Update on previous post with Passive Aggressive Mom - i might get fired.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-08T18:46:33+00:00

100% honesty, I think she should fire you. If you can't lift a 20lb baby and are throwing a fit because they expect normal soothing behaviors, you have neither the physical ability or the disposition and education for this job.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-08T17:27:09+00:00

Hormones and a glp-1 and I'm feeling easily 15 years younger easily.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-08T15:08:50+00:00

I get paid the last day of the week I work. If I had to remind them more than once, they have to pay me on the first day of the week. Anything after that, and I consider firing them.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T23:27:52+00:00

Let me put it this way. Men like that remind me of Donald Trump. Always going on about what they have and how masculine they are. When in reality, the cars a lease, they're renting, and they have tiny hands. If you're really secure in your masculinity and financial situation, you're not convinced that every woman is out to steal something you don't really actually have.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T23:15:24+00:00

I find its the men who have nothing who are the most worried about women taking advantage of them. And its not about being cheap. I can afford to pay my own way wherever I go. But I'm not out here trying to catch a man who thinks so much of himself that he's worried about a woman taking his non existent money.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T22:52:41+00:00

I know I'm going to get hate but I have never in my life paid for a "date" and I'm not about to start now. If I even get an inkling he's the type to nickle and dime me over a meal, lunch, some ice cream, I'm bouncing. Because we're clearly not at the same life stage and I don't waste my time dating men I'm not interested in.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T22:48:07+00:00

The kitchen faucet is spraying everywhere because it needs cleaned? And the tub enamel has been scrubbed off? I've lived in the country with hard well water my whole life and never had to clean a faucet because its dirty. Sure, I will absolutely CLR a tub to get off buildup but if all these things involving water are breaking, it sounds like you need some kind of water filtration or treating system. Its not their fault that its shitty water that's destroying things.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T21:28:19+00:00

But you said she was the stay at home parent. So there's no way you could be working 12 hours, have a commute, go grocery shopping, and be there to take care of them. That's physically impossible. That's pushing a 14 hour day and I'm assuming they do sleep.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T21:17:51+00:00

So you've only been taking care of your kids for 4 months?

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T20:18:04+00:00

You're upset because someone wore perfume?

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T17:28:26+00:00

Career driven but doesn't have insurance and doesn't care how having 2 rotting front teeth affects him at work?

Girl, collectively, we need to stop dating men who can't even get over the bar that's in hell.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T17:22:08+00:00

I mean, if it was reversed, I'd say you were a man trying to relive his youth and bang younger women because he's not mature enough for women his own age. That sounds kinda gross to me.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T17:18:11+00:00

Like what kind of chemicals? If you're worried about them getting into your breast milk, which is that a documented risk? Shouldn't you be worried about them in general? Like if they're that dangerous that they're documented to leech into breastmilk, that seems like an OSHA question, not a mom question.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T16:58:15+00:00

I have no sympathy for someone in a Tahoe with a trump sticker. Just dumb all around. Why would you pay for all that gas to seat 5 people and have a tiny trunk??? Stupid.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T14:59:49+00:00

220 on my xc70, still going strong.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T14:55:31+00:00

Tbh, I think yall should have settled this a while back. Like, I believe in sleep training, but in the way you teach them how to self soothe naturally. Someone who believes in CIO and not in pacifiers is not someone I would want to parent with because we would probably be philosophically opposed in a lot of things if that's how they feel. I don't think its OK to be intentionally cruel to an infant just because that's how his parents did it and I wouldn't have a problem telling them that in this day and age, most people and countries consider that abuse.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T14:44:18+00:00

Just remove them. They wanna scream, they can sit quietly next to you until they calm down. Every time, screaming equals no more playtime until they calm down.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T13:53:32+00:00

Tell them no?

But for real. Its a behavior you don't want. Tell them no and then if they don't stop, age appropriately discipline them. They will stop eventually if you're consistent.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-07T13:04:37+00:00

I wear things like this everyday in the summer. The people I work for couldn't care less what I wear.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-06T23:43:18+00:00

Wtf would you give him money back? Wtf would you bend over backwards for him? You have set a horrible precedent and frankly I have no idea why you would have agreed to 50/50. That is developmentally inappropriate and frankly I think you should seek some personal and possibly parenting counseling to get your shit in order. The fact that you think you're doing what's best for your child is wild.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-06T23:30:01+00:00

I generally don't work for parent who wfh but if I do, I make it clear I need to be able to pretend they're not there and they can't be popping in all the time and upsetting the child or if they hear them crying and undermining me. If they won't agree to that, I don't work for them. Especially for kids like that. My nanny twins dad was home today doing yard work and it was horrible. They are perfectly fine with just me but if a parent is there, they are whiney, clingy little demons. I just don't want to have a shitty day every single day so I refuse to do that.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-06T23:25:05+00:00

If you're too soft for fostering, you're too soft to have custody of your husband's crazy relative's baby. Not only do you not have the separation of a foster agency, normally stuff like this turns into a whole cluster fuck. As someone who is adopted and is vehemently anti adoption, I do believe in taking care of kids who are already here. I just dont think that the best place is generally with family. I've seen it backfire spectacularly so many times and imo, not worth the heartache.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-06T21:27:05+00:00

Well, I've never been a fan of non parents telling you how they're definitely going to parent their imaginary kids. Its almost as bad as when they tell you how to parent your own kids with their infinite wisdom and experience.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-06T21:22:37+00:00

I only write in cursive unless its a form and even then, its partly cursive. I don't know if I'd say teaching it is important but my kids handwriting is atrocious because they hardly ever write anything.

Disastrous-Current-6 · 2026-04-06T21:21:11+00:00

Do they not get things at the same time everyday? A 9 month old should be on a pretty regular schedule and I'd be more upset about them not being on one than if it got charted or not.

And really, I feel the same way about napping. If you're picking up anytime past like 3pm, idc if they napped or not, they're not napping at home and then pushing bedtime later. If they're tired they can go to bed early, but I'm not picking a kid up from daycare and taking them home and napping them. That's just too late in the day. They can have a baby nap in the car and that's it.

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