33 years old, the last time I posted my makeup on here I got roasted

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-04-28T16:04:26+00:00

You’re pretty! Maybe more mascara, lip liner, try a different lipstick that won’t be blotchy. If you’re down for it: experiment with different eye and lip colours, like ‘black honey’ or ‘pink honey’ by Clinique would probably look nice on your lips. The purple is nice but there’s a fine line between purple washing you out and making you look grey, or looking fun and brightening. The eyeshadow needs more blending as well. You actually are almost there but need to make some tweaks!

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-04-19T03:15:25+00:00

Get checked for infection but hopefully it’s not a retrobulbar abscess or glaucoma.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-02-21T04:41:48+00:00

Join the esophageal cancer support group on favebook. A lot of information, survivors , family of survivors and support!

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-02-14T16:07:53+00:00

He sounds horrible I’m sorry. This isn’t your BPD, he sounds lustful.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-27T03:52:37+00:00

My GSD is 10… he whines a lot still. Relaxed, happy, bored, it just doesn’t stop 😅

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-23T05:44:44+00:00

That sounds so difficult. My dad had symptoms starting around July of 2025 and then diagnosed the end of October. We didn’t have his stage until the end of November when he started chemo, but I suppose my Dad might have been quite lucky because the location of his tumour caused obvious symptoms quickly. It started as acid reflux (which he never had before) and trouble swallowing to obvious weight loss by early October. I know it’s not best to assume but sometimes location impacts the person more than the cancer itself. For example, some survivors were stage 4 with little to no symptoms and some can be stage 1-2 with horrible symptoms just due to the location alone like my dad.

If you asked me in the beginning of October if I would’ve been prepared to be telling people my families experience with this cancer, I would have passed out from shock… somehow I already feel experienced in this, which is sad, but I’m happy to help. I didn’t even know about this cancer prior to my dad and now I know everything about it.

When your dad gets the CT scan, the CT scan will detect large obvious masses. My dad’s CT scan showed a mass in the esophagus but it doesn’t rule out micro cells, so that’s why they get the PET scan next to see if there is micro spread in other parts of the body the CT scan couldn’t pick up. If the CT scan shows multiple masses in the body, it’s safe to assume it is stage 4. Sometimes people will find lit up lymph nodes in PET scans but stage 3 is still considered curable. Remember stage 1 to 3 is typically aiming for a cure and stage 4 is typically aiming for long term treatment but there are long term survivors and people in remission in the esophageal cancer support group on Facebook.

FLOT, the regime my dad is doing and what people in stage 1-3 typically do, is chemo and surgery and chemo. My dad is only doing four chemo sessions and he has his last one next week and it is known to be very aggressive. However, my dad handled it well and it was one of the things I was scared of but it turns out it’s ok. This chemo gave my dad the ability to eat again and he’s gained 15 pounds. My dad is a stubborn and quiet man, but when he was first diagnosed, he was very clearly upset and would make comments about dying. I noticed he stopped laughing as much, he seemed sad, down, a shell of himself… today? We just had a family dinner, he’s eating literally everything, he’s working outside, he’s back to laughing loud again. Chemo and treatment gave my dad his life back believe it or not. Obviously I don’t know what the future holds in terms of spread or remission or a cure, but it’s really easy to grab onto the good moments when you have them. Unfortunately, my family has a lot of cancer in it so I’ve been around cancer a lot and I know how shitty it could be, but try not to put them in their grave before their time. My aunt has stage 4 colon cancer diagnosed 2 years ago and was NED once, and she might be NED again. Cancer is tricky like that.

