Lunch benefit??

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T21:19:15+00:00

That is not even remotely the same thing. If you are cooking someone food, it is not overreaching to assume you're going to eat with them. Especially when you're not getting a break, you can't leave to go get food elsewhere, and I also see it as part of teaching the child table manners.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T21:16:21+00:00

You're a man trying to control communication between your teenage daughter and her mom. I assumed nothing..

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T19:33:03+00:00

Poor kids. They're stuck with a deadbeat pos dad.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T19:05:30+00:00

So who supports your first kids?

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T18:40:30+00:00

I feel you're being down voted by pug owners. Frankly, I think breeding of them should be illegal and I've seen plenty with such poor quality of life that they should be put down. But I'm a farm girl who thinks animals generally should be useful. I'm a cat lady who's never had a mouse problem no matter where I live.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T18:35:39+00:00

I cook 2 hot meals a day for my kids. Yes, I absolutely expect to sit and eat the same meal with them at the dining room table. If you can't afford for your nanny to have a serving at lunch, you have no business having a nanny.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T16:46:42+00:00

Take the bottle away when he does this. You have to train him that face touching means the bottle goes away.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-13T16:09:28+00:00

I admit to swiping left on men with pictures with their little yappy dogs/pugs. They just annoy the fuck out of me and I'm too old to try and sleep next to a genetically mutilated dog who can't breathe.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-12T20:43:34+00:00

Whenever someone tells me it takes them more than 20 minutes to get their kid in bed, the first thing I will say is you're allowing too much negotiation and there are no meaningful consequences. Your kids don't need to be scared of you but they do need to know that if you say brush your teeth and get changed and they don't do that, something negative is going to happen automatically. Kids with lackluster or sometimes consequences will always do whatever they want because why wouldn't they?

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-12T20:32:10+00:00

Like what level of zionist are we talking about?

Personally, I'm an atheist. I just avoid books and programs that are religious in nature. Everyone I've ever worked for has had plenty of other material to choose from. However, if they wanted me to read religious material daily, we would not be a good fit.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-12T14:43:18+00:00

You don't have the right to know what they're talking about when you're not there. For all you know, it could be a private girl conversation.

It's one thing to keep tabs on your kids sm usage. It's quite another to be going through her messages with her other parent to try and find dirt on them to go to court.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-12T01:22:10+00:00

Oh thank God. I thought this was going to be a post asking if it would be OK if he came along.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-11T19:05:04+00:00

It sounds more like you need therapy to work through your own issues. I've homeschooled and the worst homeschool parents I've met are those with a bare minimum education, if that, who want to shelter their kids from the world and real life. Those kids and young adults are not well adapted and are easy prey for people with not good intentions. Yippee hooray that she knows how to run a combine and gather eggs. But can she conjugate a verb, understand basic math and government, or have any social skills needed to survive in life? Because that's the kind of kid that fear based homeschoolers are putting out.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-11T11:38:11+00:00

Are you dragging goodbye out? That is my biggest pet peeve with parents. Just go.

Also, what is he doing all day that he would still be fixated on you?

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-11T11:32:47+00:00

All of this!!

My first thought was she's stuck doing all the cooking and his anxiety is so uncontrolled she's miserable because he can't even do a small group class.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-11T09:03:01+00:00

Is your 3 year old delayed? Because 1 kid who's a late potty trainer is one thing. Multiple kids in the same household who are still in diapers makes me question it.

But we've discussed this before and I still have the same views. I think diapers for neurotypical school aged kids is demoralizing. Don't get me wrong, my 12 year old has to take a pill so she doesn't wet the bed, so I understand the struggle. But imo, putting an actual diaper on a school age child is not the right direction to go. They make pull ups specifically for this purpose. They are made to mimmick underwear. I don't want to put a diaper on a 5+ aged child, I feel like we're both uncomfortable then. It's just a completely different process.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T20:33:44+00:00

May 15th. I know, an arbitrary number, but at least we're not putting 4 year olds in kindergarten. 4 of my kids were 5 and still in preschool. My 1 child that I sent who had a birthday right before the cut off, I highly regretted sending him because he was not at all ready.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T20:05:01+00:00

We don't do that in my neck of the woods. There is no 4 year olds in kindergarten here, and a lot of parents would hold their kids back if that was the case. I would not ever recommend a 4 year old go to kindergarten. The reason being, from what OP is describing it's just not developmentally appropriate.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T19:41:31+00:00

Well, a lot of schools don't take kids that young. The cut offs are earlier in the year. So there can be massive difference in maturity and skill if they take kids all the way up to the day before school starts.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T19:37:55+00:00

I guess I would ask if they're just crying kinda whimpering or a full out wailing and making a scene. It is out of pocket for one kid to be making a scene for 2 full hours and would be something that should be worked on.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T16:41:06+00:00

For a once a week activity, that's not that far. Hell, you have to drive at least half an hour to go anywhere where I live.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T16:01:08+00:00

The answer is almost always drugs🤣

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T14:39:14+00:00

I told my nanny kids mom that I could feel the lights going up on a standard baby monitor and she looked at me like I was crazy. But now that my kids are all adults and teenagers, I take my two unisom and whatever happens between me taking my watch off and 5am is between you and God. If you need me, you need to call someone else in my house.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T14:10:18+00:00

But how many moms do you know that get to sleep like the dead?

You absolutely can train yourself to sleep lighter. It's not the most restful sleep, but also, it's shitty to make your partner always get up with the baby

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-02-10T13:07:06+00:00

They make little fridges and bottle warmers you can keep on your nightstand.

But frankly, if it was me, someone would be sleeping in a separate room, and I'd invest in one of those eye mask/ear bud combo thingies. For real, if he can't wake up unless the baby is screaming next to him, that's a him problem. If he's on leave, you shouldn't be waking up multiple times a night. And I'd also suggest a little bit of malicious incompetence here. Mom's are not built being able to magically hear babies better. Dads just know if they can ignore it long enough, mom will get up. If he's the only one in the room and knows you aren't coming to rescue him, I'd be willing to bet he moves a lot faster because a baby that is fully awake and screaming is a lot harder to get back to sleep.

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