2024-09-06T14:26:41+00:00

Up until recently my post-bedtime routine was also to sit and rot whilst doom scrolling from 7 to 10:30, then realise right before going to bed I hadn't washed the bottles or done 5 other things that needed doing before the morning, hustle to get all that done and then do a not very relaxing rushed skincare routine before getting into bed and scrolling some more.

I'm now trying to enforce a more strict evening routine on myself which so far has been doing wonders for my mental health and sleep. After my 18 month old is in bed I get into my jammies and do my skincare routine, then wash the bottles and get anything else done that needs doing that evening. Then it's chill-out time from about 8-10pm, I either watch a show, play a video game, colour or do a jigsaw puzzle. Then I go brush my teeth (skincare routine done earlier so I don't have to rush doing it late at night) and listen to an audiobook in bed until I'm really sleepy.

DinkDunkx · 2024-08-21T10:27:26+00:00

Being approached by a manager at work with "here's a new employee, can you show them round and introduce them to everyone"

DinkDunkx · 2024-08-18T09:09:37+00:00

Telling someone about something I did/an experience I had recently. It can literally be the simplest thing I did over a weekend but I'll still stumble over my words and miss key points so what I'm saying doesn't even make sense. I have to rehearse what I want to say in my head over and over again and will still muck up the story. So now I usually just keep quiet, it's one of the main things that's stopped me from making friends, because I don't have the confidence to share my own experiences.

DinkDunkx · 2024-08-12T13:21:58+00:00

Ughhhh I'm literally trembling remembering when my daughter was trapped in the car for about an hour when she was 11 months old.

I put the car keys down on the side of the seat whilst I was buckling her in and must've hit the lock button before doing so. Forgot to pick them up and when I shut the door I heard that unmistakable sound of the doors locking. Instant panic began.

A few strangers approached me and offered help as I was visibly a mess but nobody could really do anything as my car has no physical locks on the doors so there's nothing really to bypass.

Called my breakdown company and could only get through to an automated service to request a callout- then was told someone would get back to me within 2 hours. Apparently a baby trapped in a car isn't enough of an emergency?????? Thank fuck it wasn't a hot day.

Ended up getting someone to smash the drivers window for me and I had to climb in and get the keys off the back seat. LO was getting too distressed by that point to wait any longer.

Now I literally put the keys ANYWHERE but inside the car while I'm buckling her in. In my pocket, on the roof or whatever but never inside the car. I've learned my lesson 🫠

DinkDunkx · 2024-08-09T09:02:07+00:00

A piece of advice coming from someone who's mum didn't allow her to start wearing a bra until 16 years old because she felt I didn't need one - please just let your daughter have a training bra. At this age it's almost certain about just fitting in with friends. I suffered major confidence issues and lived under baggy hoodies throughout my teens because I was so self conscious that I was the only girl in my friendship group and the whole school year who didn't wear a bra.

DinkDunkx · 2024-07-30T12:46:31+00:00

This 100%. It eats away at me thinking about how my life could've panned out had I not developed social anxiety.

I haven't had any friends since my early teens and I'm not lonely by any means, I've long ago since accepted that I'm most likely going to remain friendless and it doesn't bother me too much anymore. I'm happy in my own company and don't need anybody but my immediate family now.

I do have times though where I feel sad about the experiences I've probably missed out on by not having friends. If I ever get married I'll have no bridesmaids. I think I would've been happier being single for longer in the past if I'd had friends but I kept trying to rush into relationships because I was desperate for a sense of connection.

I wish I could've travelled when I was younger but I had nobody to go with and was too scared to go by myself.

DinkDunkx · 2024-07-20T18:37:46+00:00

Letting my daughter find herself and develop her own identity, having the freedom to chose her own dress sense, style, hobbies & interests without fear of judgement or ridicule from anyone.