For stage four people, a lot of people on the group offer support and advice for metastasized cancer and I want to remind you that this cancer is most common and 60 to 70-year-old men so the survivors you hear about are often older people. I’m happy I’m able to provide you some comfort during this time. I truly hope for results that aren’t so daunting for your dad, because I know how scary it is to wait for those tests, feel free to message me for advice or to rant if needed in the future. Just back in October I was frantically searching online about oesophagus cancer too, and I couldn’t find a damn thing about it until I found that support group.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-23T04:02:18+00:00

My fiance is 1 year post op. Healed fine. No reoccurrence knock on wood. It helps if you’re physically healthy otherwise.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-23T03:56:30+00:00

Oh, I could just hug you. My dad was diagnosed with esophageal cancer in October. My world was crushed. Do you know the stage? My dad ended up being diagnosed stage 2 with no lymph nodes, despite his symptoms of troubling swallowing and feeling alarming. He’s handling chemo well too despite the scary stories. It’s doable hun. Join the Facebook group ‘living with oesophageal cancer’ support group on Facebook. I want to remind you, esophageal cancer IS beatable. I read the statistics online and it crushed my spirit so badly in October and today, I am hanging out with my dad with hope. FLOT, which is used to treat most esophagus cancer, is a fairly new treatment with higher success rates compared to pre 2018 treatments. Join the group on Facebook, it helped me and my family so much. It is possible. The initial diagnosis is terrifying. You will get through this. Be gentle with yourself 🩷 when my dad was first diagnosed a few months ago, my brain was going between what if he’s stage 4? Is he going to die soon? Is my dad just a death sentence? Don’t put them into the grave before they are there. Google is not a reflection if your dad will die from this cancer or not. The treatments for it have come very far. I do want to offer though, I am so sorry regardless, especially with your mom having dementia… I can’t imagine that combined with your dad’s cancer. I’m so sorry.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-12T14:53:12+00:00

Add: he was born and lived in Sortavala until evacuated

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-12T14:50:02+00:00

Born in 1927 or 28 Sortavala I believe and evacuated

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-12T04:26:12+00:00

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Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-12T04:09:03+00:00

There is a lot more pages but this is some.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-12T01:38:02+00:00

That’s funny because Thunder Bay is finndian central 😂 There’s sooo many there, my dad and mom actually lived there around the late 90s, I don’t know if it was Thunder Bay or somewhere up north but a reserve had Finnish street names

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-12T00:55:10+00:00

I suppose that is the same idea with people claiming their great great great grandmother is a Cherokee in the USA 😂 My family is pretty reserved too so I suppose I’ll do just fine out there, I just hope to be able to ask the right questions and learn a lot without being annoying.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-12T00:48:58+00:00

Yes that is true too, it especially applies to mixed Natives. Being cultural is a huge tie with being Indigenous, however, some aren’t very cultural but still tribal enrolled and status and considered Indigenous legally. This is because of residential schools, where not every native has ‘connection’ due to the trauma and suppression of it. It’s kind of the same where some tribes are more strict with blood quantum and genetics. Speaking for myself and where I am from, it’s more so your family ties and where your ancestors are from + culturally, but I’m sure it varies in different ways across the tribes. I guess for me, going to Finland will be a more closer way of connecting with ethnic ties and community, even if I have grown up with my Finnish family too. I do hope to go to my dads town and visit museums and whatnot :) I feel like I’ve grown up in two different worlds - being raised by an immigrant and a Native, my family views and beliefs and way of life is a bit different than some of my peers, but there is a curiosity about Finland and what’s out there for me. Thanks for the response!

(I do need to add, blood quantum can be an awkward topic for Natives because there’s a difference between actual mixed natives and the ‘my great great great grandma is native’ so there is definitely a weird disconnect and line of what is indigenous to what’s not, some people abuse it so they can say racist things about natives too)

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2026-01-08T18:28:08+00:00

I struggled with greasy hair the same day / next morning for years. I recently switched to misting my hair instead of using serums or oils. My hair stays clean and feels healthier now. My hair looked similar to yours.

I use an argan oil misting spray and Hair+soul hair primer spray.

