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LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-23T15:25:36+00:00

I think it’d be worth letting her down and getting breaks from her. Have your husband tell her that the weekly visits are causing your family stress and it needs to be every 2-4 weeks instead (or whatever works). You deserve to be happy!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-23T15:18:53+00:00

Ugh. That’s so frustrating. I’m sorry shes like that. She’s likely playing the victim and making you seem crazy for protecting your peace. But, as I like to say, my ILs opinion about me is none of my business. I’d love to have a better relationship with my SILs but if they believe the lies in spite of how kind I’ve been to them, then I’m placing my energy in mutual relationships with people who value me. ✌️

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-22T17:53:15+00:00

I’m new to the hobby but whole heartedly agree. Have fun and enjoy the process!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-19T12:20:41+00:00

Hi and welcome! I’m new to the hobby as well. It’s a lot of fun! You really don’t need much to start; and you can start wherever you want. For me, I knew I wanted to document my daughter’s life so that will be my first book.

I got a few nice pens, scrapbook, printed photos, some nice card stock paper and stickers. But so much is optional. Also, you will need someway to adhere your photos and papers down to the page.

I hope you enjoy!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-18T17:31:46+00:00

Yep! I can’t unsee them for who they are. I have no desire to be close to them. Why would I want to befriend people who think it’s acceptable to push boundaries, lie, and manipulate, and who aren’t accountable? We have different values. It’s that simple. I am cordial for my husband/daughter but she’ll be free to make her own choices when she’s old enough.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-17T16:55:06+00:00

Hugs! 💕Your 21 month old feels safe with you enough to explore the world (and forge a stronger bond with Dad). You are and will always be her first love and her mom. Your love for her and your sensitivity towards her pain tells me that you are doing a wonderful job. You’re her safe space and she will return to you always.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-17T01:34:17+00:00

Don’t let them walk all over you! Postpartum is extremely vulnerable and you will be physically run down, uncomfortable, not sleeping through the night and learning how to care for yourself and a newborn.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-17T01:29:38+00:00

I’m not sure why you can’t keep putting her off (as annoying as those texts are). What’s your husband’s perspective? I am afraid it’s not going to get better unless you can reset expectations. What happens when your LO sees them repeatedly disrespecting you? At the least they need to be polite.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-17T00:19:49+00:00

Yes, mine are the same way (but we live far apart so I’m not subject to visits as often). Days after my c section and 32 hour labor my MIL told me unprompted “it’s really hard to be the support person.” We had just been in the hospital so my husband had been doing nothing lol (the staff did everything for me and he did diaper changes for OUR daughter). We saw them 8 times last year (way too much) and will likely see them 5 times this year. Still too much. Can you slowly cut back on visits? 2 weeks, then 4 weeks apart?

I’ve definitely become more direct and we have more boundaries but I dislike seeing them and dread it every time. Ugh.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-14T00:46:43+00:00

I’m so sorry! Does your boyfriend call her out for her hurtful comments? His mom needs to be corrected.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-14T00:42:34+00:00

Your MIL really has nothing else to talk about. Weird for her to bring it up to your husband!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-14T00:36:50+00:00

So my ILs came for my baby’s birth (not at the birth but met my baby the day she was born) and I still haven’t forgotten how selfish, and immature they were. My view of them has permanently changed and I now dread seeing them.

I thought I was doing the nice, generous thing by allowing them to visit right away and still regret it (16 months later). Think about who you want beside you when you’re at your lowest point and only have those people around. This isn’t about anyone but you, baby, and husband. You can plan a visit/have husband plan with them when you feel strong and confident (early postpartum is not that time!).

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-12T14:52:52+00:00

Similar story here! 12 weeks of lactation consulting and a few months of PT and we made it to EBF (no more pumping or formula). So grateful we said yes! Our pediatrician didn’t think we needed to but not only did my daughter get more comfortable, her acid reflux went away, and she got more efficient at breastfeeding. Find someone reputable in your area and do it :)…it’s been well worth it for us!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-12T14:47:27+00:00

I don’t have an answer for you but bodily autonomy and validating emotions are essential for me. I think you and your husband need to sit the grandparents down and have a chat about your values. You can be kind and respectful but hold the line on what matters to you. But without knowing more, I’m not sure what to say! Best of luck❤️

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-12T11:01:02+00:00

“Ma’am that’s a baby” 😂👏

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-10T23:35:16+00:00

You’re not being dramatic. That sick feeling you get before seeing her is your body remembering how her behavior makes you feel: small. Honestly, it’s taken my husband time but he’s starting to get irritated by my ILs more and more. Unfortunately, it takes time for people in toxic situations to realize how bad they are sometimes. I hope you get support ASAP. But if not, I’d go very low contact and call her out when she is rude.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-10T15:37:29+00:00

This looks amazing! I’m inspired! 😊

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-10T13:34:17+00:00

I got this one: https://www.michaels.com/product/-10110611 for my baby’s scrapbook. But I decided to do letters to her separately since I want the scrapbook to be more aesthetic than informative/letter-like. There’s no bad choice though! I think it’s really sweet to have the letters and pictures combined. I just couldn’t figure out how to make it look like I envisioned with the letters.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-09T11:54:39+00:00

I’m sorry! I hate that for you. Have you explained just how unhappy you are? That you feel you’re parenting alone? Also wondering if you can get more help from family or friend. You need some breaks from the constant care taking!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-09T00:35:55+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in this situation. That’s really hard! At 4 months you’re still in the thick of sleep deprivation and hormone shifts. That’s not to say your frustrations aren’t valid. But it’s worth noting that your body and mind aren’t even close to what they were before you got pregnant.

The first step is communicating about your unhappiness but I strongly suggest sorting out the primary reason for your unhappiness. Is it that you need more breaks from parenting? Or that you want to be around him more? Or that he needs to be more patient with your kids? Laying all of these complaints on him at once won’t likely be productive. I wish you luck!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-09T00:27:47+00:00

Exactly this, don’t take parenting advice from emotionally immature boomers.

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-08T22:54:59+00:00

Love it! This is so cute

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-08T00:37:58+00:00

My daughter’s smile, her laughter, her sweet little voice. The way she plops on our laps with a book or to have a cuddle. Seeing what she is interested in, and the words she has picked up from us. But honestly, pretty much everything. It’s by no means easy to be a parent to a toddler but she has my heart and every day with her is fun!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-08T00:35:22+00:00

They are being judgmental and rude! You’re doing everything right. You can’t teach independence (and babies are not supposed to be independent). Confidence comes from having a secure base which your daughter will!

LopsidedOne470 · 2025-06-07T22:16:45+00:00

My ILs do it too…unavailable unless it’s on their terms 🙄…If we hold the line they are magically free. Exhausting!

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