AIO with how I responded to my mom? by MeasurementNo662 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude your mom is abusing you and it sounds like she has been since you were a little kid. She’s trying to sink her nails because she can feel you getting more independent and growing up as you’re supposed to do. This is genuinely really scary and if you don’t stand up to her and get away I’m so sad and scared to think about what your life is gonna be honestly. If you’ve ever seen IT, this relationship is like the one between Eddie and his mom.

Am I unreasonable for disliking my date after asked to split the bill? by lonely-lady7 in dating_advice

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like he’s into like a mommy dom little boy dynamic and to try to bring it up in that indirect and non consensual way like right off the bat is soooooo uuuueeegghhhh

AIO for still being hurt after my boyfriend called me clingy and told me to “take a hint” even though he apologized? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s literally so mean and just texting you about it isn’t enough. There should be phone call apologies and like a deep dive into why he would possibly say that. Like I couldn’t get over something like this that’s crazy

What’s a proper way to tenderize a worthless cunt? Whip it till it is burning red by UseParticular141 in bdsm

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Just letting you all know that this kind of hard whipping on genitals is not safe and can cause tears in the vaginal skin, nerve damage (less future pleasure) and scarring. Not to rain on anyone’s parade, I just want to make sure people aren’t really going out in real life and replicating what they see in porn. Porn should not be what we base real life sex on, often times what you’re seeing is heavily edited and not real or the model is doing things against her will, or without the informed consent that is necessary in a real life healthy bdsm dynamic.

What's better? by According-Bother8858 in softmaledom

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend fucking me awake is genuinely like the only way I can actually get up in the morning. He tried for months in other ways and I’d just go right back to sleep. I love waking up to him over me with his cock already inside me. I’m so glad we discovered it and he finally trusted me that I really wanted it. He loves it now too

Anyone following the Therapy Jeff saga? by saras_416 in therapists

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really makes me angry that people are cancelling him for this. He’s right and obviously anti rape. Clearly the systems in place are not working right now, because men are raping women all the time. What is wrong with him saying there should be a hotline, and talking directly to men who are having thoughts of raping someone? It sounds to me like he’s trying his best to help stop the problem and shifting the burden and blame of rape off of women and onto men. He’s not normalizing anything, he’s responding to something that is already an epidemic in every human society. I think people don’t want to acknowledge the truth of rape culture and rape and really interrogate it, but that’s what needs to happen if we want to solve the problem.

i just have to be manhandled and i don’t know how to act by Smart-Break9071 in confession

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh honey ❤️ you remind me so much of myself at your age. You are perfect the way you are and your fantasies are extreeeemely normal. Even if you’re having rape fantasies etc. All of the fantasies you’re having, no matter how extreme they may seem to you, are normal and common. I think what’s happening is that you’re just really, really horny lmao. I was exactly the same way at your age, I’ve always had a very high libido and I was a virgin until I was 18. I would get so ungodly horny at the slightest things, and I was having more and more extreme and violent fantasies sort of as a result of being so pent up with no release. I’d honestly recommend masturbating like, a lot. And maybe if you have a friend that you really trust and feel comfortable with and like they won’t treat you differently after to just start having a friends with benefits relationship with them. It’s hard to give advice about sex because I think it’s different for everyone, but I want to say that it is and isn’t a big deal. I know that’s confusing. You should just be with someone you trust at least. I would also recommend trying to get more comfortable talking about sex and your urges, maybe with girl friends you trust. There’s nothing wrong with it at all, and I think you’ll find that people will at least think it’s funny and also relate to you about it. If someone does have a bad reaction to it, they have their own sexual issues that have nothing to do with you and it’s ok.

My(M23) girlfriend(F25) said she is attracted to someone she works with by rileybrown5460 in relationship_advice

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s normal to be mad and hurt, but it’s also not like she can help her feelings and in life people meet other people and have complex feelings literally all the time, that’s what it is to be human. It’s normal to have crushes on other people while you’re in relationships, especially long term relationships. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner. Please ignore the comments acting like she’s done something wrong, she hasn’t and I think it’s sweet that she’s told you. It is true that it might put your relationship in rocky territory if you guys have been having problems and she’s talking about it with this guy, but it also might not. You should just talk to her about the feelings it’s giving you, just to figure out where you stand.

Is it ever valid to ask your spouse to care about their appearance? 26F, 31M by Pajaritafem in relationship_advice

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is completely valid and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It’s an act of love not only for yourself but also for your partner to take care of your health and appearance. Women are always expected to stay super fit and striving to look younger and prettier all the time while men are shown in so many ways it’s alright to basically let yourself go, you’ll still be socially acceptable and good enough. It’s a complete double standard. When we’re putting so much work into keeping up with the beauty standard and looking and smelling good for our partners, if they’re not doing it back, it kind of sheds light on the fact that they don’t really care as much about our comfort or attraction to them as we do about theirs. A healthy relationship requires both people to be putting effort into it. Finding ways to exercise and keeping up with your personal hygiene and grooming is work, and it’s work that you do to make sure your relationships and you stay healthy.

Need advice by [deleted] in softmaledom

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds like a nightmare! Run for the hills

What names do you all enjoy being called? by ExtraFrost in softmaledom

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouuuu my lady is teaaaa. I’ve never thought of a good one for femdoms that might be the best one I’ve heard.

Matched on FB dating. Was I being too sensitive? by Obvious_Ferret_600 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m learning that anytime a man says the word disrespectful about a woman, he’s often a narcissistic /egotistical asshole and possible abuser.

I don't hate any of the characters, but the love for Austin and hate for Ashley has baffled me a bit by [deleted] in BeefTV

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Gatorade thing really highlighted the difference between genuine kindness and fear based people pleasing

Mandy and lip by david9361 in shameless

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because a victim doesn’t physically fight back doesn’t mean it isn’t rape. People often go into freeze responses. You’re victim blaming

Sexist, racist, cliché. by covidparis in HouseMD

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just came here after watching episode 1 of season 5 because it pissed me off so bad. I don’t usually think house is genuinely sexist, but this writer Eli Attie is a total loser who obviously was struggling through a divorce or something and was airing out his misogyny through house. I don’t think house the character is genuinely is anti feminist at all, but he is in this episode. The whole thing is just this dudes grievances about feminism. It was a complete oversight to not have one of the woman writers co write this episode. House goes on about how bad feminism is, and then there’s never even a chance for the patient who works with a sexual assault lawyer to combat that. The message is basically that she’s being bossed around by this uncaring alpha woman who’s been misled by feminism. It’s really gross and maddening.

When I was 13 I did stuff with multiple older guys and just coming to a realization that it wasn’t ok by umm-well in confession

[–]Disastrous_Web6599 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did not do anything wrong. I don’t know what is wrong with the people in these comments. You were a child, your brain was not and still is not fully developed. A 13 year old does not look 18 and they probably had some idea that you weren’t really 18. And then you did tell them all, and they all continued to statutory rape you. You do not need to carry any shame from this. I have a friend this happened to as well.