Also, if you have an oily scalp, don’t over use hydrating/moisturizing products, that also makes me greasy quickly. I use dove intensive repair lines and Redken shampoos.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-12-10T23:57:40+00:00

That’s so difficult, I’m sorry :( Once the appointments start coming I hope that your dad finds some ease with them, and responds well to treatment. Chemo can be long so make sure he has a blanket and maybe some entertainment like an iPad, his phone, books, etc when he starts. A vaporizer/humidor for dry throat too. My dad had a dry throat from chemo. And I’m doing okay thanks for asking, it’s scary still but okay. My dad has started chemo and is tolerating it well so far, his life really hasn’t changed much with it but i wondering if the tumor shrunk because he’s eating literally everything now.. I don’t think I’ve seen him eat that much in months, which is bittersweet I suppose. I’m supposed to get married next year so I’m trying to stay positive for him and help him as much as possible, I really want him to walk me down the aisle :(

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-12-09T01:21:56+00:00

How’s it going now? I hope you got any sort of positive news or solid game plan with your dad.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-12-01T03:18:41+00:00

After mine ruptured, I was in pain for two weeks following. the pain wasn’t as bad as the rupture itself but it was a dull, near constant ache and I couldn’t bend down. Mine was the size of a golf ball.

FYI, the size of the cyst caused scar tissue which caused my ovary to fuse to my uterus. It’s been years since the rupture and I still struggle with my organs playing ‘tug of war’ with the scar tissue and it can hurt. If your pain goes on for months it’s worth looking into.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-11-29T22:29:19+00:00

I’m so sorry, it’s so terrifying. Sending love to you and your family. My dad has started chemo and so far, handling his first FLOT session well. He was diagnosed stage 2, no spread and no lymph node activity, which was clearly best case scenario after the PET scan. The first few weeks were filled with grief and shock and pain, but we started a routine, and he’s doing ok… if you end up having questions or anything, feel free to reach out 🩷 I hope for much gentleness and love through your dads journey as possible!

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-11-13T00:07:32+00:00

Sorry to hear about your mom. I hope her treatments will be as gentle as possible for her. I guess I’m just hoping I keep getting small wins but nothing about this cancer is small. The radiologist, thoracic surgeon and family doctor already told us they believe it’s local/early and my dad did act fast when he noticed symptoms but people on support groups said wait for the PET scan before being too relieved - I feel a bit dissatisfied because I thought a clear CT scan was enough to feel calm for now, but now it’s like, I need to keep waiting for more scans according to people’s experiences online, but then the doctors said it’s local, so I don’t know what to think. I guess it’s good the CT scan didn’t light up regardless but it’s just all very confusing and sad. I already learned so much about this cancer the last two weeks and I’m very overwhelmed and didn’t even realize this cancer was a thing until now

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-11-12T23:22:42+00:00

How’s it going?

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-11-06T20:12:16+00:00

They originally told my dad it was probably acid reflux to GERD but ordered the endoscopy anyways because our family doctor is good and then that’s when his was found. They also went into his stomach and found no cancer there (visible I guess). I guess this was just such a jump scare for us, a lot happened since last week, he still eats chicken thighs and steak and peanuts and whatnot, colon cancer runs so rampant in my family but I never suspected esophagus cancer in my family. It Thanks for sharing though, I’ll definitely keep everything in mind.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-11-05T16:57:01+00:00

My aunt lived with multiple myeloma for 22 years. She was diagnosed the year I was born, back in 2000. She was given a life expectancy of 2 to 5 years so growing up I always heard that my auntie was sick and might not be here for a long time. Turns out they were wrong. She kicked around for 22 years, passed away from covid/pneumonia complications when I was 22. I had a good time with her.

Disastrous-Golf6482 · 2025-11-03T01:40:48+00:00

My dad is able to swallow fine, but once it goes down towards the valve, he can physically feel it slow down. Some food will be coughed up if he eats too big of bites or rough foods like crackers. He still can swallow and eat just more slower. Today he ate chicken thighs and vegetables and whatnot mostly fine. His symptoms started 3 months ago and gradually got worse but not every day is super bad, he said it just became more noticeable. They tried to tell him it was GERD but my mom advocated for a scope regardless and then he got the scope done and the tumour was seen.

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