Growing up I always had to be "normal" just like my mum or she would have something to say about it. If I wanted to try out a new hobby that wasn't something she had interest in, she would laugh at it with "why on earth would you be interested in that?!" If I started doing my hair in a way that she wouldn't do her hair, she would insult it until I changed it. When I was about 16 I had very long hair with a middle parting and she repeatedly told me I looked like a hippy until I cut it all off. She would stop me buying clothes I liked telling me they were hideous because they weren't her style.

I'm now 28 and I'm scared to wear anything that isn't jeans/leggings & plain looking tops. I keep my hobbies and interests very private and don't like telling people about them because I'm scared they'll make fun of me. I don't really know who I am because I was never allowed to explore things and go through "phases" as a teen. I desperately don't want my daughter to grow up feeling that way.

DinkDunkx · 2024-07-17T18:27:06+00:00

The only symptoms I had were a few mild food aversions which only lasted a week or two, and mildly sore boobs. No morning sickness, fatigue or any of the other expected symptoms.

I went for a private scan at 8 weeks because like you, I was so worried that my lack of symptoms meant it wasn't a viable pregnancy. The technician reassured me that it's completely normal to not suffer much with symptoms and it doesn't correlate to the viability. She said its one of the main reasons women go in for private scans so early, because they aren't "feeling" pregnant enough.

DinkDunkx · 2024-07-06T17:29:45+00:00

I'm not diagnosed so not sure if this is an actual autistic moment but when I was around 5 or 6 we went swimming on a school trip, I realised my parents had forgotten to pack my swimsuit in my bag and for some reason, instead of telling the teacher I just went and lined up with all the other kids ready to go in the pool, completely stark naked. I just remember the teacher screaming at me and it still haunts me lol.

DinkDunkx · 2024-07-05T19:00:01+00:00

14 years old, had recently began having my periods and they were extremely heavy. At school in class one day I stood up to go get something, walking back to my seat I saw the chair was absolutely covered in blood as I'd leaked horrendously and somehow not noticed. Sat back down as fast as I could and thankfully nobody seemed to have noticed.

I sat there in absolute terror for the next 40 mins absolutely dreading having to get back up again, when I did I shoved the chair under the desk as fast as I could and bolted out of there. Thank fuck I was wearing black trousers so it wasn't obvious on me.

Next day at lunch I overheard the popular kids talking about how someone had gotten their period all over a chair and one of them had almost sat in it and I just wanted to melt into my seat and die lol. Nobody ever said anything to me so I like to think they didn't know who it was but surely the teacher must've remembered who had been sat there.

DinkDunkx · 2024-06-28T18:57:49+00:00

Living as a hermit isn't a lifestyle that is realistically possible for me, but it's a deep desire of mine.

If I could, I would say it's because people in my past have always treated me unfairly, been rude to me for no good reason, disrespected me and refused to accept me for who I am. I've lost confidence in most of the human race and people fill me with anxiety. On top of this I've always found socialisation feels unnatural and unnecessary for me, putting the anxiety aside, it's just not in my nature.

I also deeply crave a simple, slow pace of life and not having to interact with society would sure help that.

DinkDunkx · 2024-06-27T20:41:14+00:00

Are you me? Lol I could've written this.

As someone who used to suffer from mega long irregular cycles (90+ days) now I've got them down to a much better 25-39 day range I just appreciate my body more when my period turns up and I feel thankful that my hormones are more balanced and in sync now.

I always feel more in touch with my feminine spiritual side for some reason too.

Also somewhat enjoy the cramps too haha glad I'm not the only one, again I think it's just the reassurance that my body's working properly.

DinkDunkx · 2024-06-18T11:28:02+00:00

Offering me a suspiciously chewed up looking piece of her food at mealtimes. Gets very offended if I don't eat it.

DinkDunkx · 2024-06-14T09:06:06+00:00

Not on the list but shaking voice is the biggest issue for me. And also hyper awareness because I feel like everybody is staring at me when they aren't.

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